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How often have to deal with family life, the pitfalls of which earlier we did not even have thought of. Even yesterday, when making decisions about marriage, it seemed all so easy to believe that when a relationship between a man and a woman is love and respect, all can be overcome.
But what happens when it starts to live together? How to get through the difficulties and preserve the family?
First we need to always remember that each person should have its own space. Excessive frankness in the relationship will never benefit. Just because it dissolves in the other person you are trying to be part of it, and it always ends sadly.
It is important to realize that you are different people with their own interests, and it should be protected. You should never be closed only on the two of you. Have friends, chat, give it time. Then every minute that separates you from a loved one, will seem long, and you will strive for it.
The family relationships should be able to avoid conflicts.
Sometimes it's hard, but it is really necessary. After all, how many unnecessary words said in your heart that will not return back. So whether or not to do something that will soon have to regret?
If a conflict is brewing in the family, it is best to put it on the elucidation of time to give both calm down and sober approach to the conversation, instead of building it on the emotions.
It is necessary to be prepared for the fact that family life often turns into a routine, and sometimes it will seem that you do not carry the type of your partner. Do not despair, it is not a reason to divorce.
It's just say that you are too closely related and both of you need a little freedom. Sometimes it just helps to separate vacation to relax, to reconsider their views, and with renewed vigor love partner.
Often the reason for the divorce is called jealousy. Jealousy - a special state of the human soul, it is so strong emotion that she often covers them all and drowns out the voice of reason. Psychologists are of the opinion that jealousy - is banal fear of losing power over man.
After all, when we link their fate with others, we somehow think that he now belongs to us 100%. What he must think how we do as we see fit. Just because it's easier to control people. After all, the basis of any jealousy is the fear of losing a loved one and to be abandoned.
In women, this feeling very strongly developed. Therefore, jealousy, when manifested, is often unjustified, only instilled this fear. Therefore it is necessary initially to accept your partner for who he is.
Do not think that one day you will be able to change it. And it will be much better if you instead of jealous and controlling it, will enjoy every day with him.
Often jealousy is happening on the ground of lack of confidence. When we feel that we are unworthy of man. Then we allow this destructive feeling to possess us and to obey him his life. The recipe for happiness in this case, only one - love yourself.
Accept yourself for who you are, with all your problems, complexes ambitions. Believe that people who contact you - really want to be there, but do not think every time that someone it fun and interesting. The problem of all is that this you torture yourself and only yourself gives rise to conflict in the family.
Adultery is also one of the first causes, called divorce. Needless to say, any so-called facts of treason should be approached with a cool head. Often it seems to us that if a man has a new job, dating, it must necessarily lead to a change.
But I want to say one popular wisdom that men like to say: "leave no to someone, and from someone." It is necessary to think about it.
Remember, marriage - it is work, to some extent it is even an art, because to build a good relationship, based on mutual understanding and love, the strength is not for everyone. Sometimes really have a creative approach to conflict situations, to bypass acute angles where possible.
The most important thing - to keep these feelings and atmosphere of intimacy, because man is much easier to lose than to win back his trust and love.
Be wise to yield and give way to you!
Author Tatyana Savchenko
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