31. Avoid perverse incentives

Trying to quit smoking using the method of willpower, many smokers are trying to increase the motivation, pushing perverse incentives.

Here are a few examples of such incentives.

"For the money I save, the whole family can spend a wonderful vacation." This approach seems logical and sensible, but unfortunately wrong, as any self-respecting smoker chooses to smoke 52 weeks a year and did not take leave.

In any case, the internal doubts smoker, and not only because he would have to abstain from smoking for 52 weeks. I'm not sure he is that he can enjoy the holiday spent without cigarettes.

Such an approach leads only to the fact that makes the sacrifice, which, as it seems, brings a smoker are more significant. This, in turn, increases the value of the cigarette in its representation.

And all of this rather than to focus on the other side of the problem: "What do I get from smoking? Why do I need to smoke? "

Another example: "I can afford to buy a new car."

Yes, it is true, such a stimulus can cause you to refrain from smoking, as long as you do not buy the car. But as soon as the sense of novelty passes, you start to think that you cheated, so sooner or later again fall into the same trap.

Another typical example is the agreement to quit concluded with colleagues at work, or family members. Such agreements usually have an advantage: they eliminate the temptation for some time during the day.

However, they are also generally been unsuccessful due to the following reasons.

1. "perverse incentives". Why should you quit smoking just because the other cast? This incentive only adds to the feeling of significance brought by your sacrifice. Well, if all smokers want to stop once sincerely smoking. However, you will not be able to force them to give up, though, and they all secretly want to.

While they are not ready to quit, but such agreements will give an additional value cigarettes and reinforce the desire to smoke. Such agreements make them participants in the secret smokers, which further enhances the feeling of dependence.

2. The theory of "black sheep" or "mutual responsibility". In accordance with the method will willpower smoker reckoning period, during which he was constantly waiting for the urge to smoke will disappear. If he surrenders, then comes the feeling befell his failures.

In accordance with this method, sooner or later one of the parties to the agreement shall be obliged to surrender. Then the rest of the participants will receive the excuse that they have been waiting for. It's not their fault ... they who would stand ... It's because of John, they throw up their hands ... The truth is that most of them have violated the secret agreement.

3. "A Shared Responsibility" - the stimulus, the opposite theory of "black sheep". Here the fear of losing face in case of failure is not so terrible as he shared with others. Quit smoking, the smoker feels amazing feeling tremendous victory.

When you quit smoking alone, in the first few days the admiration of your friends, family and colleagues can serve as a great support. When at the same time a few people quit smoking, the responsibility is divided equally and accordingly reduced and admiration.

Another classic example of perverse incentives - the so-called "bribe" (for example, when a parent promises teenager some money for giving up smoking or offering bets: "I'll give you £ 100 if you lose"). Once in one of the television programs, the following examples.

Police trying to quit smoking, a pack of cigarettes put in twenty-pound note. He signed an agreement with himself: he can smoke again, but first he will have to burn this bill. This helped him not to smoke for a few days, but in the end he still burned those twenty pounds.

Stop deceiving yourselves. If a smoker is not stopping either 50.000 pounds that the average smoker spends a lifetime of cigarettes, nor the risk of terrible disease, is one to two, or life with bad breath, or mental and physical suffering, no bondage, no contempt on the part of most part of the society and low self-esteem - hardly false incentives can in any way change the situation.

They can lead to one - to exacerbate the feeling of sacrifice. Look at the opposite side pull the rope.

What gives me smoking?

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

Why do I need to smoke?

You do not have smoking! SMOKING you punish yourself.

32. Easy Way to Stop Smoking

This chapter contains instructions regarding the easy way to quit smoking. By following them, you will find that quitting smoking can become not only easy but also enjoyable!

But do not forget about the recommendations.

(Remember the joke: "Brunette - a girl who misread the instructions on the tube of paint for the hair?")

Quitting smoking is ridiculously simple. You need only do two things:

1. Decide what will never smoke.

2. Do not fall for this occasion into a depression. Rejoice!

You're probably wondering, "Why then do was to write a book? Why could not you say that from the beginning? "

I could, but then you would have fallen into despair, and as a result, sooner or later, would have changed his mind.

Perhaps it is because you, and do so many times. As I have said many times, all the tobacco business - an insidious, sinister trap.

The main problem in quitting smoking is not chemical dependency, and "brainwashing", so you first need to dispel the myths and misconceptions.

Understand the enemy, find his tactics: if you easily win.

Most of my life I spent in trying to quit smoking, experiencing terrible weeks of depression. When I finally quit smoking, then he passed from a hundred cigarettes a day to complete their absence without any negative consequences. Even during smoking cessation, I felt great, and since then has never experienced any discomfort.

Instead, it's the most wonderful thing that has happened in my life. I could not understand why quitting smoking was so easy, and it took me a long time to figure it out. The reason was this: I knew that I would never smoke again.

During previous attempts, however strongly I may be set up, I tried to quit smoking, hoping that if I can hold out long enough without a cigarette, the urge to smoke will disappear. Naturally, it did not disappear, because I was waiting for that something is about to happen. The more I become despondent about this, the more I want to smoke, so the craving to smoke never took place.

My last attempt was completely different. Like all smokers today, I seriously thought about this problem. Whenever failing, I consoled myself with the thought that the next time will be easier to quit smoking. It never occurred to him that by acting in this way, I condemn myself to smoke a lifetime.

The thought filled me with horror and forced to reflect on the problem seriously. Instead of unconsciously lights a cigarette, I began to analyze my feelings in the process of smoking. And this observation confirmed what I already knew: I do not like smoke, and cigarette - unbelievably disgusting.

I started to observe the non-smokers. Before, I always thought they were weak, unsociable, pedantic people. However, when I looked closely at them, they seemed to me much stronger and freer. They were people able to cope with life's stresses and loads and giving the impression that they get much more pleasure from intercourse than smokers. I began to chat with former smokers.

Until that moment I thought that ex-smokers - people who are violently forced to quit because of health problems and money, and they continue to suffer in secret craving to smoke.

Several people have said, "Yes, sometimes experience painful bouts of desire, but they are not serious and the case is so rare, that they are not worth the bother."

But the majority said: "Miss Smoker? Yes, you must be kidding. Never in my life have I felt better."

Conversations with former smokers debunked another myth is constantly spinning in my head. I always thought I was some kind of inherent weakness of character, and suddenly it dawned on me that through this secret nightmare are all smokers.

I said to myself: "Today millions of people quit smoking and lead a happy life completely. I had no need to smoke, until I started, and I remember that I had to work hard to get used to the horrible taste of cigarettes. Why do I need to smoke now? "

Anyway, smoking obviously did not like me. I hated all this disgusting ritual and did not want to spend rest of my life being a slave to tobacco disgusting. Then I said to myself, "Allen, you like it or not, you smoke a last cigarette OWN."

And at that moment I knew that he had never lit up again. I did not expect that I will be easy. I was absolutely sure that I was waiting for months, severe depression, and I spend the rest of his life, occasionally suffering.

But quitting smoking from the beginning was for me an absolute fortune. It took me a lot of time trying to figure out why quitting smoking was so easy and why this time I did not suffer from the terrible pangs of withdrawal period. Now I know the reason: these sufferings do not exist, they give rise to doubt and uncertainty.

The truth is that easy to quit smoking.

The process only complicate indecision and depressed mood.

At certain periods of life, even smokers can live a long time, without worrying about cigarettes.

You suffer only when you forbid smoking. The key to an easy quitting - your confidence in the finality of the decision - to quit smoking. We should not expect, and know that you have stopped smoking, taking such a decision. Do not question it.

You have to do the opposite: he always rejoice. I assure you that quitting smoking is easy. But how can you be sure that you do not know? Therefore, you should read the final part of the book - some important points you need to clearly understand yourself before you start to achieve the goal.

Realize that you can achieve the goal. You are no different from the others, so the only person who can make you smoke another cigarette - you.