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How nice it sounds such a request: & lt; Could you please bring me the documents? & gt; The answer suggests itself: & lt; No, could & gt ;. But even better: & lt; I kind of head of the department & gt ;. Then who the real boss? & lt; I'm trying to work on the project & gt ;. You are trying? And who really works on it? Women are constantly apologizing - thus they want to show their politeness. And really - the helplessness and uncertainty about their competence.
Conclusion:
Talk about the points briefly and clearly explains the essence of the issue, then get acquainted with the lessons learned. If you need more information, you will be asked about this. Your behavior should be congruent, ie a harmonious combination of what you say, how you say and how you look at it.
If you say you're ready to take on a new area of work, it is not necessary in this case guilty smile and lowered his eyes. Instead, stay straight. Eat confident expressions and gestures. It is an open posture, open look, unambiguous statements. Instead of & lt; I did not understand the task & gt ;, rather - & lt; I need to clarify some points & gt ;. No need to discredit themselves. Such & lt; details & gt; create your professional image.
Error Five:
Indecision and passivity.
Natasha has long been fed up with work on her post. The department opened a vacancy for which she could qualify as with the necessary skills. But she sat in silence, thinking that she would have long offered a place if it suited him. But time passed, and no one offered a place.
Bottom line: we take a person from the outside, and Natasha held her anger and resentment, and to the chief and new staff, which, as it seemed to have taken unjustly. What prevented her, and just go straight to the chief state their desire? So, at least in the case of failure, it would have known about what skills it needs to develop, and at other times the head would mean its claims.
In fact, her boss thought that the place Natasha satisfied. Indecision, waiting and maneuvering almost inevitably lead to the collapse. Women often hold the given rules of the game. We rarely asks task and blindly follow the established system.
We do so, as is customary. But the one who depends on the rules can not see beyond his nose, he can not move forward. And only one who follows his own rules, is able to determine its own path and to make discoveries. The same applies to express their discontent. We were taught that their opinions need to keep to yourself, you have to be tactful, not to offend anyone. But it is not diplomacy.
Good negotiations must produce results that are beneficial to all participants. Most often, when we are unhappy, we are silent about this, we believe that everyone should guess. We have no objection, and closes. And if we decide to object, you are constantly looking for confirmation of his innocence.
It brought in women from childhood - be a good girl, do not argue with the older, wait, when you are called, do not go forward, you first think, and then speak, be silent when adults are talking. Since being brought up duty and diligence.
Employees who perform their work safely, accurately and punctually, give the expected result, need for quiet work in any company. They have all the chances not to lose the job for a long time. However, his career is done by those who use the knowledge to develop their skills, to demonstrate special abilities.
Conclusion:
As a rule, all that we have in life, it's what we asked for. Requirements should be clearly defined. We need to talk about their desires and what you are ready to make efforts to implement them. Success comes to those who clearly and distinctly present their ideas, express their wishes and put requirements. Thus they show that they want to carry out the difficult and unusual assignment.
Error Six:
Emotionality
Dasha just idolized his boss. And it was for that: he let her go twice a year for a session at the institute. Always so polite conversation. Always thank you, please, how you doing. True salary was small - Dasha's girlfriend from the institute have earned much more. But they did not have such a nice boss.
They have to prepare for the session in the workplace, and the good word from the boss did not hear it. Dasha felt that he owed much to - where else will be treated so well! Many women who have all the chances for career advancement feel so strongly bound and obliged his company or boss that does not dare to make any changes.
They are grateful for the fact that they are well treated. Emotional attachment is a convenient ground for manipulation. Our opponent can force us to focus on the emotionally strong, but not the most significant aspect of the question. Emotional and ability to think logically are not mutually exclusive qualities.
But when we see a worried person, we immediately draw the conclusion that he was not able to think logically. Appreciate feelings, but do not always show it. How often do we take to heart quite ordinary things. We misinterpret the actions and words, think up a lot of the interlocutor, rather than that of his right to ask. It makes us very vulnerable on the road to success.
Head dropped a random phrase, and are already discussing the events for the year ahead, draw hasty conclusions, cheat themselves. Alla worked in the men's team. Each week, she had to participate in the stocktaking meeting. Chef judged the work of each, and sometimes Alla hands trembled with fear that they would discuss it.
And the boss is often minced no words, and each such meeting was for Alla strong emotional shock. After these events, she was crying and she was afraid that she will soon be fired. It is not surprising that when a vacancy project manager for Alla recalled only briefly.
Summary chief was brief: & lt; I need a strong man, capable mind me, just so I understand that it can defend the interests of the company and find out yourself in a difficult situation & gt ;.
Conclusions:
Lack of emotional attachments to help you easily and coolly assess the situation and do its job better.
Try to minimize the conversations on personal matters in the presence of supervisors and colleagues. Understand that attacks and criticisms need not necessarily be taken as a personal insult.
Learn to respond constructively to criticism and use it as a stage for further growth. In the end, if you have not specified on your mistake, as if you could fix it?
& lt; Well, what you pay attention to it, I will correct this item in the report & gt ;. - Responds to the facts and not the emotional envelope criticism.
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