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Nowadays, smokers are panic-stricken. They feel the changes taking place in society.
Today, smoking is considered to be anti-social habit, and so I think even smokers themselves. They also feel that their time has passed.
Today, millions of people quit smoking, and it is known to all. Whenever a sinking ship leaves another smoker, remaining on board feel even more miserable.
Deep down, every one of them knows that it is ridiculous to pay huge money for the dried leaves wrapped in paper, and then set fire to them and inhale carcinogenic tar in the lungs. If you still do not think it's stupid, try to shove a burning cigarette in your ear and ask yourself, what is the difference.
The only difference is one: this way you will not get nicotine. Stop poking a cigarette in his mouth, and nicotine you no longer need. Smokers can not find a logical reason to smoking, but if you smoke near them someone else, they would not feel so stupid.
Smokers openly lying about their habit, not only to others but also themselves. They have to if they want to keep at least some self-esteem, they need to "brainwash" ourselves and others. They feel the need to justify their relationship not only to ourselves but also to non-smokers.
Therefore, they always tout the illusory benefits of smoking. If a smoker quits smoking, using the method of willpower, he still feels deprived and prone to turn into a whiner. His nagging leads only to the fact that smokers are more convinced, as they are right, continuing to smoke.
If a smoker is unable to break the habit, he is happy that he will no longer have to live by poisoning himself and throwing money away. However, since it needs no justification and evaluation on the part of, he does not tell it. He does it only for someone's request, but smokers do not be asked such questions. They do not like the answer.
Remember that fear causes them to smoke, causing a desire to "bury our heads in the sand."
They will ask this question only once - when the time comes for them to stop smoking.
Help the smoker.
Deliver him from these fears.
Tell him how wonderful to live without poisoning yourself; how wonderful to wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and healthy, instead of coughing and wheezing; how cool to be free from bondage, to be able to enjoy life and get rid of fear and guilt, disturbing mind. Or, better yet, he should also read this book.
It is important not to humiliate the smoker, pointing to the fact that it pollutes the atmosphere, or that he himself is a kind of disgusting. There is a widespread perception that the worst of all in this respect - former smokers.
I think this opinion is true for those smokers who quit smoking using willpower method. Although ex-smoker and broke his own smoking habit, it is not fully managed to get rid of "brainwashing", and some part of him, he still believes that he had brought a huge sacrifice.
He feels vulnerable, and natural defense mechanism for him becomes an attack on the smoker. This can help the ex-smoker, smoker but it does not give anything.
This behavior only leads to the fact that the smoker starts on the defensive, feels this is even more unhappy, and thus its need for a cigarette even more amplified.
Although changing public attitudes to smoking - the main reason that millions of smokers quit smoking, this does not facilitate their task.
Rather, it significantly complicates the process of quitting. Today, most smokers believe that quitting smoking is mainly taking care of their health. This is not entirely true. While it is clear that a huge risk to the health needs of quitting, smokers poisoned himself for many years, and the threat to health does not affect it.
The main reason why they quit smoking is the fact that society is beginning to see smoking for what it is - a disgusting drug addiction. Enjoying always been an illusion; this attitude of society dispels it, and so the smoker is empty.
A total ban on smoking in the London Underground - a classic example of the dilemma of the smoker. A smoker can say to yourself, "Well, if I can not smoke in the subway car, I prefer other means of transport" that no good does not, except that reduce the income of the London Underground.
He can say otherwise: "Well, it would help me to reduce the number of cigarettes smoked." As a result of this decision, instead you smoke one - two cigarettes in a subway car, or on one of which he would not get any pleasure, he refrains from smoking for an hour.
During this period of forced abstinence, however, he not only will experience distress and expect its rewards, but also his body will languish on the willingness of nicotine. Oh, what a precious cigarette will be when in the end he is allowed to smoke!
The periods of forced abstinence failed to reduce the revenue of nicotine as a smoker indulges the desire to smoke more cigarettes when he was finally allowed to smoke. All this leads to only rooted in his mind the value of cigarettes and nicotine dependence.
I think that the most insidious aspect of periods of forced abstinence is their impact on pregnant women. We let the poor girl living under the pressure of massive advertising, which leads them to dependence on nicotine.
Then perhaps the most stressful period of their lives when they strayed mind insists that they ever need in cigarettes, doctors blackmailed them to quit smoking because of the damage that smoking has on the child. Many people can not give up and have to suffer from guilt for the rest of life.
Some of them manage to quit, and they are terribly excited thinking, "Okay, I'll do it for the sake of the child, and nine months later the urge to smoke will pass." Then comes the pain and fear of childbirth, followed by the highest "rise" in our lives.
The pain and fear have been born a wonderful new man, and then the old triggers again begin to act. Part of the "brainwashing" still remained, and before the umbilical cord is cut, she again puts a cigarette in his mouth.
Delight situation blocks cigarettes taste awful. She has no intention of once again falling into dependence on nicotine. "Just one cigarette."
Too late! She already addicted, nicotine again got into her body.
It wakes up the old draft, and even if it does not immediately fall into dependence on smoking, postpartum depression may still would get it.
It is strange that while drug addicts, addicted to heroin, according to the law are criminals, society's attitude towards them quite humane: "What can we do to help the poor? "It would be nice to learn how to be treated the same, and the poor smokers.
They do not smoke because they want to smoke, but because they feel compelled, and, unlike addicted to heroin for many years suffered from mental and physical torture.
We always say that a quick death - rather slow, so do not envy the poor smoker.
He deserves your compassion.
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