Recipe for happiness, or how to save marriage

How often have to deal with family life, the pitfalls of which earlier we did not even have thought of. Even yesterday, when making decisions about marriage, it seemed all so easy to believe that when a relationship between a man and a woman is love and respect, all can be overcome.

But what happens when it starts to live together? How to get through the difficulties and preserve the family?

First we need to always remember that each person should have its own space. Excessive frankness in the relationship will never benefit. Just because it dissolves in the other person you are trying to be part of it, and it always ends sadly.

It is important to realize that you are different people with their own interests, and it should be protected. You should never be closed only on the two of you. Have friends, chat, give it time. Then every minute that separates you from a loved one, will seem long, and you will strive for it.

The family relationships should be able to avoid conflicts.

Sometimes it's hard, but it is really necessary. After all, how many unnecessary words said in your heart that will not return back. So whether or not to do something that will soon have to regret?

If a conflict is brewing in the family, it is best to put it on the elucidation of time to give both calm down and sober approach to the conversation, instead of building it on the emotions.

It is necessary to be prepared for the fact that family life often turns into a routine, and sometimes it will seem that you do not carry the type of your partner. Do not despair, it is not a reason to divorce.

It's just say that you are too closely related and both of you need a little freedom. Sometimes it just helps to separate vacation to relax, to reconsider their views, and with renewed vigor love partner.

Often the reason for the divorce is called jealousy. Jealousy - a special state of the human soul, it is so strong emotion that she often covers them all and drowns out the voice of reason. Psychologists are of the opinion that jealousy - is banal fear of losing power over man.

After all, when we link their fate with others, we somehow think that he now belongs to us 100%. What he must think how we do as we see fit. Just because it's easier to control people. After all, the basis of any jealousy is the fear of losing a loved one and to be abandoned.

In women, this feeling very strongly developed. Therefore, jealousy, when manifested, is often unjustified, only instilled this fear. Therefore it is necessary initially to accept your partner for who he is.

Do not think that one day you will be able to change it. And it will be much better if you instead of jealous and controlling it, will enjoy every day with him.

Often jealousy is happening on the ground of lack of confidence. When we feel that we are unworthy of man. Then we allow this destructive feeling to possess us and to obey him his life. The recipe for happiness in this case, only one - love yourself.

Accept yourself for who you are, with all your problems, complexes ambitions. Believe that people who contact you - really want to be there, but do not think every time that someone it fun and interesting. The problem of all is that this you torture yourself and only yourself gives rise to conflict in the family.

Adultery is also one of the first causes, called divorce. Needless to say, any so-called facts of treason should be approached with a cool head. Often it seems to us that if a man has a new job, dating, it must necessarily lead to a change.

But I want to say one popular wisdom that men like to say: "leave no to someone, and from someone." It is necessary to think about it.

Remember, marriage - it is work, to some extent it is even an art, because to build a good relationship, based on mutual understanding and love, the strength is not for everyone. Sometimes really have a creative approach to conflict situations, to bypass acute angles where possible.

The most important thing - to keep these feelings and atmosphere of intimacy, because man is much easier to lose than to win back his trust and love.

Be wise to yield and give way to you!

Author Tatyana Savchenko

Happiness in family life

The main function of the family is its reproductive function - is the birth and upbringing of children, to ensure generational change. Quality what a person must possess in order to successfully implement this function of the family shall be the following.

Firstly, the importance of individual health of spouses and its impact on the health of the child.

Secondly, it is very important the ability to communicate with the opposite sex, to find common ground in any situation and at any age. Many centuries talk about the psychological riddle of sex.

In women, there are a lot of unknown men, and men - women. Men are often not available female logic - the logic of the senses, and women do not understand men detachment from everyday worries.

Therefore it is necessary to know the psychological characteristics of the representatives of the other sex, and when dealing with them to take into account these features.

Women are more likely than men, tend to communicate trust, more emotional, less restrained. Do female and male love has its own peculiarities. Women in the first place is the ethical and psychological appeal of men, so they always want to hear in your address kind words. Men love with their eyes, so they prefer the attractive appearance.

Happiness in family life is dependent not only on the depth of the first sense, but also the ability to keep it throughout their life together, showing each other tact, care, kindness, care, responsibility, responsiveness and stability.

Third, some skills in housekeeping: the ability to perform various household chores, plan the family budget, prepare food, and others.

Fourth, the preparation for the upbringing of children. This quality involves providing young people with a role in the upbringing of his shift, with the responsibility of parents for the upbringing of children, with the influence of the relationship of the spouses on the moral, psychological and emotional development of the child.

The educational function of the family solves the problem of transmission to their children moral values ​​and standards of skills, introducing them to the world, life in society, to communicate with other people.

The economic function of the family. The basis of the economic life of the family is its budget.

To relate the costs with revenues and best meet the reasonable needs of all family members must be able to plan the budget. It should be noted that young families are often the reason for the collapse of the family is an economic factor.

This is the result of social immaturity of young people entering into a marriage, the most characteristic in the early marriages.

Family leisure. Scope of family leisure least regulated in the life of the family, it is based on common interests of spouses.

Leisure weekday intended primarily to restore the family's physical and spiritual forces expended during the working day, and prepare for the next business day.

Leisure Weekend includes activities that contribute not only to the restoration of power, but also personal development, creation of health reserves.

Holidays - this is the most opportune time to organize a joint recreation, which helps to maintain warm and friendly relations in the family and its unity.

Favorable family - is the foundation of a healthy lifestyle, which means that the health of each family member. Only in the family can work together to implement all the components of a healthy lifestyle.

To create a happy family, young people must be physically, mentally and socially healthy and able to provide in full all the functions of the family.

Ckazochny sleep and goldfish

On the eve of the day when I found out about the pregnancy, I had a fabulous dream: a beautiful young man in a white dress with an open affectionate gaze gave me a "goldfish", he carefully placed it in my hand and disappeared in a cloud, as if it never was ...

"It must be a gift of an angel, messenger of heaven ... "- I thought. Sleep proved prophetic: My husband and I waiting for good news ... From the first day I felt very a proud and important - to me now maturing miracle - new life! This realization filled every day that some sacred sense - I did not come for nothing in this world. I I give him a miracle.

Already in the first trimester, I became notice a surprising change: exacerbated hearing, vision ... even familiar emotion I experienced as something new. Wise nature has thought of everything for us: it must I have awakened in me the primitive maternal instinct when his baby want to keep anxiety and hazards.

From conversations with my friends - moms I learned many interesting things. It turned out that they're just like me, found hidden the talents of: attraction to drawing, singing, prosody, intolerable desire create, create - in this period all It was necessary somehow to express awakened his creative potential.

Frankly: I felt itself is excellent, there was not frightening toxemia, or edema. Very pleased walks with her beloved husband warm summer evenings, starry sky, ice cream ... Yes, I'm the most happy ordinary little things!

The future "father" seemed excited about his new role much more than me. At first, he took all my pregnancy as a disease: his concern even I began to frighten her, as if mildly say impudence! He literally "Shaking" over me, as if I had a crystal Medieval vase unknown artist.

But I had the patience and forces to explain to him because of the day that Pregnancy - is the normal state woman I have no pain, I well, I feel good ... Finally, he began to listen to I gradually calm down. A more In order for each of my creative impulse - That compose a poem, then make the frame Photo of twigs, nuts and other things - he is alive and with joy I responded. My favorite was near and tolerated my whims for what I did not I stop thanking him.

Closer to leave me as, probably, at any pervorozhenitsy, exacerbated fears before the birth process itself, which Only then may say - and bad frightening. "Now this is going to happen and with me! - Horror whispered to himself I. But thanks to mom, she managed to find the right words to soothe his doch silly.

At that time, I did myself It was still a child. Now I think that it is my mother's attitude and support greater all helped me to mentally prepare for the leave. Contractions, doctors, vanity - all It left behind, as if in a fog. I took a deep breath and tired He opened his eyes a tiny tender lump lying on my chest ... My krovinushka my piece, my the soul!

It was a truly magical moment - I became a mother! once My "gold fish" would call me so I probably burst into tears. I become sentimental - it exactly! Child's first night in the hospital at mothers take to enable it to recuperate and come a. Then I felt a strong weakness, but somehow could not sleep.

Suddenly I heard a cry - I do not know why but near something stung. Overpowering fatigue, I walked to the sound of the voice. I do not know, match it or speak the truth, recognizes that the real mother crying the kid out of a thousand, but I Dilnaz called my - when I I decided to give her this beautiful Arabic name - "a gentle voice."

That night, I took her to his Chamber, in spite of all prohibitions and rigorous persuasion midwives. I do not I closed my eyes, but I was happy. I I did not feel tired and time just looking at her ... And I it seemed that the whole world has just the two of us….. Dilnaz grew and gained strength with each day.

First smiles and "agukanya" forced to cry even my serious and sometimes surly husband! I that's what I realized: it is not I help grow and be happy that the crumbs and it helps me to mature spiritually and build ... There were, of course, difficult periods: childhood diseases and the first "Lacrimal" hiking in the garden, and baby stubbornness ...

I saw it myself. we We were always on the same wavelength as if, accessible only to the two of us, we if it linked to invisible all surrounding the thread, Toe the line. It helped her understand, feel and move on. Although at times tormented by questions: how make sure to trust that She shared her experiences as general need to educate girls, because they are the future daughter, wife, Mom?

I decided to let her do as a You can most. Let her sometimes get awkward, but if you want something I only: wants to help vacuuming in three years - please knead dough - please let dust and flour, but we are fun, because we just learning! This communion, first turn, is vital to me Best!

Dilnaz was more than three months when I took her to the Kangaroo stole from, this is where more convenient than awkward stroller. It He went with me to visit a friend, habituated to people, to children. Being still quite crumbs, not afraid to go on the handles. Perhaps that is why it It is now so easy to go on contact with different people.

More baby she traveled from me in art galleries, parks, pool and beauty salon, summer cafes in the open air - I generally I try not to sit at home. I she constantly tells something - About life, plans, secret dreams ... she understands me or No, I do not know, but I believe that be sure to understand the future.

Now Dilnaz five years. It is a leader in the group, is able to read write. I understand that difficulties were and are just I think the most important thing - understand it, is not to educate, but It is to "understand", and, of course, love.

Angel I dreamed a reason: He entrusted me with a treasure in the form my "goldfish", now I It has to be good to her my mother, the most caring and tender, What was once my mom.