6 typical female mistakes on the way to success

Why are at the same starting positions, some women fast enough move forward, they are perceived as equal partners, while others remain good and the executive officers and no more?

What is the secret of success and failure of some other?

The first steps in beginning a career often difficult, we learn from our mistakes, we get experience. Gradually, we are professionals. Unfortunately, professionalism is not always a prerequisite for career advancement. At the forefront here comes the ability to position itself, ie, then what we see employers and colleagues.

The reasons for women's failure in this field originates in the culture of education. From childhood, girls instill certain behaviors that they carry into adulthood. Not all of these models are effective and to help achieve success in their professional activities. Let's look at common mistakes that make us stagnate.

Error One:

  The desire to maintain good relations with all.

From childhood, girls are taught to care for others, to be nice and accommodating. Only this can be a real woman. If you help others, it is sure to be rewarded - the parents tell us. What would you like, we are often offered help, and then korim myself for kindness. But it's' too late.

How can you deny handsome colleague if he asks you to stay and help him to make a presentation? How can you refuse co-worker who has a sick child? Unfortunately, the work of such behavior leads to sad results. Women often spend time on the little things, and eventually pulls the routine work, which distracts from the more prominent and successful action.

To imagine we make the most stringent requirements, even when the work is not pleasant. But why we are sympathetic to the laziness and irresponsibility of others? We often grumble, but it does not put forward any any specific requirements. Cute colleague successfully hold presentations using your expert advice. But what do you get?

Frustrated by the thought that thee again benefited not appreciated? Maybe, on the eighth of March, he will give you a mug with your name. This is what you wanted? Popularity is not won by flattery and victims, and mutual respect, correct behavior and a reasonable distance.

Tatyana and Irina works as an accountant in a company. Responsibilities have absolutely identical. Tatiana respected her opinion counts, Irina employees are good, but that's just all the unpleasant and boring tasks all the time are with her, she always performs whose - that & lt; Urgent orders & gt ;.

Why is this happening, offended Il - Tanya does nothing, its nothing you can not ask for - or who do not work, and I'm all for people, all jumping around as if she were a princess, and remember me, but when they want it -That ask?

Conclusion:

Be able to reject those claims that appear excessive and poison life. Then your & lt; yes & gt; It will have a much greater value. Speaking & lt; No & gt ;, we protect their borders. Otherwise, we will be without prejudice to himself. Waiver must be clear, concise, and fast. We must firmly and confidently say: & lt; I'm sorry, but I can not do that & gt ;. Perhaps you have to substantiate its refusal. Liberate yourself time to tasks where you can develop their talents and show the leadership that is capable of more.

Error Two:

  Beris for all jobs that you offer, the only way you show your hard work.

Early in his career, we often think that is enough to be competent and diligent in his work, helpful and not to conflict. We want to show what we can do any work, even unskilled. Thus demonstrating their loyalty and hard work.

Unfortunately, the only reward for such behavior - the label of a man who can take on unskilled work, rather than undertake only those cases that can prove our competence and ability. Admit it, that would make 200 copies to the meeting, an hour after standing at the copier, not necessarily to finish university and have experience Head of Marketing.

For this enough secretarial courses. Many women believe that all heavy, requiring much time and effort they have to do things yourself. Have an assistant, a secretary to do the dirty work for them difficult for them, they believe that this operation. Strangely enough, most men consider themselves too educated for such work.

Immediately after graduation Secretary Lena got a western company. Two years later she was appointed the representative of the Director General in Moscow. How did she do it? The secret is simple. She did not wait when it will notice and appreciate, and acted as a facilitator, rather than as a secretary.

I delve into all things, do not take the initiative in the details - such as & lt; You do not even need to take a coffee break? & gt ;, namely that it was interested in - business. It is enough to energy, abilities, and most importantly the desire. Therefore it and perceived from the outset as a good appeasable girl, beautiful artist and trouble-free worker - as well as an equal business partner.

Conclusion:

Talk about your achievements. Beris for work that will demonstrate the ability. Demonstrate their competence. Focuses on the main not vyazni in the details. According to the present not rewarded perseverance and diligence, and new ideas, innovations and thoughtful suggestions.

Error three:

  Power leads to loneliness, I messed up character and one I did not love.

I will be masculine. Fear of becoming less desirable, having received authority sits in the minds of very deep. Since childhood, we were taught that to impose their opinion is not good that the task of women to make life as pleasant as possible associates. We believe that men do not like strong women, because they are unfeminine, that true femininity defenseless and fragile. Is it really?

At work, such traditionally female virtues of softness, passivity, helplessness always perceived negatively. Such people easily manipulated, nobody perceives as a serious partner who can be trusted. Previously such behavior was indeed justified. The woman was completely dependent on men.

Who changed the structure of society - women began to work, to lead an active social life. The myth of masculinity business woman likely comes from the uncertainty of the first women to gain power. Uncertainty makes us copy male behavior. But any copy always comical. In an effort to look like the head we deprive ourselves of any sign of feminine softness.

Being aggressive is simple. Marina wanted to raise. Finally, she was appointed head of the group. She soon came into conflict with all the employees of the department. Why did this happen? Marina so actively sought to comply with the new role that began handing out orders left and right, bring it, give it if someone objected to her, she immediately began to fall apart in the clamor and took offense.

She behaved as if she must all. It should be noted that this was the only manifestation of its power. Marina inherently insecure people are very afraid of making a mistake. Even in the new role, she continued to go to the head of the department to get a confirmation of the correctness of their decisions. Thus, it has shown its utter incompetence and lack of flexibility.

Conclusion:

For what would you be taken seriously, it is not necessary to look grymza. Truly desirable and feminine can only be a confident woman. The ability to exercise the power of time (to delegate) is an important management skills, testifying confidence. If you still feel insecure in a new role, go through a special training on the development of relevant skills.

Error Four:

  Wrong signals.

Eugene worked as an assistant in an advertising company. I came to this position in the hope that it will work well, and it will make the manager. Time passed, and nothing has changed. She had the appropriate education, peer recognition and trust of his boss. She lingered late, it was praised, but: nothing happened. Then Jack began to look for another job.

To no avail. All she offered, was limited to acting secretary and office manager. The final blow was the news that in the open position, which dreamed of Eugene, took the girl without experience. Why did this happen? Very often we do not understand what signals are sent to other people. We think about the meaning of spoken words, and does not pay attention to another language - sign language.

Non-verbal signals tell us much more than our words. We learn professional terms, we obtain diplomas, but the signals that we send to people talk about our weakness and indecision. Pay attention to the way men talk to women bosses. How often do they lower their eyes, guilty or playful smile, giggle out of place, or slow to respond.

They stretch the words, sometimes their voice trembling on the importance of the moment. How often they lowered their shoulders and head tilted. Unfortunately, most of the most common signals of this embarrassment, posing, sexy, helplessness, passivity. What are the signals we send such responses and receive.

Sexuality and pose - flirting or aggression on defenseless and passivity - mistrust, at best care. Do not treat a person who is willing to entrust an important and serious matter? Such a person can be sorry, it can involve, like, but no serious cases can not be with him - for that we need a strong and powerful people. Very often uncertainty and passive manner of speech issues.

How often we start with small things, rather than to go directly to the goal. We are so afraid to miss something that, in the end, vyaznem in the details and forget about the main thing. Perhaps this approach works well when dealing with a friend, but not in the business talk. Notice how often in his words we use so-called cautious phrase: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, what a pity, as it may be, I will try to do, it seems to me; offer too many answers to the question (of course, the opponent chooses one that is favorable to him).