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Unequal marriage
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Coming in uneven marriage, ask yourself the following questions:
What attracted him to you, and how long you can keep it this interest?
What attracts you to it, and how long-lasting this interest.
Does he not lost over the years?
Absolutely Are you confident and able to support themselves financially?
Can you put up with public opinion?
Can you really imagine your marriage after ten or twenty years, in their old age?
Social inequality
When Lilith, clever and beautiful, the owner of a luxury furniture store, her friends introduced her future husband, they, to put it mildly, we were surprised. Chosen was simple fitness trainer, besides her age of 6 years. It was clear that the guy is nothing for the soul, and age is clearly not appropriate.
However, the wedding was held, and six months later a young husband headed the subsidiary company of Lilith. In a few years, everyone forgot about the social inequality of the spouses, but Lilith confesses that at first was unpleasantly surprised by the coldness of many acquaintances.
Social inequality is one of the most ugly. A society divided by caste, does not like to mix their own layers. Prosperous lady willing to forgive her husband, did not get her on the shoulder, but hardly understand if he earns 10 times less than it, and rides on the tram.
And yet it has good prospects of marriage, if she would give him a chance to be implemented, and it will be smart enough to not get hung up on inequality. Fortunately, the power of men is expressed not only in his money. It should not care about the others, if every morning you come out of the bedroom happy. A bank account can be in the end, open the joint.
Emotional inequality
Anna grew up in a family of circus performers and a child accustomed to a nomadic life. At nineteen, she had opened her own riding school, and all the free time spent in the stables or hitchhiking with friends.
Janis, 40 year old divorced businessman, led to his daughter Ana, and at first sight fell in love with a dashing rider. From that moment began the path of love is very different people. They began to live together, but Anne did not change their habits.
It could be broken in the night and go dancing in a nightclub, suddenly visited coping with insomnia. Or to leave things in the backpack and drove off to meet "stunning sunrise" in the Alps.
She laughed good-naturedly at Large and unsportsmanlike Janis and never took it with him, "not to drag myself to the bag." He patiently waited for her to gulyanok and travel. These two could be considered a happy, if not infinitely sad eyes Janis.
Often, meeting the other features we are absolutely not typical, we can not help admire the fireworks this life or secular, chilling calmness and think you have found a second, the missing half. We believe that this, so unlike us people best understand and appreciate us.
When the first touch of romanticism passes, we find that tied to a man who can not understand us in most of our actions. We have to make excuses to others, hoping to be heard and understood, quietly turning in the house for family fights.
The prospect of such a marriage, alas, joyless. It soon becomes clear that one of the spouses lives its full life, and the other a patient adjusts to the other. In some ways it resembles the balance of relations sadist and masochist, with the only difference that here no one really gets fun.
A good yield can be a compromise in which both agree among themselves on the "long leash". In short, constitute a body of laws and regulations, which prescribed that they are ready to forgive one another, and what is not. Usually enough hardship with each other divorced wife in a fit of sudden awakening of hatred dividing every last spoon.
Then quickly enter into the next marriage. New partners are the absolute opposite of the previous one, and the family - a safe haven for the exhausted traveler, where both sought hoping to finally find harmony.
They acquire it, and then to quiet winter evenings unbearably long for previous abnormal, but so sweet and enchanting relations.
Just inequality
She - a serious and prosperous, intelligent and independent: and unhappy. Just one cup of coffee in the morning, a single gram of alcohol on the job, no calories after six friends - a lady friend - finalists Uimblondona, vacation in the Seychelles, SPA in Switzerland.
He - a freelance artist in a shabby sweater on his elbows. Roach on the newspaper, 2 packs of cigarettes per night, throes of creation and antidepressants at the insistence of my mother, a professor of the conservatory.
Her life is boring and is subject only to time management. He does not know who will wake up tomorrow. He brings in her life lacking flavor, the smell of fornication and tragedy, glamor and pathos of poverty idleness.
In fact, with all that is possible to live, if not embarrassment that hangs over it like a cheap perfume smell it. When she bought him a suit from Armani, he refused to put on a party for her friends. She could not take it - it was inconvenient.
But it turned out even worse when he fell asleep on the couch in the living room, upivshis cocktails and called the audience "bombastic rabble." Friends pointedly did not react, but in their eyes, she read a pity - a feeling, which ran diligently for so many years.
Perspective:
lost a lot of friends, buy a new sleeping with him forever lose faith in men who have a boy and name him Leonardo da Vinci: the list goes on.
Inequality - it is on the inequality that we must get used to him, like a tight suit. However, a suit can lose weight. Is it possible to lose weight by relationship?
I will never believe that a man who loves and respects a woman, are not credited for her small part of their habits and principles. If between the priorities of the partner and their selfish man chooses himself, it is worth considering the nature of the relationship.
The motivation of these people is often reduced to the commonplace use of funds and possible partners. And the audacity stems from a false sense of exclusivity and a giant inferiority complex. People who are satisfied with all this, it is necessary to think about why they like to suffer?
The rich and jaded life sometimes leave the islands to the wilderness to get his share of hardship. But sometimes the game "The Last Hero" we settle into his bedroom and stretched during extreme confinement on the island for years and decades.
Excuses - "come to its senses, he will find himself a job, finished a novel, get an offer from Hollywood" - are not working. Grains germinate on miracles carefully flavored with soil. Why sacrifice for the sake of self-respect ghostly love?
What should not be forgotten, entered into an unequal marriage:
Over the years, the status of spouses may change.
Sex takes too an important role in human life, to forget about it.
The marriage contract came up for just such occasions.
Public opinion is not important at first glance.
Sometimes it is necessary to listen to the opinions of others.
Marriage is a mutual responsibility, not the responsibility of one over the other.
If you are happy, nothing should stop you!
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