42. You will not fail if you follow the simple instructions

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Today my shoulders twelve years (have passed since the first publication of "Easy way") correspondence and conversations with people who read this book, or contact me for advice.

First, the "experts" do not take seriously my method, and it was an uphill battle. Today, smokers arrive on my consultations from all over the world, and among the participants of employment dominated by the medical profession.

In the UK, "The Easy Way" is considered the most effective in helping to stop smoking, and this opinion is spreading around the world. I do not consider myself to be a benefactor of mankind. His war which, I repeat, is not directed against smokers, but against the trap of smoking - I'm for purely selfish reasons.

Each time, learning about another smoker, choose from captivity, I feel a sense of great joy, even if it has nothing to do with me. Can you imagine what pleasure for me thousands of letters of appreciation received over the years!

But I sometimes disappointment. My disappointment is mainly related to two specific types of smokers. Despite the warning, the view expressed in the previous chapter, I am concerned about the number of smokers who find that so easy to quit smoking, start smoking again, and then it turns out that the next time they will not manage to get rid of their addiction. This applies not only to the readers of the book, but also to the smokers attending my consultation.

A few years ago I was called by a man. He was crazy with grief; he just sobbed. He said: "I'll pay you a thousand pounds, if you help me to quit smoking for a week. I know that if I can hold out for a week, then I can quit for good. "

I told him that my services have a fixed price, and that's all that he needs to pay. He attended group sessions and, much to his surprise, found that quitting smoking is easy. Later, he sent me a very touching letter of thanks.

Former smokers, leaving my classes, I usually say: "Remember, you should never light up another cigarette." This man said to me then: "Do not be afraid, Allen. If I managed to "engage", then I have something for sure I will never smoke. "

Immediately I could say with certainty that in this case the warning has not been fully internalized, and replied: "I know now you feel that way, but how will your business in six months? "

He said: "I'm never going back to smoke." A year later, the phone rang: "Allen, I smoked a little cigar at Christmas, and now returned to their" normal "- forty cigarettes a day."

I said, 'Remember why you first called me? You hated smoking were going to pay me £ 1,000, if I help you quit smoking for a week. "

"I remember. Well, do not fool I was? "

"Remember, you promised me never to smoke? "

"I know. I'm a fool".

It's like that find a man who stuck to his neck in a swamp and is about to be hidden in the swamp forever. You help him get out. He is grateful to you, and then, six months later, dives back into the same swamp. Ironically, this man took a curious story.

Arriving at one of the sessions, he said: "Can you imagine? I offered her son a contract: If your 21 th birthday, he begins to smoke, I will pay him 1,000 pounds. I have paid. And what? He is now 22 years old, and he smokes like a chimney. I can not believe that he was such a fool! ".

I said, "I do not understand why you call him a fool. He, at least avoided this trap for twenty-two years, and, furthermore, does not know all of the suffering that he had to go through. You knew it all, and lasted only a year. "

Smokers who have found that quitting smoking is easy, but to start again - too easy, represent a particular problem. When you become free, please do not repeat this mistake.

It is believed that these people start smoking again because still in dependence and yearn for a cigarette. In fact, discovering that quitting smoking is so simple, they lose the fear of smoking. They think: "From time to time I smoke a cigarette.

Even if I once again get to dependence on smoking, again I could easily give up. " I am afraid that is not so simple. Quitting smoking is easy, but to control the addiction to nicotine - is impossible.

The only thing that is important in order to become a non-smoker - is not to smoke.

Another type of smokers, causing my disappointment - those who are too scared to make an attempt to quit smoking.

If they are trying, quitting smoking seems to them a great fight.

The main reasons for this lie in the following sentiment:

  1. "Fear of failure".

The failure there is no shame, but do not attempt because of this fear - is nonsense. Take a look at the situation from the other side of anything you do not hide. The worst thing that can happen to you - you will fail, but in this case does not become worse than it is now. But how wonderful it would be to achieve success! If you do not try, you will have guaranteed failure.

2. "The fear to panic."

Do not worry about it. Think about that, actually, terrible can happen to you if you never smoked a cigarette? Absolutely nothing! Terrible, if you continue to smoke. In any case, nicotine creates panic, and soon it will pass.

Getting rid of this fear will be a great acquisition for you. Do you believe that smokers are really ready to amputation of feet or hands for the pleasure they get from smoking? If you feel that you are close to panic, deep breathing can help you.

If you are among the people and they act on your nerves, go away from them. Get out of the garage in an empty office or anywhere else. If you feel you are about to cry, do not be ashamed. Crying - a natural way to relieve tension after the crying, we always becomes easier.

What we teach little boys do not cry - a mistake. Notice how compress their jaws when they are trying to hold back the tears. As true Englishmen, we learn to compress his lips, showing no emotion. But we should not suppress their emotions and hide them deep inside. Scream, shout, let yourself rage. Kick a cardboard box or a bedside table.

Treat their fight against smoking as a boxing match in which you can not lose. No one can stop the time. With each passing moment the little monster, sitting inside you dies. Rejoice - your victory is inevitable.

3. Failure to follow the instructions.

Incredibly, some smokers say to me: "With me your method did not work." Then they begin to describe how they ignored even not one, but almost all directions. (For clarity, I will summarize all indications in the form of a checklist at the end of the chapter.)

32. Easy Way to Stop Smoking

This chapter contains instructions regarding the easy way to quit smoking. By following them, you will find that quitting smoking can become not only easy but also enjoyable!

But do not forget about the recommendations.

(Remember the joke: "Brunette - a girl who misread the instructions on the tube of paint for the hair?")

Quitting smoking is ridiculously simple. You need only do two things:

1. Decide what will never smoke.

2. Do not fall for this occasion into a depression. Rejoice!

You're probably wondering, "Why then do was to write a book? Why could not you say that from the beginning? "

I could, but then you would have fallen into despair, and as a result, sooner or later, would have changed his mind.

Perhaps it is because you, and do so many times. As I have said many times, all the tobacco business - an insidious, sinister trap.

The main problem in quitting smoking is not chemical dependency, and "brainwashing", so you first need to dispel the myths and misconceptions.

Understand the enemy, find his tactics: if you easily win.

Most of my life I spent in trying to quit smoking, experiencing terrible weeks of depression. When I finally quit smoking, then he passed from a hundred cigarettes a day to complete their absence without any negative consequences. Even during smoking cessation, I felt great, and since then has never experienced any discomfort.

Instead, it's the most wonderful thing that has happened in my life. I could not understand why quitting smoking was so easy, and it took me a long time to figure it out. The reason was this: I knew that I would never smoke again.

During previous attempts, however strongly I may be set up, I tried to quit smoking, hoping that if I can hold out long enough without a cigarette, the urge to smoke will disappear. Naturally, it did not disappear, because I was waiting for that something is about to happen. The more I become despondent about this, the more I want to smoke, so the craving to smoke never took place.

My last attempt was completely different. Like all smokers today, I seriously thought about this problem. Whenever failing, I consoled myself with the thought that the next time will be easier to quit smoking. It never occurred to him that by acting in this way, I condemn myself to smoke a lifetime.

The thought filled me with horror and forced to reflect on the problem seriously. Instead of unconsciously lights a cigarette, I began to analyze my feelings in the process of smoking. And this observation confirmed what I already knew: I do not like smoke, and cigarette - unbelievably disgusting.

I started to observe the non-smokers. Before, I always thought they were weak, unsociable, pedantic people. However, when I looked closely at them, they seemed to me much stronger and freer. They were people able to cope with life's stresses and loads and giving the impression that they get much more pleasure from intercourse than smokers. I began to chat with former smokers.

Until that moment I thought that ex-smokers - people who are violently forced to quit because of health problems and money, and they continue to suffer in secret craving to smoke.

Several people have said, "Yes, sometimes experience painful bouts of desire, but they are not serious and the case is so rare, that they are not worth the bother."

But the majority said: "Miss Smoker? Yes, you must be kidding. Never in my life have I felt better."

Conversations with former smokers debunked another myth is constantly spinning in my head. I always thought I was some kind of inherent weakness of character, and suddenly it dawned on me that through this secret nightmare are all smokers.

I said to myself: "Today millions of people quit smoking and lead a happy life completely. I had no need to smoke, until I started, and I remember that I had to work hard to get used to the horrible taste of cigarettes. Why do I need to smoke now? "

Anyway, smoking obviously did not like me. I hated all this disgusting ritual and did not want to spend rest of my life being a slave to tobacco disgusting. Then I said to myself, "Allen, you like it or not, you smoke a last cigarette OWN."

And at that moment I knew that he had never lit up again. I did not expect that I will be easy. I was absolutely sure that I was waiting for months, severe depression, and I spend the rest of his life, occasionally suffering.

But quitting smoking from the beginning was for me an absolute fortune. It took me a lot of time trying to figure out why quitting smoking was so easy and why this time I did not suffer from the terrible pangs of withdrawal period. Now I know the reason: these sufferings do not exist, they give rise to doubt and uncertainty.

The truth is that easy to quit smoking.

The process only complicate indecision and depressed mood.

At certain periods of life, even smokers can live a long time, without worrying about cigarettes.

You suffer only when you forbid smoking. The key to an easy quitting - your confidence in the finality of the decision - to quit smoking. We should not expect, and know that you have stopped smoking, taking such a decision. Do not question it.

You have to do the opposite: he always rejoice. I assure you that quitting smoking is easy. But how can you be sure that you do not know? Therefore, you should read the final part of the book - some important points you need to clearly understand yourself before you start to achieve the goal.

Realize that you can achieve the goal. You are no different from the others, so the only person who can make you smoke another cigarette - you.