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33 reasons why the novel was not held
He called you and appointed date. You spent a wonderful evening at the restaurant. A nice conversation and did not stint compliments. He clearly hinted to you on the continuation of the relationship.
You waited. He did not call. Not the next day or in a week, never more ...
Probably every woman in the bank, there is at least one such frustrated romance. And, perhaps, each of us has ever wondered why?
Maybe for one of these reasons.
1. Just relax ...
There is a category of men, for which a date with a woman - a pleasant pastime and a way only. In a serious relationship, they do not expect, and do not expect anything but uncomplicated and easy conversation flirting. If this happens the bed - well, but if not, are not hurt.
These people know very well what they are going, and that can get in the future, and are invited to a meeting to simply relax in your community. Offended by such a person should not be - he gave you everything was going. And the fact that not once said that will not continue, so imagine for a moment, how would it look stupid if I said?
2. Various speed.
Your grandmother inspired - first date should end with a kiss hands, the second - a slight touch of lips to her cheek, and the third is necessary to get acquainted with my mother, and sex is possible only after the wedding ... But he thinks differently! And if after dinner a man busily asks "to you or me," and you jump out of the car on the move, is nothing surprising in the fact that this was the end - no. Let sanctimonious morality.
In a world full of stable and loving couples whose first date ended up in bed. And no it does not have accused each other of immorality. On the other hand, if they do not match your do not need to cross through. But if "fast or slow" for you does not matter, it would be a good man - in control.
Passion captured you whole? Spit on the rules! But if he is indecisive, if his eyes were questioned - whether it is possible, I do not make the first step itself, or Beat all so that he thought that the initiative comes from him.
3. He was scared ... scared ... Just
Men are afraid of much. Strong sense of responsibility, commitment and their absence, your beauty competition for you, you inconsistency, his sexual failure, forgive you, as a super-woman in his life! "It's too much for me! "With these words, many men erase from the memory of your mobile phone really liked them women. If this is the wording suits you, then you can deduct it all their failed romance.
4. You behaved tactlessly ...
He asked where would you like to go, and you called too expensive restaurant. You asked what his car, and he came by taxi. I asked why he divorced his wife, and it was painful to think about it. It expresses an impartial opinion about your mutual friends. He laughed when he could not cope with the chopsticks in the sushi bar.
Behave tactlessly can any of us. Hurt a stranger in short, it is a hundred times easier than a friend. Therefore be alert, control yourself and say nothing better than to climb to the man in the soul, and to impose their views. For a first date only suitable neutral topics.
5. You have talked too much about yourself.
And dorasskazyvalas ... Well, what, please tell me, was he to know that as a child you are ill with mumps, madly afraid of the dentist, your grandmother four times married, your boss a jerk, a friend's affair with a black man, and a cat Muska is about Is interesting to give birth ... poor guy, what do you think about the problem of AIDS and that your first love left you in the middle of the prom? Do you even remember what he told you? Well, except for the fact that the restaurant is closed after five minutes and you have to leave?
6. You are silent, as partisans.
Here he sits in front of you, charming, sexy, subtle jokes, gentle looks, many promises ... and you're lost, embarrassed and do not know what to say. It happens ... If this happened to you once, forgive yourself. If this is your normal behavior on the first date - the trainings of self-confidence and believe, finally, that if a man wants to spend an evening with you it means "a hundred points," you already have!
7. You met "testers".
In principle, such a word in the Russian language there. But, personally, I call a man who comes out on a date, only to test his latest acquaintance on the subject of "why did not you approach."
In principle, all of us tend to test their new friends, but only the type of men will ask you questions: "what color the wallpaper you prefer in the bedroom - black, red or green," and "you vynesesh from home to first during a fire ". Do not look for the right answers. They are not here! The tests he needed to once again make sure - no woman is worthy of such a treasure, as he did.
8. You're too expected to continue.
Man is by nature a hunter, not the prey. Therefore, seeing the traps apart, he prefers to retire earlier than would be entangled, bound and ringed. However, not only prudent hunter can give their intentions on the first date. If you really like this person, and even more so, you had some experience of unsuccessful meetings, then it may very well be the fear of failure is simply written on your face. Try to keep yourself in the hands and apply to the first date philosophically. It is impossible - turn to a psychologist.
9. You violated its border.
For most men, the question of its own borders is one of the priorities in relation to the woman. It would seem meaningless phrase: "You spend so much time at a sporting event? !! "Can light a red light in front of a very promising novel. Breaking the boundaries of possible and non-verbally.
For example, sit too close, whispering something in his ear enveloping moist warm breath, grab his way without asking lighter or start rummaging without the permission of his CDs in the car. The little things that will not be seen, and even pleasant on closer acquaintance, at first can strain and scare. So before you do anything, ask yourself the question - I would like that he's done this to me, with my things ...?
10. You were not interested in him, and he felt it.
Not everyone is able to open up on the first date. And it so happens that cute and clever man hissed through clenched teeth boring, unimportant phrases worried jokes out of place or watch the story delves into the prospects of its business. And you sit and yawn openly. He and so embarrassed that he did not know how to apply, and you still do not aspire to hide it. How long do you think the chances that he will want to repeat it?
11. You spooked him his profession.
What profession male age group of 30 to 40 are considered the most undesirable for their loved ones? According to one of the online survey are: dentists, athletic trainer, head of a large company, and leading police on this list ... psychologist. Note all professions somehow undermine the fragile ego risk of a strong half of mankind. So if you're one of the "undesirable" try not to let out on the first date.
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