How to change themselves, desires and plans to achieve the result

Some of us are perfectly fit into society, all seeking to just hold out. Life passes them bright, rich and interesting. But others think that the world was not created for them. What to do? Where to look for a world in which these people will be happy and comfortable? And whether it is necessary to look for him, perhaps the easier to change what's already there? Or you want to change yourself? About their desires and plans to achieve results described in the article.

Just want to note that the change itself is not always necessary.

For example, your peers spend hours stuck in the "Classmates", or go crazy from Ramstein, and you are much nicer than the old Russian romance?

Your girlfriend all day discussing the potential suitors and look forward to the next disco, and you twitch in the packed hall of the bodies did not pull, you have to backpack, but somewhere in the blue distance?

Of course, you say freak (at best), behind you whispering, and in general, in this society, you do not take, because you - a white crow.

You can, of course, change, do a mohawk on his head, pierce his navel to his environment in the eyes up a notch. And you can change the environment. Believe me, once you find like-minded people, all at once will fall into place.

How to change themselves

It is quite another thing, if you are the owner of such "great" traits like indecision, sverhmernaya doubtful mistrust, any phobia, if you have a bunch of unnecessary complexes that prevent a normal life, if you finished a skeptic or a fatalist, if there are a dozen more "if" turning your life into something gray and amorphous.

Here to change something in yourself, as they say, God himself commanded.

Someone will think: "It's easy to say, to change! What change, if it does not change? In dreams everything is always clear and simple, and actually start to try, for example, to develop courage, and his knees were shaking. "

The strength of desire

It all depends on the strength of your desire. When it is based on words like: "But if I was so-and-so" (eg, money, time, telephone, etc.), or vice versa; "But if I did not have so-and that something" (for example, poor health, a formidable mother, piles of obligations, etc.), it is better not to change anything, because the strength of your desire only enough, to desire.

To really make a difference in themselves, a desire to be so strong that neither could not sleep or eat could not.

For example, a desire to change yourself is, and nothing more. What to do?

Plans to achieve results

First of all, take a paper, pen and quite frankly, because doing it for themselves, write all the points, which is not enough to achieve results. Even a very small thing.

For example, to ensure that I was able to stand up for myself and my girlfriend I was missing:

1.Physical force.

2.znany methods of struggle.

3. I am afraid of the dark.

4.mne not allowed to engage in skirmishes with suspicious types.

5. I so educated.

6.i so on.

You can, of course, did not make any lists, but when you see the eyes of the problem, at least in the form of a written text on paper, it works much better than when you imagine them in your mind.

So all is well thought out and interference recorded. Now draw a close to the column and the cross or else we mark those who depend on you, which of you are completely independent, and those who depend on you and on others. Those that do not depend on you, immediately removed to the side. Writing about them only need to remember them and to take into account in their plans.

But those who really depend on you, we work on. In the next column next to each item write that can be done to meet them. Even better identify themselves due date. And in the next column to put the result.

In our example, we get this:

Are missing

1. physical force. It depends on me.

Necessary:

a) enroll in a fitness club (up to a certain date);

b) in the morning to do exercises (since tomorrow);

c) bring the push-ups to 30 times (one week).

And so on.

This system helps to become more organized, because the scheduled date will need to have time to perform written and otherwise, why schedule? Let everything remains as it is. And this article then you do not need.

The third group of items, the ones on which performance can be affected by other people, and they can, how to help and hinder the implementation of the plan. Against each of these points need to write the name of someone who can step in and mark how you can affect that person. And there, again, the result.

In principle, such a table or such a plan can not be. It is necessary only to you and no one else, check it out, no one will, deuces or fives to put too. Although there is no assessment for the fulfillment of all the same will be, life itself will put them without the slightest pity and condescension.

Finally I would like to add that in the graph results are useful not just to mark "satisfied" or "not satisfied", but also to try to understand what prevented the fulfillment of what a miscalculation, where a defect and should identify ways and date of another attempt.

The only way, really acting, you will be able to achieve effective results, and change yourself for the better.

The case - it Majesty or the slave of our destiny?

1941. The front line was built through the small village Ivnyu that under the spell, turning every single hut in shell craters. During the next five-year girl Anya bombing, mad with fear, along with his brother seven years swept across the field, trying to escape by flying over the head of death.

My brother was older and ran faster. He managed to jump into the big ditch, and Anya to bail depression in the ground not ran. Stumbling, she fell head over heels and flew into the funnel. Behind it there fell another German shell. He fell and exploded. Anya, his back against the damp ground, watched in horror iron "missiles", frozen by her feet a few inches, and was afraid to move.

From the funnel it pulled odnoselchanka when the Nazis raid ended. Ani's brother, who had to hide in the ditch, was killed - he was killed by a fragment of another shell exploded. This amazing event occurred.

Immediately begs the question - who saved the life of Anna? What for? She herself grew up and became an ordinary engineer. No law has opened, the course of history had no effect. Maybe her children something to achieve? And maybe their children's children? Then, perhaps, children or grandchildren Anya's brother, had he survived, would invent something, something to influence? Or he was killed in a safe place and then it was that he had never been born, and no one (God forbid!) On something that is not affected? When you begin to understand the course of future possibilities or impossibilities, my head is spinning.

Let us turn for help to the great. Overwhelmingly they all agree on the fact that accidents are not accidental. For example, the ancient philosopher Democritus maintained that every big or small event happened for a reason, and the notion of "chance" people come up with to justify their neumnost.

Democritus agreed Mikhail Mamich stating that "chance is undiagnosed pattern" A Leonid Sukhorukov explicitly states that all accidents are natural. Most of all, wish to find a pattern lovers roulette, craps and other players. This is understandable, because they open up a pattern, they would have had nowhere to go win money.

Henri Poincare though was not a player, but only a simple scholar, too, trying to find a pattern of hair loss in roulette white and black (red) color, Formula conclusions ratio is calculated. Logically, if the number of white and black numbers the same, the arrow roulette must equally stop and a black and white, that is, 50 to 50. Why in life falls, whatever? It turns out, there is no law?

Let's leave alone philosophers and mathematicians to turn to the esoteric. The representatives of this science also converge on the idea that there is no chance that they are all someone else (for example, creator) have somewhere once predefined and occur with regularity assigned to them, which we do not have a clue. There are those who associate chance, and with them, and laws, with past lives, karma, chakras, with destiny. Well, such was the fate of Ani - to survive, and her brother on the contrary, to die. That's the whole key.

To paraphrase a famous phrase, we can say that all this would be easy, if it were not so difficult. Close to the fate of an accident simple. That is who is to blame! Here it is, the switchman! More precisely, Railway Pointer. And that mathematics on the problem beating? Probability theory some have come up with.

But it turns out, in some cases, for example, with the same tape, you can more or less accurately calculate the probability of black or white. The accuracy depends on the coincidences speed roulette of location arrows at the start of rotation and on many things. The same probability of getting the right faces on the dice and count the dice. It turns out that it depends on the cube's trajectory in space.

All this is true, but we are not mathematicians, that does not help. We want to get as little as possible in the accident caused the unpleasant situation, and nothing more.

How can this be achieved? If all the events still driven by the hand of fate, can somehow influence her motion or not? About the impact is uncertain.

But you can avoid unpleasant situations poprobovat.Kak?

The fact that the fate or the one who moves the world, it is not heartless. Before you slip us another dirty trick, he gives us tips on which it is good to learn to pay attention. Of course, not the fact that they are all true, but the percentage of their accuracy is quite high.

What are these tips?

Firstly, dreams. This article in detail on them here, we will not.

Secondly, various small sobytitsa, which sharpen our attention.

Such an example. Valentina R. traveled to another city to sign a contract, which promised large profits. At the station, he escorted her friendly staff. They drank champagne on the track, joked, laughed. The only thing that was not the case - a very important client called and asked for an urgent meeting of profitable business for Valentina. Due to the departure bargain frustrated.

The driver gave the signal. Valentine sat on the train and rolled. Everything went perfectly. Suddenly, somewhere in an hour and a half Valentina husband called and said that she had forgotten on the table currency by mistake in a hurry fees Dochkin taking the purse of a penny, not a. Upon arrival in the city had the right to receive the money transfer, or even for a hotel she had no money. The contract for the deal, which seemed very reasonable, Valentine signed.

Later it was found that this transaction has brought her enormous losses bordering on ruin. This (non-fictional) example prompts destiny was calling client, hold it by the trip and the money left at home. Here everything is so transparent and clear that hard to believe in the truth of what happened.

There are other situations.

For example, such. Sergei A. recommend a good job, given the phone the director. Sergei rang again - no one picked up the phone. Through time, I phoned again - busy, busy, busy. I decided to come to the office - very tempting was a vacancy.

He sat in the bus, she was stuck in a traffic jam. I relocated to another and take a detour - the driver crawled like a turtle, long time standing at every stop. But Sergei all the same got his way, came into the office, found the director. Even vacancy was free! Only Sergei she absolutely does not fit. After hearing the terms, he refused to work on this.

Small "Circuits", "sobytitsa" before the main event there are 90 cases out of 100. If you learn to pay attention to them and to interpret them correctly, you can always predict great event. And it happened by chance or not, the answer can only give time.

In summary, I would like to recall the fate of the so-called blocks. They are prepared by special ritual, though they are the basis of the usual dice (cubes with points from 1 to 12) It is believed that after the ritual, these cubes can change destiny in the desired direction. This is done flipping them into the air for as long as the two dice for the same value will not drop.

Here and examine afterwards, whether random chance and who governs them.