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"Be for him ..." What men want their wives
It is known that more than half of marriages fail within the first few years of life. Why is this happening? People do not ask, the answer to this burning question everyone knows. The only pity is that they almost always, the answers are different.
Husbands blame wives, wives - their husbands, psychotherapists - and those and others. And maybe, in fact, no one is to blame? Maybe the problem comes from the fact that very often we are getting married not for a real person, but for how he imagine - go beyond the image of a certain ideal, which in reality is only a pale reflection of what we dreamed of .
The first few months after the wedding, everything is great, but when it's light intoxication of happiness passes, ever more clearly the reality makes itself felt: it turns out that you are not married to someone who recently every day brings you flowers ...
It was then that there are problems. Make no mistake: your husband will almost certainly feel the same thing as you. After his presentation about you is not quite in line with reality ... Would you like to know what he represented you? But what if you try to learn it, and try to translate this ideal into reality? Maybe we should try?
Especially if the ideal would be very close to you ... In this experiment, there is nothing wrong. As you know, our life - it's a game. A rare woman does not have the actor's instincts, it's in our blood. So why bury a natural talent in the ground? Maybe try to use it for peaceful purposes?
So, what husbands want their wives?
Statistical surveys are ambiguous. Men with hard contradictions demonstrate a variety of answers, once again proving that the same people do not happen, and all of their "preferences". Although we agree with that, nevertheless bring some order in the resulting confusion is still possible.
It is actually several types of women whose images like no other excite the heart and mind of men. Choose the type that you think, I want to see you in your husband, and more! You are waiting for an amazing discovery.
You love your husband. Is it possible that you have become for him exactly the way he wants to see you? Of course. Just become for him ...
... Keeper of the gas stove.
According to statistics, this is the wish to see his wife, if not most men, at least, a considerable part of them. Men's thinking is more conservative than women, so these ideas about wives not in the minds of men have undergone significant changes over many decades and even centuries.
How to do it.
In the view of your husband, this may mean the following: when he comes home, he always has a delicious lunch or dinner, and caring wife feeds him and engaged in the house and children, without distracting from the next important things - reading the newspaper and watching a football match on TV. In short, the classic «Kirche, Kinder, Kuchen» - the church, the children and the kitchen ...
Well, because the children are children. In the end, do not forget that the cultivation of posterity - evolutionary "fixed" the woman function. Give your husband the opportunity to experience this important moment for your family.
What do you get.
If this nice picture painted before the mind of the wife, and is close to your heart - is remarkable. So, the ideal wife of your man the same as your own ideal. But we are working on it, yet do not overdo it. Otherwise, the husband can begin to approach that of the gas stove only to heating of the ... sorry, to warm his hands.
For all the other pleasures of life, he will turn to other addresses ... Be creative as possible. The main thing - never rest on our laurels. Suppose your house is always waiting for the faithful something special ... you cook today or stuffed dumplings? It is desirable that this special was something more intriguing.
Is it worth it?
Are you sure you cute everyday household chores - this is for you? All women are different, and the label that put us in the face of a society of men, can not fit your idea of yourself. And if so, is a "sham" would not benefit either your health or your relationship with your husband.
... Mistress.
Boredom and monotony, as you know, the worst enemy of the marital relationship. According to statistics, it is due to boredom, most men go to the left. Why do not you make your husband went to the left ... to you?
How to do it.
Imagine that now with the work you will not husband and lover. What then? You cook a gourmet dinner, not forgetting about aphrodisiacs, wear the most exquisite lace underwear, and in the apartment create an enchanting atmosphere of mystery, emphasizes your appeal.
When he comes on your face will be a genuine smile of joy and playful twinkle in his eyes will flash every minute when you look at it. You will not be asking him about why he again did not bring you anything - let it do stupid wife.
Your conversations are only two of you ... Of course, the husband surprised because he thinks you are a wife. But you're determined to do what you think ... So then you let him what he wants: never know, maybe it's like, and you? ..
What do you get.
You should never give up in order to experiment, even the most unusual way. The results may be the most unexpected, both for you and for him. But the fact that after several years of marriage, you'll see each other in a new way, make no mistake.
Is it worth it?
Worth. Try it at least once, and then maybe you will like the most. Boring certainly will not.
... Big Momma
In each, the most remarkable men have their drawbacks. One - a pathological womanizer, can not imagine my life without the constant change. Another in his personal rating puts you on the second place after football (at best) ... And the third in thirty or forty years, never learned to truly be independent. And besides, are not psychologically ready for equal marriage.
Even if the material he learned to provide for themselves, in terms of psychological maturity he may be a problem. If these words are fully applicable to your husband, you probably his education mainly engaged his mom, while dad or even absent from the horizon, or worked with his son is small and therefore not able to give him the stereotype of relationships with women, that boys learn primarily from their fathers.
In general, for some reason that did not happen, and my mother, as a woman simply could not teach his son a purely masculine qualities, such as for example independence. Therefore such a man can exist only passable in the "bundle" with someone else, and in his later life he will look for his wife, who has assumed the role of his mother.
And, as a rule, he finds it. This is a woman with a strong maternal instinct, when most of their mental energy she spends on her husband. As all this happens, no one knows exactly, but if you feel that your spouse tends to be this kind of relationship, perhaps you should try something ...
How to do it.
Dear, you have not forgotten the folder with the documents? And the fact that I have prepared for lunch, took? I told you that you called yesterday Sergei from the marketing department, and invited to his dacha? Are you sure I do not need to go too? No? Well, how do you say ... I think you someone else is calling. When the recall, call you to work ...
What do you get.
Trust in that select the correct style of behavior. Because if you make a mistake, or over time, your husband is "outgrown" his mom and she no longer needed ...
Is it worth it?
How long you'll be able to play this role? A woman who for some reason can not express their maternal instinct in children, it unleashes her husband. Are you on it? And it is worth it to do so?
... Admiration.
There are men enough confidence in themselves and their own suffering from low self-esteem. They constantly, consciously or not, comparing themselves with other men, and very often these comparisons are not in their favor.
And so the men of this type currently looking for a woman, for which her husband - is a god, and that will never question his merits and will only emphasize them, but all the disadvantages of a spouse is perceived not only as a continuation of its merits. On the shortcomings of such a woman, and stammer something will not. About what else ...
How to do it.
And how is it you have not noticed what is really a treasure - your husband? He's such a hardworking and caring, endows you with flowers on March 8 every year! And he loves his daughter, when they play together, her mischievous laughter does not stop for a minute.
And if someone says about it and something bad, then it is, of course, out of envy: very few people in this life is possible to marry a nugget ... no need to invent anything: just sing about what you see. And if you have enough patience, gradually it will become a habit.
Show off all your views as you are proud of her husband, and what did you get wonderful. But in no case do not overdo it with praise: often men of this type thin feel the slightest flattery, and if you can prove that your pious forgery - trouble is inevitable.
What do you get.
Are you married to a jerk? Hardly. As soon as will praise it, you are surprised to find that much of what you started to sing his praises, pretty close to the truth. And if in dealing with a child or to express his love for you husband is far from perfect - praise him for it ten times stronger: the results, be sure not to wait long.
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