Increase self-esteem, every woman can be happy

There was a time when I was wary of beautiful women, when every nerve at the ready) now look warily I see in other women. And oddly enough, he turned to me. Like all variable.

I'm 28 years old. Or 29? I do not even remember how old I am. This is a good sign? Or not? Before recently I feel 20 years older, I smoothed pretty deep wrinkles and grumbled at everyone and everything. Until recently, I was full of complexes on various topics. Yesterday I could not even think of that with ease I do today.

I remember Sixteen years I was looking at 25 year old girls with a mixture of light Colca sympathy and schadenfreude. Especially when next to me was a man. Of course, because her entire 25 years! That's almost 30! A thirty - it sounded like a death sentence. Now in its twenty-eight I feel the same sixteen girl, just a rather palpable inner content and visibility change for the better in the place where the brain is packed.

In my 28 I behind Institute, work experience, the third marriage - I clearly did not carry a child five years old, single motherhood, the choice between a pack of juice and socks for baby personal exhibition of paintings - even draw It began only three months ago. What does accident. And Paris. And it should be noted that family life is not in Paris decorated with the charm of this city.

Of course, together with it also load past grievances, unsaid and not made, or made, but not so. Needless to say, the previous two parting - no partings, of course, there were more, but the two last truly with a heavy load of frustration, notes of sadness and pity now, perhaps, to those two that were left without me. One of them, by the way, the father of my daughter.

For all Thus, it is these two, in my opinion, with all mental disorders, and the possible senses, I feel a sense of gratitude. To one, of course, more - for her daughter, he did not want to, but then successfully nurtured in my belly, and suffered to as many as two weeks of independent life within me.

The feeling of gratitude because of their weakness became my power and for the fact that I made a lot of good lessons and now I can be much wiser in my third marriage. Learn to anticipate, to warn, to remain silent, to hide at the time of a new skirt, bought on sale, be kind to him, and most importantly, take care of it.

And most importantly, I have learned to love yourself! All the covers of fashion magazines are full of headlines: "The Way success through self-love "or" Men choose women who Learn to love yourself. " But now I understand how it is to love yourself. No it's not selfish, well, except that in his maaaalyusenkom its manifestations.

Love yourself - it do his favorite thing and not blame yourself every minute that has not Dowar soup or meatballs stuff is made. This skill rest and relax. This desire to pamper yourself, it is able to afford discard the complexes, regardless of age, and just be yourself - that naughty girl, inside and so hard asks out.

This awareness level "I know that you are beautiful, talented, beloved." This feeling of approval, gratitude and pride in itself.

This not only come, but it is possible. I always complexes about my low Weight - for forty-two kilograms; as a very creative person always feared disapproval in my work, until ... until I realized that I am unique! what such as I have, one woman in the whole wide world.

And if in the heart and thoughts of love itself, if you please yourself, approve of yourself and do not to doubt what you're doing, you and around you, people will see beautiful, successful, incredibly charming and nice woman.

Women who will want to see next to a better man. Women who are fear, or who will admire, other women.

Beauty! Force! Love! These are the main components of the fact the woman, her life. They are common to all women without exception. And every woman, without exception, is worthy and can be happy.

Happy from the roots of the hair to toe. Happy not to the point of friends and acquaintances, and from the point of view of her, female, senior destination.

Author Oksana Shapira

How to become a happy, feel happy!

Each of us has their own ideas about happiness and its necessary components. Someone full of happiness need their own villa on the shore of the ocean, and someone quite a small house in the village. Someone needs a complete wardrobe by famous designers, and someone enough for a small increase to the salary.

Rich and attentive husband, good health, an interesting job, a luxurious fur coat to toe, a few days on an expensive resort - all of which can be an attribute of happiness, of which we dream. I think that, you only lose weight by 3 kg, cured teeth, wait until the child goes to school and become independent - and everything will be fine.

Happiness always seems a few steps, you only need to take the final leap. But this did not happen. Not because we do not try, on the contrary, we are struggling to seek goals. Just happiness - a blue bird that flies away as soon as it is approaching.

What you need for this?

Poll female audience showed that nearly half of women are sure that higher wages will make their lives more pleasant. Almost a third believe that if they were able to bring the figure to the ideal, they would be happier. Two women out of five would like to live in their own home in the country, and about the same number think that happiness is impossible without true love.

Women recognized that family life guarantee secure old age for them is much more important than passionate sex, and buy beautiful dresses uplifting better than enjoying the sunset. Does this mean that money brings happiness to people? Maybe this is true: the money give a sense of confidence in the future. But on the other hand, if you ask your friends about their happiest moments, the memories are very rarely associated with money.

They will tell you about the first love of a child for the first time sneezed and smiled as the birds sing at dawn in the country and sparkling dewdrops. In many cases, even impossible to say that it has made such an amazing moment. You just suddenly stopped and realized that life is beautiful - because of some tiny, seemingly insignificant detail.

This means that happiness is more important to enjoy the present, than denying yourself the pleasure, to strive for global achievements in the future.

Fewer goals - more satisfaction out of life

We live in constant competition. Survival of the one who is smarter, smarter, stronger, more beautiful, more slender and often goes to the gym. Psychologists believe that this is the constant pursuit of victory makes women less happy. You can earn more than your friend, but never become richer than the oligarch's wife.

One thing it can become a valuable occasion for women's depression. If you are constantly striving to distant horizons and dissatisfied with what you have, you probably will not feel happy. Commitment - excellent quality, but sometimes it prevents us from enjoying today.

The fact that the achievement of any global goal will make us happy, a very common human error. In fact, really happy are those people who enjoy the process, are engaged in favorite business and enjoy it. Psychologists advise at least sometimes to live for today. No one is stopping you from a few months to plan a holiday or save for a new car. But in any case, do not deny yourself all the pleasures of today for what might happen next.

Do not envy the stars

Celebrities spoil the life of mere mortals - has led to the conclusion of the public opinion. Transfer of the stars make ordinary women feel fat, poor and miserable. The same effect is produced fashion magazines and tips on keeping in shape - to abandon the strife and spend three days at the spa.

Yes, if you could afford to devote three days, you do not need to have any interior! That is why scandals in stellar families cause a stir among the public. They give us a chance to make sure that the rich also cry. Of course, it's gloating. But, on the other hand, the ability to understand the complexity of that there are even millionaires. Perhaps they do not have what you have, - loving healthy children, for example.

Are you born miserable?

Among the people you know for sure there are people, vampires and humans-rays. The first while talking literally suck out of you all the power and looking for a second reason you are filled with joy. They are always in a good mood, and perceived failures solely as annoying little things that will soon go into the past.

The ability to enjoy life is laid in early childhood and is dependent on a mother's love. If the girl you feel that you love and appreciate in the future will be a positive look at the world. And if my mother was strict, you have all chances to become a pessimist. But no matter what, everyone can be named.

5 small steps to happiness

1 refers to people close to the same responsibility as the work. You know that for promotion sometimes you have to give all your best. Relationships with family also require work, and very difficult. Be attentive to your loved ones, do not let them and not hurt. Peace in the family - this is one of the most important components of happiness.

2 Professional successes are also very important in order to get pleasure from life. If you are sure to do their work, then you feel realized. Do not be afraid to change the scope of activities, if you know that the work does not bring you anything but irritation. And does not work wear. In order to enjoy life more important than a good rest and interesting leisure time than the money you can make, grinding away all night.

3 helps those who are in trouble. You can donate a small amount to a shelter or to give old things. Offer any possible assistance to those in need.

4 There is a psychological theory of "three stages of happiness." The first stage - a little joy in life: food, drink, sports, sex, enjoying a good book. The second stage - a lesson that you like: your work, motherhood, or just growing flowers. The third stage - is the use of the favorite activities for the benefit of others. And if you manage to combine all three elements, you are satisfied with life.

5 Under no circumstances do not forget that happy people can also sometimes something is missing. The next time you're feeling sorry for yourself because they did not receive the desired, remember the words of Bertrand Russell: "The feeling that you still something lacking - is an essential component of happiness."

Test: How much are you satisfied with their lives?

Think about what areas of life are the most important to you and write them on a piece of paper - children, health, relationship with her husband, job, friends, leisure, etc. Then evaluate each item on the 10-point system.

Do not think about it too much dough, and expose those estimates that come to mind at first. This exercise will help to understand which area bothers you the most, and you should work on first.