Second marriage - the risk of all the rules

How could we not rejoice all the benefits of a free life, sooner or later we will think about the wedding.

Especially hard to come back to this idea after the failure of the first marriage. But such is the nature of women, pulls us to hang himself on the neck collar ...

What do you know a divorced woman

One is always easier than two. That she knows exactly, especially if she has already had the opportunity to enjoy all the pleasures of life together. You do not have to no one held accountable for the evening, listening to inappropriate comments about their appearance and guessing the tea leaves, when your only deign to return home.

Anyway, wander into the back streets of male psychology is not too fun. Especially after all the research conclusions are very disappointing. After several years of marriage, it is obvious that you never will not wait (and you can not get) from a man as expressions of love that you deserve.

At best, he will try to portray something like 8th of March. It makes no sense to wait from him fidelity and devotion. Since it is indisputable proof of the love that he still remembers about you.

Anyway, is it possible to understand the creature, who grow facial hair? Perhaps that is why the application of the last lover of the series: "I am on you will never marry" in a divorced woman is melancholy smile ...

Who says I want it?

And indeed, he, poor fellow, and head clogging horror stories about predators prowling the world in search of unmarried men do not come, you're on this subject have not even thought of that. But now, all joking aside, once your partner to speak on such a slippery subject, would have to really weigh the "pros" and "cons" of the secondary marriage.

And think about what is really there. People say that the second marriage "by themselves." And that has its reasons. You're not a young girl, to whom love had fallen, as a natural disaster. And before you make another important decision in your life, look to have a better partner.

If he has an amazing sense of taste, then you do not know how many years will have to carefully monitor him and the clothes of his (God forbid spot on the inner side of the pad).

Even worse is the type of strict liability - it will check all the monthly bills and harass you reprimand for what you have not paid for the apartment in April. By the way, to deal with all these matters will still have you.

GHOSTS OF THE PAST

And not only this sadness. You noticed how fear runs through you, if your brand new makes any gesture, even remotely resembling your ex. We humans are superstitious, and even every insignificant detail can see a hint of future problems.

One of my friends immediately retreated from the cute and nice guy just because he told her some ice, reminding her former husband ... There is a ghost of drags and your lover (especially if he was already married), they have it even more.

Former girlfriend or wife and children from his first marriage, and the whole complex of memories and experiences. And you, if you seriously decided to link it with his life, will have to examine it carefully and clean as an inveterate dirt. Especially a lot of trouble may occur with the former.

These two seem to be several years tied some kind of relationship, and, anyway, the link remained. The woman let even pass his klutz in good hands, unless it around, you will want to help the board or expose his inner self.

Although it is likely, does not claim to your place, get rid of her goodwill have once and for all. In the end, its current situation proves that her technique was not the best.

ONLY YOU DECIDE

Here's a dilemma. And the most unpleasant - no one will help you solve it. Even a psychoanalyst (especially Russia). Painfully intimate question. Especially do not listen to friends who have an infinite number of their own reasons to give or not to give you in marriage.

Here and jealousy, and sincere intentions, and what is there not. In any case, you have to make the decision herself. And the main thing - to understand, are you ready to own a second marriage. For mature love should be cherished and nurtured like a rare flower, one false move - and it will wither.

Patience, the ability to understand or notice the little things and the little things do not - that's the law of re-marriage. And if you still can not put up with mud on his boots or crumbs under his plate, maybe worth the wait?

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How to Marry, a trap for a nice bachelor

Do not sinned against the well-known truth, if we say that every woman wants to get married.

Only here the man now in no hurry to get married. Celibacy may concern the immediate future, and maybe a lifetime. So, you got an inveterate bachelor.

What to do? Why did not he marry?

At first,

  it is convenient to have a regular sexual partner   - It is always "at hand", studied the tastes of each other, which increases the chances for a good sex and reduce the number of "tedious" courtship. Moreover, there are confidence in the health of an intimate partner. At the same time a man wants to feel independent, saying that I'm not her husband, promised nothing, if anything, can and gulnut.

Secondly,

  men want to maintain control over their place of residence.   At the same time they are happy to let us into their lairs, and not resist if we are in a heart attack from the horrific mess, grabs brooms and rags. On that and expect: great month does not wash dishes, leave the empty bottles, where they were dopit, and get a result is not a scolding from his wife, and another batch of sanitary measures and affectionate reproaches like "Why are you so flat run lapusik ? "

Third,

be unmarried cheaper As it would be a shame as it sounds. Over time, we become less demanding and willing to do without a gift for Valentine's Day, but would not hear in response: "I do not like it - let us part." Besides, any man does not like to think that one day, if the burst divorce, "all that is acquired back-breaking labor," will have to share. They are just afraid to get married! Maybe your man grew up in a family where dad gave full pay, and then begged my mother ruble beer with your friends? After these examples of very few people want to wear the proud name of "husband".

Fourth,

  and so it may be that you yourself brought down a potential husband to pantalyku.   For example, in his time flirting, arguing that the stamp in the passport is not important to you. He memorized. And now, even being in love, you do not want to impose a hateful marriage bond.

Bad advice

How to marry as to drag him to the registrar?

Method of distribution "of aerial"

Wave the nose certificate from the antenatal clinic and ask: "Well, your passport with you? Aida sign! "That's just a risk to hear that the" bed - not a reason for dating. " As you begin to put pressure on the man, he will be protected, and quite rude. And if they marry, then always remember that you deceived him (agree that the child - a case of two people), and in the future will use this to justify their sins.

The method is simple: to put pressure on the pity

Arrange something, resulting in an accident and find yourself in a bind. Ideally, if everything happens according to his fault. As an honest man, "the man will be obliged to take care of you, will suffer, will not give up and eventually marries. That's just what you neurotic henpecked?

Method extreme: to intimidate

Ask your dad or older brother to talk to your boyfriend "manly." Well, if your relatives look intimidating. Let them, achieving consensus, do not let him out of sight up to the wedding hall. The husband will continue to obey you, but ... Research shows that the fear of his wife often leads men to alcoholism. It is necessary to you?

Bach can sit on the neck

Social mature man to persuade to marry is not necessary. He himself understands that the family gives him the opportunity to be held as a person. If a man has not "grown" psychologically before marriage (and it may be in fifty years), to link it with his life can be dangerous for you - end up being even more problems.

If you want to not just "run married" for the status, and make a real family, talk to your man. What does he want from life? Do it to you any Therefore desire that you no longer fit his idea of ​​his wife? Generally, when a man makes you a reasoned comments is good and talks about a possible term of marriage.

If it concerned property issues, enclose a marriage contract - nothing fancy and reprehensible in this. If a man can not carry a conversation, but you really want to be with it, to continue the relationship, do not forget about yourself. If he does not give you any guarantees for the future, why you have to consider him a man all his life?

It is not necessary to surround bachelor undue concern in the hope that he does not want to get away from the warmth and comfort. He will begin to perceive you as a mom, and moms do not get married. Or will sit comfortably on your neck, believing that his presence paid off from commitments.

Things to think about:

Approximately 32 percent of singles are unhappy with their sex lives, each second is ready to marry. Only 3 percent of bachelors are not going to start a family.

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