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Normally, three weeks after a smoker stops smoking, there comes a "moment of truth".
It seems that the sky was brighter, and this is exactly the moment when the "brainwashing" stops completely.
Then, ceasing to constantly repeat to myself that you do not want to smoke, you suddenly realize: the last thread is torn, you can really enjoy life without the slightest urge to smoke.
Typically, from that moment you start looking at other smokers as people worthy of pity.
Smokers applying the method of willpower, as a rule, do not feel anything like that, as though glad to be ex-smokers, still live in the full belief that they sacrifice. The more you smoke, the more wonderful is this moment, and it will last a lifetime.
I consider myself very lucky in my life there were many miraculous events, but the most surprising of all was the "moment of truth".
I remember all the important events and I remember that it was a happy moment, but could never resurrect that feeling of happiness. But the feeling of joy that I never have to smoke, I can not get used.
If today I can be in a bad mood or I need support - enough to remember that I no longer have, depending on the insidious tobacco. Most of the people who talk to me after they quit smoking, too, believe it is the most joyous event in their lives.
If you knew what joy you will! Guest readers and the people who attended my advice for twelve years, have allowed me to learn that in most cases the "moment of truth" does not occur after three weeks as mentioned above, and a few days later.
In my own case, it came before I smoked a last cigarette. Often at the beginning of individual consultations smoker told me: "You do not have to say anything, Allen. I am now very clear to all present." I am sure never to smoke again. "
I learned how to determine when individual smokers in the group sessions condescends revelation. From the letters I have received, I know that the same thing often happens with those who are reading the book.
Ideally, if you follow all instructions and fully understand the psychological side of the problem with you is going to happen right away. Today I say to smokers consultations that the physical weaning take about five days and three weeks will be required to ensure that the ex-smoker is fully released.
I do not really like to give such directions as it may lead to two problems.
The first is that I put the idea in the mind of man, that he will suffer from five days to three weeks.
The second problem is that the smoker usually thinks: "If I can hold from five days to three weeks, then at the end of this period of time to get complete relief."
However, it is likely that he will live five pleasant days or three enjoyable weeks, followed by one of those terrible days that are overtaken as a non-smoking and smokers.
These days do not have anything to do with smoking, because they cause very different factors in our lives. And then our smoker instead of the expected "moment of truth" will get depressed, that could undermine his faith in himself.
However, if I did not give any instructions, the ex-smoker so wasted, waiting for something to rest of his life. I suspect that this is what happens to most people who quit smoking method willpower.
Once I was tempted to say that the "revelation" should descend immediately. But if I say so, but this would not have happened, the ex-smoker would lose confidence and decided that the "revelation" will never happen.
People often ask me about the meaning of five days and three weeks. I took these numbers from the ceiling? No. Of course, this is not the exact date, but they reflect the status quo. It takes about five days after quitting, a smoker, and smoking is no longer seen as the main theme, which occupies all his thoughts.
Around this time, the majority of ex-smokers are experiencing the "moment of truth". Usually it happens like this: you're in a tense situation in the community or people which could not even conceive of what you can do without a cigarette.
Suddenly you realize that you not only enjoy socializing or copes with a stressful situation, but even the thought of a cigarette did not come to mind.
Since that time, you're just drifting.
That's when you find out that free.
While previous attempts to quit smoking method will power and based on the stories of other smokers, I noticed that three-week period - this is the time during which fail most serious attempt to quit smoking.
There is something like this: After about three weeks you feel the desire to smoke disappeared. Do you want to prove it to himself and lit a cigarette. The taste of a cigarette is disgusting. You have proven that quitting.
But at the same time re-introduced into the organism of nicotine - nicotine, in which your body so yearned all these three weeks. As soon as you smoke a cigarette, it will start removing nicotine from the body.
Now, a little voice will begin to say, "You have not given up smoking. You want another cigarette. "
Of course, the next cigarette you smoke is not immediately - because you do not want to become dependent again. You wait until a safe period of time will pass.
But the next time you will entice smoking, you say to yourself: "I'm not addicted to smoking again, so there is no harm if I smoked another cigarette."
And you come back on a slippery path leading down. The key to the problem - do not wait until the "moment of truth", and to understand that the problem has disappeared, as soon as you finish smoking his last cigarette.
You've done everything you need to do. You blocked the delivery of nicotine.
No power on earth can prevent you from being free, unless you're not going to suffer and wait for a miracle.
Go and enjoy life.
Just because the "moment of truth" will come to you.
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