Attention Girls: I have dealt with marriage!

Caring father

If the object of your passion have children from a previous marriage, this fact will certainly leave its mark on your relationship. Say you were planning to spend the weekend with friends, but at the last minute calls and beloved child asks dad to go with him to the zoo.

Cried With Friends! You can give any number of examples, but the result is one: in most cases, chosen favors the interests of the heirs.

Tactics and strategy: Of course, broken plans and catches from time to time, the feeling that you are in the "flight", depressing and frustrating. But be wiser not to aggravate the problem, putting a man faced with a choice: "Either me or your child." If he is truly a loving father, the choice will not be in your favor. It is better to humbly acknowledge that "Daddy's Day" - is sacred.

And I agree, reverent attitude to children - a great feature in the list of the advantages of a partner. Convince chosen, that you may in no case against him to communicate with the child, on the contrary, be happy. But, if you can, let the pre-notified of future "Daddy Days", so as not to disrupt your joint activities.

Catcher vivid impressions

Another problem that poisons the dialogue with divorced men - increased tendency to last riotous living. You got just such a gentleman windy? Take the time to put categorical diagnosis of "a womanizer and playboy" re-try.

What causes men to indulge in all serious (in the list of the stormy meeting with friends, a series of young ladies, restaurants, etc.) after the break the bonds of marriage? Some catching up over the years of "abstinence", held in marriage and other driven by desperation to prove to themselves that they are still "hoo! "

Sexologists say that in the first months after the divorce again gained their freedom to develop supermen unprecedented sexual activity, one "fighting friend" on a more or less permanent basis, and an unlimited number of "alternate airfields".

Tactics and strategy: If you suspect chosen in such excesses, the council one: be patient and slowly try to instruct him on the right path. But, God forbid, not tedious sermons - heard plenty of it fill in the mating season - and actions. He is a passionate film fan or theater-goer?

Stock up on the tickets - and forward to watching! Amateur attacks on nature? Go out of town! Psychologists say that men often subconsciously want to get close to them was a man, restraining the destructive cravings for "improper conduct".

In general, if you see the perspective in your relationship, is included in the fight against "evil predilections." Experts say that the most difficult to ward off "break free" man of many ladies. Experts recommend a close eye on a string of girlfriends say, raging and calm down.

Typically, after several months of grueling "flesh feast" on playboy descends insight: "They're all alike! "Yesterday's Casanova stops on a single. That was then, and will take "lukewarm"!

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Every 10-13 seconds, the planet is divided couple. In more than 90 per cent of cases the cause of the divorce of couples with many years of periodic treason are some of the partners.

50 percent of women and 33 percent of men hold a grudge against his former partner for ten years after the divorce. In order to "cool off" from the former sense, women should be six months to a year and a half men - one to two years.

Most of those who have managed to create a new family, made it within two years after the divorce, 67 percent of men and 71 percent women.

So it makes sense to "strike while the iron is hot": on the expiration of 5-7 years, the desire to remarry sharply reduced both the ladies and gentlemen have.

They went to talk

Thrice officially created the family writer Darya Dontsova, oligarch Boris Berezovsky.

Four married singer Lyudmila Zykina, actress Tatyana Doronin and Lyudmila Gurchenko married - "cop" Alexey Nilov, TV Leo Novozhenov.

Five women had Andron Konchalovsky, spouses - singer Irina Ponarovskaya.

To save, you need to fall in love

When possessed fierce desire to save man (from failures, depression, selfishness or spiritual delusions), and most importantly - on the horizon appears a worthy object for salvation, not in a hurry. To start think and ask yourself a few questions.

Playing the Victim

Love, as it is known - is a willingness to sacrifice and give. Today's favorite, for example, sprained ligaments, lies in bed and groans, and after him, of course, have to make love with maternal care. But if after a while, his girlfriend "cut" with a favorite work comes his turn to serve as a "vest" and give her moral support.

What's so surprising? - Any person at a time can sometimes prove to be helpless as a child, whether to blame life's adversities, or health status, and at this moment he needs the support of a partner. And a good pair of people quickly change their roles to give temporary support to those who "weakened."

It is quite another thing when the role of the martyr and the comforter tightly secured. For example, the wife is worn for a long time with the idea to bring her betrothed to the people, and he looks for the fifth year in a "dignified and creative work" and waiting for appropriate proposals lie down in front of the TV with a beer, she left him carefully in the fridge.

Recognizable picture?

The role of the eternal mom - it's a trap. Think about whether your kindness brings joy even to someone? You most? Hardly.

Not to mention the benefit: giving more and more - and get nothing in return.

And most of the "victim" is in vain. Worse, it harms adult child, you have dedicated their lives. His irresponsibility grows in proportion to the efforts to save it. He is accustomed to the care and worse to cope with their problems, mental or worldly.

Moreover, he also begins to reproach his girlfriend sacrifice all his troubles: "If not for you, I would long ago have been the director of the bank." Yes, of course, "we are responsible for those who tamed", but there is only one salvation - to cease to be his mother.

Adopt husband

There is a stereotype of victimhood: Mother Teresa. Took care of the poor, save the weak, he makes the wounded from the battlefield. Only this model is not suitable for mutual love, implies a certain equality of partners.

And when the family appears "Mother Teresa", partnerships rapidly escalate into a relationship of mother and child. What is fraught besides emotional dissatisfaction? And the fact that nobody has been able to combine the two roles of wife and mother-in-one.

The boy-husband simply ceases to feel erotic attraction to the "mummy". So we employ subliminal ban on incest. Therefore, "Mamochkin husband" can only take on the mother-wife's care, but at the same time tries to escape from her, hiding her from his adult toys and it is cheating.

He constantly offended by the "Mummy", which does not allow him to live freely. This is not love, but a completely different genre. So think carefully: if you need a baby? And if you want, maybe it is easier to give birth than to adopt the eternal child in a tie and with a mustache.

Moms different needs?

The question arises: who is to blame in these situations? This man made the woman of his mummy - or is it her tireless care led to his immaturity? When running a vicious circle, these questions have no practical sense. Therefore, the best women wonder where I need to be a mom?

Games that are worth a stop

Sometimes you see before you is not a man, but a boy who will most likely never want to grow up. It would be good to eliminate these candidates already in the early stages of dating. But better late than never.

Here are the signs of the eternal child, that should alert you:

- Alcohol, drugs, and gambling.

- With all the girlfriends past he treated unfairly.

- Rudeness with you (at first - always a joke), threats, fights with girls in the past. Or take a look how he behaves with a waitress (not the waiter!) In the restaurant.

- Unexpected and unpredictable bouts of children's moods.

- Mood swings (eg, rage against the backdrop of tenderness).

- It is the responsibility of irresponsible at work, to monetary debts.

- He has mental problems with their own parents (for example, he remembers dear mother once in half an hour - or, conversely, for the year never mentioned about his parents).