The art of living together. 4 basic rules

Romantic, candlelight dinner, unexpected surprises and gifts, tedious wait internal meetings and nervous trembling before a date, walking, exciting kiss - it all usually happens in the early stages of development of relations. Not all, but many couples go through this.

Easy to Love becomes a stronger sense of the pair is getting used to each other, moving closer, then takes the important decision to bind their fate.

Marriage - is just one step in the development of relations. Wedding day is like fireworks - the excitement, flash emotions, emotional jolt. Obtained enough experience for a while and then get used to couple the rings on his fingers, slowly begin to realize that they are now family.

Festive fever passes novelty and excitement begins married life. To live together - this means learning from each other, it means work on yourself. Family life, however, two or loved each other, may not always be cloudless. What are the reasons?

I know one couple who seemed very harmonious and whole. They were very romantic. But when married, their relationship changed dramatically. Why is that? Yes, simply because they are relaxed.

He no longer gave her flowers, because I have not seen this much sense. She could no longer look after themselves as much as before, constantly irritated. Mutual claims nearly ruined their marriage.

It often happens that by meeting with each other, people are trying to embellish themselves, hide their shortcomings, but, having approached, no longer see the point and blacked out a compromise in which the controversial situations, as we did before. And, alas, many do not need to see more in courtship and romance. And a very good reason. Some marriages are crumbling under the weight of it everyday.

Therefore, the first rule: continue to take care of their half, even if your marriage is already 5 years or more.

This applies to both men and women. Lovely ladies! Your choices may also need it! Be more attention to each other, as in the beginning of your acquaintance. Assign each other goodbye, give flowers, give each other a nice souvenir - it will help refresh your relationship!

Conquer each other stumbles. Suppose that every time is like the first time! And do not forget to look after and take care of yourself! Especially not relax. Do not allow yourself to lower the bar. Some women say: "If I took a wife, all of it I like, and there is no need to change something." In vain. Do not stop the self-improvement!

The second rule, try to avoid possible conflicts.

If you have accumulated some problems, for example, at work, try not to tear them to their loved ones, but rather just calmly tell them. Do not accumulate in itself! Also, do not accumulate a dissatisfaction with each other. Better just to say that you are not happy and are looking for solutions to this problem.

The most important thing to take a break if you feel that a conflict is brewing, and then maybe, instead of the conflict will turn a normal conversation, which will bring better results than the violent showdown. As you know, in the heat of the moment, you can tell a lot more than it should be and it is unlikely to benefit the relationship.

Although there is a belief that sometimes small quarrels may even be useful for the discharge of both spouses. There are people whom it is even necessary. Still, the conflict - is stress.

Therefore it is best to sort things out more peacefully. And that is also very important, it is able to compromise. Maybe somewhere slightly behind, you get even more than if it insisted.

Rule three, remember that you - family, you - a team. You are now in one piece.

This means that even though you have placed their roles in the family who is doing what, and so on, you are now responsible to each other. You are now as a single integrated organism.

Try to act in concert to support and help each other. However, to solve problems, rejoice together and grieve. Walk hand in hand with each other and then all the problems will be no how much.

Rule Four, as often as possible tell each other "I love you! "

As is well known "women love with their ears." But men, too! Word - a very powerful weapon. They can injure a person, but you can heal. Use each other these weapons for peaceful purposes only!

It's so wonderful! Talk to each other as much as possible pleasant words. This is very important!!!

To live in a marriage - is an art! It may not be easy. All can be produced at once. But no matter what, do not give up !! Love - is not only a terrible force, but the main, the main force of humanity.

True love will carry all the obstacles in its path, and then you will succeed!

Live happily ever after. Love and be loved!

Author Marina Kulakov

Guys let's be friends

Only it is not always and not everyone succeeds. Living under the same roof, even with a very beloved person, sometimes it is difficult to avoid quarrels and anger.

What to do in order not to turn their family home into a pile of rubble?

First you need to understand that you do not have your favorite enemy. And even if it does what you do not like, it is more often than not in spite of you, just as he used to, because it was brought up by parents.

Re an adult, practically impossible. Therefore, no "I love you blinded him from what was."

We need to think before the wedding, is able to see if your loved one and yourself to maintain good relations, the days and nights are, before the eyes of each other. I think to clarify this is not so bad trial marriage.

Nowadays, few young people does not share the bed, so why not live for some time together to learn how you approach each other? But without quarrels, in any case does not do any one family.

Conflict is not always bad. Each of us has his habits, his experience, its own system of values. Our views and needs may be different. There is nothing to worry about.

Most wrong in a conflict situation, to harbor resentment and closed, or all ways to move away from the resolution of conflict, hoping that will resolve itself.

Will resorb. Layering unresolved conflict creates an oppressive atmosphere in the house, from which constantly want to run aimlessly.

Therefore it is necessary to know what "the proud easier" only happens in poetry, in life one should not expect that he realizes he was wrong, and fall on their knees, begging for forgiveness.

The family of goodwill shows one who is wise. You do not need a partner to take revenge, to try to punish him and especially the rejection of sex, instead, try to eliminate the root cause of the quarrel.

Clearly and precisely define what is a stumbling block for you. Analyzing the situation with a loved one, avoid the reproaches and complaints, try to be friendly and not a man splashes a bucket of emotions.

Emotions are good in bed, but not in a conversation heart to heart. In this case, you should try to find a solution that will satisfy both sides.

Do not use phrases like - "because you always" and "you never." There are times when something is very important for one side, and the other simply persisting the principle or inertia.

In this case, it is not necessary to give up and retreat at the first failure.

Suggest a compromise - let's now do as you want me, tomorrow, as you decide. And it does not require, and ask.

What a loving man in this case does not want to return to the track of peaceful hostel?

And hang in a hallway poster in a prominent place - "Let's live together! ".

It seems to be a trifle, but it helps.

If you value a man

10 commandments of a loving woman

Psychology of our men is that they, like the children in school, always want to change!

Therefore, if you value your man of the present - will have to learn not to make some common mistakes that turn you into one of the many others, so, on which want to escape.

Psychologists were able to identify 10 basic points "misconduct", pointing to them from a variety of others, as major.

1. The first, and probably the most effective stimulus - hysterical and notation. Indulging in this ungrateful of you are likely to not only be heard, but also become the object concealed irritation. Nothing kills a relationship is constant dissatisfaction with life situations and behavior of the man she loved.

2. In spite of his burning desire to 24 hours a day to be with loved ones, remember that it is next to you continues to have normal needs like the desire to see a close friend, to go fishing, or football. It can and should be the corners of the soul where he wants to feel and feels comfortable and happy as you. Spend the time apart from each other and then be sincere joy of meeting and the meeting itself - desirable.

3. Do not try to change the lover of his own image - to perceive and love it for what it is, try to pay more attention to its positive qualities than flaws, which are also well established and can not be.

4. Try to be not such as yesterday, at first it may seem strange and complex, but after a while, you'll love this game. Remember that internally because you stay true to yourself.

5. Do not show signs of helplessness. Feel your self-sufficiency and independence. Do not bother the man with endless phone calls to 3 times within an hour - it is a sure way to cause a negative reaction. When you call, try to figure out the most important thing, and not to take its time and insignificant issues.

6. Do not you jealous. Jealousy - a sign of insecurity and subconscious desire to master the man as a thing to close it all the castles and contemplate from morning till evening. Nothing good comes out of this is usually not. Endless suspicions about delays in activities or work, read personal messages and SMS cast huge doubt on the future of your relationship.

7. Traditional women's error - the love of gossip can be costly. Do not wash dirty linen in public, try to solve their issues with loved ones. It is worth mentioning that the presence of clearly inappropriate to be your man in society is only one of your friends - think how uncomfortable he would feel in such a situation.

8. Do not think that your passion for Shopping or markets with the same enthusiasm and take your favorite. One or two insane joint campaign can sometimes spoil the most optimistic attitude. Therefore, it is advisable to go shopping with her friends - and at the same time will discuss it. There is a variant of the joint campaign, but you do need to pre-pick out what you like, then it will appear as a surprise and will not take too much time.

9. Do not insist that your favorite immediately and unconditionally shared with you my thoughts and feelings. If it is not set up to be frank - conversation is better to move on then.

10. Never force yourself to wait too long. It's hard to find a man who would have been delighted by the fact that you are late for more than an hour.

Following these difficult rules, you can greatly improve your chances of success with the person who you love.