15 reasons why marriage is not possible

For many girls, family, strong bonds of marriage - is an important component of a happy life. Well, who does not want to be confident in the future, to live in a marriage lawfully? Alas, not all men share our, female desire to create a strong family ...

My personal opinion: a civil marriage - is not marriage. This cohabitation of two people who play in the family, try on new roles, uncertain that the new status and responsibilities will make them happy.

And most of all, the initiator of "trial marriage" becomes the name of a man, sometimes against the wishes of the woman. How do I change the situation? How to ensure that, by the same duties unreal law wife, wife Add rights law?

Cohabitation or a family?

Once the term "civil marriage" means the family relations, officially registered in the registry office, but blessed sacrament wedding and living together outside of marriage was called vulgar word "cohabitation". Now cohabitation is called civil marriage. Union consider a civil marriage if the couple lives in the same area and is a common household for a month.

A marriage registered in a registry office, now called Marriage. Why do so many couples do not officially register the marriage? Recently I asked a friend why men prefer a civil marriage, and received a comprehensive response that confirms my suspicions: is not it a man enjoys the same benefits as married, but remains free.

Women living in a civil marriage, consider themselves married, men prefer to talk about myself as a bachelor. For women, marriage - is the logical culmination of love courtship, recognition of her worthy to be a wife and mother, the proof of her female usefulness. For a man, marriage - it is emotional maturity, willingness to support a family and raise children.

WHY formalized marriage?

1. Marriage - announcement of his final and irrevocable choice. The unique point of reference for every family.

2. The law relationship, stamp in the passport, the problem with divorce - all this makes the spouses to seek compromises out of difficult situations, as in a civil marriage, any disagreement can be a convenient excuse to complete relations.

3. Make relations should be if you decide to have a baby. Do not even discussed.

4. In case of death, divorce and other things, unofficial husband (wife) - no rights will not have.

5. The two "row on the sea of ​​life" much easier - try it and see!

PLUSES civil marriages

1. Causes of ordering sex with a regular partner, and it is a habit of accumulating loyalty.

2. Teaches psychological compatibility and arrangement of life.

3. Allows you to check whether he is a man who needs to get married. Young before registration will know whether they can get along under one roof, will survive any problems related to everyday life.

4. Do not be officially divorced and regret about wasted money for the wedding.

5.Grazhdansky marriage may serve as a prelude to marriage official, when it is only for the terms.

6. There is the feeling that you are somebody's property, freedom of action is maintained.

7. When the two converge loneliness, but they are still not sure that this is the perfect option. After a certain period of time or there is a strong love or cooling, and everything falls into place.

15 REASONS WHY MARRIAGE IS NOT POSSIBLE:

1. No man sees her husband, because not ripe for marriage the husband will do its utmost to shirk responsibilities at home, preferring to entertainment and leisure. He was not used to the fact that on his shoulders shouldered all sorts of everyday problems. Therefore it is better to find someone who will meet your needs.

2. If a man abuses alcohol or drugs, with dangerous and civil marriage.

3. If a man spends a lot of time with friends, then for their wedding - a betrayal of his male "I" and loyal friends. They think (in fact, it is so) that after his marriage to spend with your friends as much time as before, will not succeed. In such a case, or must leave or wait until all the friends did not marry.

4. Financial insecurity of men. If cohabiting low income men forgiven, then, for her husband (the children's father) currently looking for a decent woman, and preferably more than her salary.

5.Somneniya the right choice of future life partner. She is pleased with this man, but love him truly prevents the feeling that "her man" somewhere else in the future. She wants to wait.

6. Sometimes a woman is opposed to formal marriage because of the negative example of their parents or friends when marriages end in divorce.

7.Pervoe, which fears a man, it is deprived of liberty. If it does not work up the boy, then it is understandable, but if it is a mature man, it's worth thinking about the possibility of future life with him.

8.Chasto young men think that to begin to get an education, find a decent job, a career, to have the necessary material means to support his family and to ensure a normal life and development of their future children.

For young people, it is the right action, but if a man says to marry you, after finalize is very necessary for the country project that it and work something left on the strength of two or three months, or after it something to finish it, dozavershit, dosovershit ... How do you treat this? Time is running out and the implementation of high hopes in the near future is not expected ... What could it mean? This means only one thing: he did not marry you!

9. Some men are indifferent to the marriage ceremony, considering that it does not change anything in the relationship then why waste this time and money. For this reason a loving woman is usually very easy to handle.

10. Some men are afraid of responsibility: probably he was not willing to give you a promise to be a perfect husband. A living civil marriage, saved a certain sense of freedom and irresponsibility, you do not have, and owed nothing to anybody.

11. A man can see a woman friend, but not life partner. Therefore, it is in the early stages of a relationship to define priorities and common interests.

12. Divorced man is afraid to repeat his mistake, so it will be a long time to study a woman, will be decided before the wedding. You may have to live with him in a civil marriage, that he was convinced that you are very different from his first wife, and family conflicts you will be much less. Pressure on the divorced man is not necessary. If he really loves, give him time and he would come himself.

13.Inogda men checked feeling like his and yours. He was pleased to spend time with you, make love, but to get married, he is in no hurry. If this situation is prolonged for a long time, it makes sense to think, and whether such a person to you, whether he likes you and you're it.

14. Various social and material situation of the spouses can often become a stumbling block. Man feels flawed next to financially and socially independent woman.

15. The man often thinks: why change something, if they so good? If you just as well as it might, indeed, nothing is changed. But if you have other plans, then think what to do.

How to marry his man

All your friends are married and to finally finish your fate sends unintentional encounter with a former classmate that you're in school and are not considered human.

All ten years of school you were sure that it belongs to the category of small rodents.

In short - "gray mouse". And now this mouse down listens to your story about a promising new work turns the gold ring with a diamond on the ring finger of his right hand and a lazy drawl, or said, or meows: "And I, my husband is not allowed to work. By the way, you're from our class one remained unmarried. "

This is a blow. Almost knockout.

You feel sorry for babbling in response that the gentlemen you a dime a dozen, that for you in the first place career, and then marriage, you're all a supporter of civil marriage, and "who needs this stamp in your passport?".

But the former mouse is not doslushivaet you to the end, she interrupts you mid-sentence, as if saying jokingly: "You better try all the same though someone Okrut. Do not disgrace our class" - and leaves, a dazzling smile you goodbye.

Common situation? Only one way out.

Marry, once and for all to silence malicious gossip.

Make it much easier than it seems at first glance.

Where and how to meet the future elect - this is a topic for another article.

We assume that you already have a young man with whom you spend your free time. He once you have, or have a long and boring one - it does not matter.

The main thing is that he is married to you is clearly not going to.

But marry, if you carefully carry to these tips.

Council first

Forget everything you have advised all fashionable women's magazines. Or remember it all, and do the opposite. Do you want to get married? Forget words: independence and feminism, modern and hypersexuality, purposeful and strong-willed. Glossy magazines inspire you, what are women like men?

So remember - this is nonsense! A man can be like these women, but they marry others.

- You stagger the imagination of his partner acrobatic in bed, and your sexual technique on the verge of science fiction? Then am I not surprised that you're still not married. It is unlikely that your man decides that you have learned all this through books. Of course, a virgin in marriage modern man does not hope to get, but easy inexperience in this case you do not play hurt.

- You always bragged that do not know how to cook, and to talk about equality between men and women in the kitchen? Then again I not surprised that you're not married yet. You'll laugh, but for some men, though they are a hundred times inspire you to converse nutrition - it's a matter of life and death. Of course the delicious food. Home. And even the man who is eating is not capricious or whimsical, will, at most, simply flattered, if you're ready for it.

Council second

Never criticize your man, unless, of course, are going to hear from him a marriage proposal. This advice you've heard, probably more than once. But this prohibition and often violate the girl sat up in the Bride. They are constantly criticizing his friends, his mother, his work, his habits, his hobbies, his clothes and even dreams. Do not do that.

Just remind yourself often that an adult is not correct that you yourself do not miss perfection. In the end, tired of your critics, the young man can ask you a reasonable question: "If I'm such a bad, what the hell are you still with me? Get the best." And it will be one hundred percent right. Now, remember. Or find yourself better, or do not criticize.

Tip Three

Try to be for him something absolutely indispensable. You say - no one is irreplaceable? No. But you have to be so, for whom has married. But first you must understand her man. Do not be the best cross stitching, or the best look. It is necessary for you, but certainly not him. I understand that it's really important in life.

For example, your potential husband to distraction likes to play backgammon. He can play them for hours. He took this for all my friends and relatives, and those, no matter how loved him, sent him for a long time with these backgammon far away.

But not you. You do not know the rules? Learn. And it becomes for him unfailing partner. Let it wake you up at three o'clock in the morning. View on the face of passion, and sit down to play.

Believe me, you will become for him indispensable. Indeed indispensable.

Tip Four

Analyze what is the real reason that your young man does not want to marry. It happens that the reason is not in you. There are a lot of reasons that hinder a man to take such a serious decision as marriage.

Some of them will seem ridiculous and frivolous. But remember, it is only in your opinion. And he, for example, in all seriousness does not want to get married because of his frightening pre-wedding chores. If this is the case, let him know that you have this problem in any case not to take on his frail shoulders, and charge it to my parents.

Many men are afraid to marry because they are afraid of the terrible word "forever." Let him know that if something does not work out, you at any time divorce, as did thousands of couples to you.

Tip Five

You're doing well, as I have advised, and he still has yet to make you an offer. Tip Five - push it. How to do it? You better know your man. Think about it. Here the approach should be individualized.

I can only cite the examples of how their potential husbands encouraged my friends to give a long-awaited result.

A friend of mine just said to the man that she liked his name, and she would very much like myself the same. Flattered young man offered her hand and heart the next day.

Another friend of mine, taking advantage of his superstitious young man asked the fortune-teller said that urgently need to get married. And as a matter of urgency anybody except my girlfriend at the young man I was not, and he married her to everyone's satisfaction.

So, as you can see, it is enough to show imagination and ingenuity, and believes that her husband is already in your pocket.

Just before you get married, think, and it really what you want? After all, freedom is freedom. And in view of "gray mice" can and spit.