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Some of us are perfectly fit into society, all seeking to just hold out. Life passes them bright, rich and interesting. But others think that the world was not created for them. What to do? Where to look for a world in which these people will be happy and comfortable? And whether it is necessary to look for him, perhaps the easier to change what's already there? Or you want to change yourself? About their desires and plans to achieve results described in the article.
Just want to note that the change itself is not always necessary.
For example, your peers spend hours stuck in the "Classmates", or go crazy from Ramstein, and you are much nicer than the old Russian romance?
Your girlfriend all day discussing the potential suitors and look forward to the next disco, and you twitch in the packed hall of the bodies did not pull, you have to backpack, but somewhere in the blue distance?
Of course, you say freak (at best), behind you whispering, and in general, in this society, you do not take, because you - a white crow.
You can, of course, change, do a mohawk on his head, pierce his navel to his environment in the eyes up a notch. And you can change the environment. Believe me, once you find like-minded people, all at once will fall into place.
How to change themselves
It is quite another thing, if you are the owner of such "great" traits like indecision, sverhmernaya doubtful mistrust, any phobia, if you have a bunch of unnecessary complexes that prevent a normal life, if you finished a skeptic or a fatalist, if there are a dozen more "if" turning your life into something gray and amorphous.
Here to change something in yourself, as they say, God himself commanded.
Someone will think: "It's easy to say, to change! What change, if it does not change? In dreams everything is always clear and simple, and actually start to try, for example, to develop courage, and his knees were shaking. "
The strength of desire
It all depends on the strength of your desire. When it is based on words like: "But if I was so-and-so" (eg, money, time, telephone, etc.), or vice versa; "But if I did not have so-and that something" (for example, poor health, a formidable mother, piles of obligations, etc.), it is better not to change anything, because the strength of your desire only enough, to desire.
To really make a difference in themselves, a desire to be so strong that neither could not sleep or eat could not.
For example, a desire to change yourself is, and nothing more. What to do?
Plans to achieve results
First of all, take a paper, pen and quite frankly, because doing it for themselves, write all the points, which is not enough to achieve results. Even a very small thing.
For example, to ensure that I was able to stand up for myself and my girlfriend I was missing:
1.Physical force.
2.znany methods of struggle.
3. I am afraid of the dark.
4.mne not allowed to engage in skirmishes with suspicious types.
5. I so educated.
6.i so on.
You can, of course, did not make any lists, but when you see the eyes of the problem, at least in the form of a written text on paper, it works much better than when you imagine them in your mind.
So all is well thought out and interference recorded. Now draw a close to the column and the cross or else we mark those who depend on you, which of you are completely independent, and those who depend on you and on others. Those that do not depend on you, immediately removed to the side. Writing about them only need to remember them and to take into account in their plans.
But those who really depend on you, we work on. In the next column next to each item write that can be done to meet them. Even better identify themselves due date. And in the next column to put the result.
In our example, we get this:
Are missing
1. physical force. It depends on me.
Necessary:
a) enroll in a fitness club (up to a certain date);
b) in the morning to do exercises (since tomorrow);
c) bring the push-ups to 30 times (one week).
And so on.
This system helps to become more organized, because the scheduled date will need to have time to perform written and otherwise, why schedule? Let everything remains as it is. And this article then you do not need.
The third group of items, the ones on which performance can be affected by other people, and they can, how to help and hinder the implementation of the plan. Against each of these points need to write the name of someone who can step in and mark how you can affect that person. And there, again, the result.
In principle, such a table or such a plan can not be. It is necessary only to you and no one else, check it out, no one will, deuces or fives to put too. Although there is no assessment for the fulfillment of all the same will be, life itself will put them without the slightest pity and condescension.
Finally I would like to add that in the graph results are useful not just to mark "satisfied" or "not satisfied", but also to try to understand what prevented the fulfillment of what a miscalculation, where a defect and should identify ways and date of another attempt.
The only way, really acting, you will be able to achieve effective results, and change yourself for the better.
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