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Romantic, candlelight dinner, unexpected surprises and gifts, tedious wait internal meetings and nervous trembling before a date, walking, exciting kiss - it all usually happens in the early stages of development of relations. Not all, but many couples go through this.
Easy to Love becomes a stronger sense of the pair is getting used to each other, moving closer, then takes the important decision to bind their fate.
Marriage - is just one step in the development of relations. Wedding day is like fireworks - the excitement, flash emotions, emotional jolt. Obtained enough experience for a while and then get used to couple the rings on his fingers, slowly begin to realize that they are now family.
Festive fever passes novelty and excitement begins married life. To live together - this means learning from each other, it means work on yourself. Family life, however, two or loved each other, may not always be cloudless. What are the reasons?
I know one couple who seemed very harmonious and whole. They were very romantic. But when married, their relationship changed dramatically. Why is that? Yes, simply because they are relaxed.
He no longer gave her flowers, because I have not seen this much sense. She could no longer look after themselves as much as before, constantly irritated. Mutual claims nearly ruined their marriage.
It often happens that by meeting with each other, people are trying to embellish themselves, hide their shortcomings, but, having approached, no longer see the point and blacked out a compromise in which the controversial situations, as we did before. And, alas, many do not need to see more in courtship and romance. And a very good reason. Some marriages are crumbling under the weight of it everyday.
Therefore, the first rule: continue to take care of their half, even if your marriage is already 5 years or more.
This applies to both men and women. Lovely ladies! Your choices may also need it! Be more attention to each other, as in the beginning of your acquaintance. Assign each other goodbye, give flowers, give each other a nice souvenir - it will help refresh your relationship!
Conquer each other stumbles. Suppose that every time is like the first time! And do not forget to look after and take care of yourself! Especially not relax. Do not allow yourself to lower the bar. Some women say: "If I took a wife, all of it I like, and there is no need to change something." In vain. Do not stop the self-improvement!
The second rule, try to avoid possible conflicts.
If you have accumulated some problems, for example, at work, try not to tear them to their loved ones, but rather just calmly tell them. Do not accumulate in itself! Also, do not accumulate a dissatisfaction with each other. Better just to say that you are not happy and are looking for solutions to this problem.
The most important thing to take a break if you feel that a conflict is brewing, and then maybe, instead of the conflict will turn a normal conversation, which will bring better results than the violent showdown. As you know, in the heat of the moment, you can tell a lot more than it should be and it is unlikely to benefit the relationship.
Although there is a belief that sometimes small quarrels may even be useful for the discharge of both spouses. There are people whom it is even necessary. Still, the conflict - is stress.
Therefore it is best to sort things out more peacefully. And that is also very important, it is able to compromise. Maybe somewhere slightly behind, you get even more than if it insisted.
Rule three, remember that you - family, you - a team. You are now in one piece.
This means that even though you have placed their roles in the family who is doing what, and so on, you are now responsible to each other. You are now as a single integrated organism.
Try to act in concert to support and help each other. However, to solve problems, rejoice together and grieve. Walk hand in hand with each other and then all the problems will be no how much.
Rule Four, as often as possible tell each other "I love you! "
As is well known "women love with their ears." But men, too! Word - a very powerful weapon. They can injure a person, but you can heal. Use each other these weapons for peaceful purposes only!
It's so wonderful! Talk to each other as much as possible pleasant words. This is very important!!!
To live in a marriage - is an art! It may not be easy. All can be produced at once. But no matter what, do not give up !! Love - is not only a terrible force, but the main, the main force of humanity.
True love will carry all the obstacles in its path, and then you will succeed!
Live happily ever after. Love and be loved!
Author Marina Kulakov
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