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In our society, it is believed that it is difficult to quit smoking. Even the books that advise to quit, usually begin with a description of how hard you will do it.
In fact, it is ridiculously easy.
Yes, I can understand your doubts about the veracity of the allegations made, but accept it, please note.
If your goal - to run a mile in less than four minutes, it's difficult. Most likely, you have to go through years of enhanced training, and even then you may not be able to do it.
(Most of our achievements is happening in our mind. Is not it strange how difficult it was before until Bannister was unable to put his record, but today it is - a common occurrence?)
However, in order to quit smoking, the only thing you need to do: do not smoke. Nobody forces you to smoke forced (not including yourself) and, unlike food or drink, you do not need to smoke to survive.
Therefore, it is not clear why, in fact, you have to be difficult to quit smoking?
In fact, the process of quitting is difficult using a smoker willpower method. According to my definition, method of Willpower - is any method, causing the smoker to feel that he brings a kind of sacrifice. Let's look at it in more detail.
We did not decide to become smokers. With those first cigarette, we're just experimenting and because their taste was horrible, were convinced that we can stop whenever we want. For the most part, we smoked those first few cigarettes completely only make an effort, and this is usually in the company of other smokers.
Before you realize what is happening, we are not only regularly buy cigarettes and smoke them, when we want, but just smoke every day. Smoking has become a part of our lives. We always check, whether to have a cigarette. In our opinion, the tobacco does parties and dinners more pleasant and helps relieve stress.
It seems we do not even occur to him that the taste of the same cigarettes from the same pack, smoked after dinner does not differ from the taste of the first morning cigarette. In fact, smoking has never been able to improve eating or social event, and it does not eliminate stress.
No, just the smokers believe that they can not enjoy the dinner or to cope with stress without cigarettes. Usually, the fact to realize that we are addicted to smoking, it takes a long time, as we console ourselves with the illusion that smokers smoke because they enjoy cigarettes, and not because they have to.
Not getting pleasure from cigarettes (and in fact, we will never get), we are in the delusion that we can quit whenever you want. Usually we are wrong as long as do not try to quit smoking for real, and only learned of the existence of this problem.
Almost always the first attempts we make at the beginning, and they are usually caused by a lack of money (boy meets girl and they decide to save money to build a nest, and do not want to spend money on cigarettes), or concern about the health of (teenager still actively involved in sports and discovers that began to suffer shortness of breath).
For whatever reason, the main thing - that a smoker is always waiting for the situation of stress - in the monetary sphere and in the sphere of health. As soon as he stops smoking, little monster begins to demand food. Smoker wants to smoke a cigarette, and he can not smoke because it makes him suffer even more.
Cigarettes, which he usually used to relieve the stress, the more he is not available, so he redoubled force wants to smoke. A possible result of a period of self-torture becomes a trade-off: "I'll cut smoking" or "I chose the wrong time," or "I'll wait until life will be calmer."
However, as soon as the voltage is reduced, and there is no need to cease smoking, so the smoker decides to wait. This, of course, a vicious circle, because the time for most people, life becomes less stressful, and more.
We are moving away from the custody of parents in the world to create their home, contract debts, have children, move to a position of responsibility, etc.
The life of the smoker will never be less stressful because it is cigarettes generate stress.
As the dose of nicotine consumed growing up and the suffering of the smoker, and with them his own misconception depending on cigarettes. In fact, the belief that life is becoming more intense - misleading and that smoking or generate similar support it. For more information on this topic, we discuss further in Chapter 28.
After the first failure of a smoker usually begins to hope that woke up one day he'll never want to smoke. Such hope is fueled by tales of other ex-smokers. (For example: "I had a severe influenza, and after it I just did not want to smoke more.") Do not be fooled.
I researched these rumors, and in fact they were not so simple, what looked at first glance. Typically, the smoker to prepare myself to stop smoking and flu simply used as a springboard. For over thirty years I have lived in the hope that one morning I wake up and never want to smoke.
But with the appearance of pain in the chest, I was looking forward to their end because they prevented me from smoking. Most people who quit smoking easily, - those who survived the shock. Perhaps their close relative had died due to illness caused by smoking, or they experienced a severe fright.
Of course, now it is easy to say: "One day I just decided to quit. That's what I have done! "
Stop deceiving yourselves! Nothing will happen without your efforts.
Let's try to understand why quit smoking method willpower is so difficult.
Most of the life we live according to the principle of an ostrich, burying your head in the sand, under the motto: "I stop smoking tomorrow." From time to time something serves as an impetus to what we are trying to quit smoking.
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