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Is it worth it?
There are people who praise activate: they are working on them, trying to get rid of the drawbacks. That is, you praise them, and they improved their eyes. Others, on the contrary, they can be made to work, only to drive them into stress. In other words, they better act negative incentives, such ultimatums such as "If you do not learn ... I ..."
And if your husband from the endless praise and compliments will "rest on our laurels" and eventually become worse, then you should know that it refers just to the second group. So pity the nerves and stop it spoiling. Good Thing.
... His own.
Some potential husbands choose their wives of the women with whom they can feel their power over them. As a rule, in relation to other people, they are the same strong-willed, imperious, therefore, tend to reach great success in life - a good financial position and high social status.
How to do it.
Maximal success in this role is achieved at the lowest cost. Of course, if the psychology of blind obedience is close to you, like no other ... no problem. No fancy. No own thoughts. For you will think, decide and act your husband.
What do you get.
Unless your husband does not need "Big Mama", he probably quite quickly get the hang of. And it will feel like a real master, master of the family. Another question, as you become feel?
Is it worth it?
It will take some time, and maybe it will even bring you a kind of pleasure. But practice shows that the fee for this dubious pleasure, when you are not responsible for anything, we have to pay much more. Do you still remember this word - "self"? Remember? Strange.
With this style of behavior, you will have already forgotten it. However, exactly as the phrase "friends and friends", "confidence" and "the freedom to do what you want." But then do not be surprised when after some time, you still have to learn them again. Is it worth it to do now step back, then to come back with great difficulty?
... Unpredictable.
It's no secret that in fact anyone like people who are similar to him. And some men prefer these women, some of the features that are similar to themselves. For example, if one of these traits - unpredictability, in the best sense of the word. Monotony tires terrible, and thus brings boredom. And what it brings, we already know. So why not try to be spontaneous?
How to do it.
He expects that today you want to go to a restaurant? Do you offer to go to the amusement park - ride the rides. Ask you to buy cotton candy and visit all the attractions along. How long have you been doing this the last time? Together with her husband?
And the next day you're just hard-working housewife, who this time asks her husband to bring home a couple of bundles of asparagus or a little avocado on the third day ... you ... well, come up with something new will have to yourself. Develop imagination - it is now you really need to, because the main motto of this "role" - "every other day to be not the same as yesterday."
What do you get.
He will never know what you'll do next time. Intrigue, so you have to tighten it. Another thing is that someone like this intrigue, and some do not.
Is it worth it?
In fact, it is very risky method. Few of the men he will have the full taste. Especially if it will last forever, every day. The only thing we can safely guarantee your dear wife, is that it is boring in any case will not ... And that is a lot!
... Itself.
Probably the most difficult role to play. Probably, because the best of all possible scenarios for her need to write yourself. But here's the thing: you still on the job there was no time ... probably because we are not accustomed to show themselves to others, and to ourselves - neither good nor bad, but simply the way we are.
How to do it.
And how to do it, you can understand and realize only you and no one else. Feel what you really want, and do not hesitate to admit it. You used to be the mistress of her husband, and now let it be a lover for you.
Listen to yourself. Maybe you something is missing? Asking not to be ashamed, just take what you want, and you'll be rewarded. You can become for him by anyone, but you must be an individual. Anyway. Do you let it know now your husband. Does he did not deserve it? And you?
What do you get.
It all depends on you. But practice shows that you would not have done the most to you it will only get better. The first time your husband can not take you in a new "form", but then both of you will only get better. Because even the most wonderful lover ever get tired, and his wife, who does not look like anyone else - ever. And so the question "Is it worth it? "Will disappear by itself. How bad mask that is no longer needed.
SI Kalugin
Commented Article psychotherapist clinic "MERAMED" R.A.Loshakov:
The author correctly noted that for harmony in the family is very important to the expectations of the spouses in relation to each other justified; This is one of the main conditions for the stability of marriage.
In family life it is also important: if one of the spouses resides only in any one "role", after some time, it may begin to destroy family relationships and lead to misunderstanding and conflict between spouses.
In some cases, resolve these conflicts on their own can not. And then it makes sense to consult a specialist - psychotherapist to help family members deal with their personal problems to get out of a difficult situation, and build relationships with loved ones.
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