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How to overcome his shyness and get other people to respect themselves. We often someone shy, shy in front of someone and just fear may bully who does not let you in night club (even if you have a license and a friend who works behind the bar)
new boyfriend or your girl (handsome with money that you do not miss a chance podnachit, which has everything that is not you). And what if the shy man - you zabivshiysya the corner - can be the most confident person? If you have never thought about such a possibility, then think again.
With the following tips, you'll be the guy to whom others will shyly lowered his eyes down, when you go in the room, and those who make a normal healthy man scream if you are close to make any sudden movements. You have to admit, it sounds tempting, does not it? So that's how you should behave for this.
Ideal confident person.
The first thing to remember, there are two behaviors:
1) When you constantly beat his wife, set fire to a neighbor cat, then you are taken away in handcuffs to the police station,
2) When you are wearing the latest fashion trends, to seek just using his charm, and wisdom, and force others to feel a couple of centimeters below.
We are interested in the second case, since the first embodiment includes physical bullying and intimidation that is beyond the scope of legality. If you are clever, educated and charming (or are trying to become one), then you do not need to use brute force and flaunt their criminal past to demonstrate all his "manhood."
Stick to their merits
Now, remember the main thing: to make others respect yourself, no need to tell other people think of you. Brag - this is an unreliable method and is based on it is despair. Instead, start creating a reputation as a person with dignity. Resist the pressure of your surroundings.
Even if you started smoking because your older friends said that it is "cool", it does not mean you have to repeat it in the future. Change their lives, their behavior and the consequences of their decisions. Say "no" to those things that you would not normally do. It has quite an impression on others, they want to be a little bit as strong as you.
Remember:
be independent of the social and professional pressure to adhere to their integrity does not make you less manly. In fact, it says that you have a strong character and worth having you as a friend or an employee. Do not try to be too assertive - this only undermines the value of your property.
Body language
At some point in your life you will have a complicated confrontational situations,. Rather than do as well as all use this opportunity to confirm their status and reputation of an independent person. The highlight of using his body to intimidate - understand it and realize that you are in confrontational situations,.
This does not mean that you need to include all at once at full speed with the use of foul language. Often, silence is actually a "gold." When you are constantly aware of the situation, those who want to frighten you, do not know whether you ever scared. If those who are opposed to you will not be able to read anything in your face, it would be genuinely uncomfortable.
They will not know what you think and how you will react in this situation. And even if you did not mean to hurt them, they may think that you have, for example, "black" belt in karate. Be steadfast and confident in these situations, never lose concentration: soschurte eyes and look at your opponents directly, without blinking.
Clearly, calmly and confidently say what the problem is and how you think it necessary to resolve it. Your every movement should be balanced, and if showing a finger at them, do it as if every movement of your fingers can overturn them on the floor.
Those who allow the situation in this way will win a lot more additional whist compared with those who are directly pairs of ears. On occasion, however, it does not hurt to show their anger. Only in such moments, when your face is all written, breath and try to calm down.
This will show that you can restrain yourself and you have everything under control. And there is nothing more frightening than a fully self-controlled man. People will know about your unpredictability, and you will try to bypass the party.
Outward appearance
And although you do not have to look like a man, bodybuilding, keep in shape it is necessary. Join a gym, make an effort and go there at least a couple times a week. If possible, hire yourself a personal trainer. Work, mainly on those parts of the body that are visible to the others shoulders and arms.
If you are not physically look as behaves, you can not take seriously. Adhere to the relevant stereotypes clothes: Purchase your English suit and use it as a bulletproof vest, and in professional and social life.
Even if you do nothing, your suit will say that you are an intelligent person who does not need to do a cool tattoo and have a box of the AK-47 in the garage to make an impression. The best way to win a reputation for using his intelligence, charm, education and ambitions.
In the English costume you can keep at a distance, even the coolest guy in the room, stretching out his hand for a drink and to demonstrate to all his gold cuff links from Tiffany & Co. But be careful, you do not want to look super, and come to some old wreck.
Intellect and education above all else
Although the look is very helpful to get other people to respect themselves - is not just a demonstration of your project. Sometimes you need to dig deeper. In fact, a person who knows five languages, and demonstrate this at a party, may be five times more interesting than the pumped thug with an IQ of less than 50.
The same applies to the person has traveled the world, jumped off with a parachute from Empire State Building, and shook hands with the president. Do something, for example, take part in a charity marathon. Show everyone that you are not afraid to live. And it does not need to be very strong physically. You can learn a foreign language, for example.
Break the shell, which is built around you, enjoy a social activity. Be sure that you look good and you will always have something to say (you can even pre-prepare a list of topics for discussion). Show yourself open person, smile, if someone looks at you, and for God's sake, do not stand in the darkest corners.
During the call, stick to your subject. For example, if you travel a lot, tell us about where they were last year, if you are interested in culture, then tell us about the art exhibition, which visited recently. After all, the art of "being respected" better comprehend when you communicate freely and behave openly, so do not talk about what you do not understand.
More importantly do not flaunt their weaknesses. If you have a bad game of pool, you do not need to take the call. Just tell me what you play bad. At the same time, emphasize its advantages: tell me what you love to play with them, say, football or basketball.
Once you have captured the attention of people who get close to those you are not interested, zastante them by surprise. Talk to them about you seen the news this morning, ask what they think about the political situation in any country. This can be a very unexpected for them, and you will be able to show their best side, demonstrating their knowledge.
What is art "to be respected"
In the end, it's the belief that you can overcome his shyness and win the respect of others. That is why such people are confident in yourself - physically, socially and emotionally.
They are those who learn to live with their disabilities, base their behavior on their own merits. These are the people who understand that ideal people do not happen, because like the loser in a corner, and from thugs in a bar has its drawbacks.
Substantially
Life - is a game-competition for influence between the different members of the human race, and you have to learn how to play it, if you want yourself to be the "master", and not "slave".
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