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Office L'Amour
The man dreams - it is unpredictable. You never know where your destiny intersect: on public transport or at a party, in a store or in a club ...
And often fateful meeting takes place at work
(which is not surprising, because there we spend a third of his life), in the so-called office romance. However, the march of Mendelssohn relationships tied to the professional field, not always end. For a variety of reasons - on the contrary. Passing fancy colleague ends in tears at times, up to the need to quit.
According to the statistics ...
* The most common "sweet couple" occur in smaller organizations, which employs 15-20 people.
* According to a survey of the London edition the first place in the number of office romances occupy shooting kinogruppy; newspapers and magazines - in second place; at the end of the list turned out to police departments and libraries (respectively 29th and 30th place).
* To the question: "Do you imagine someone from colleagues as a lover or sexual partner? "Gave a positive answer 60% of employees.
Things amorous behind a desk
Work is the place where you work is an autonomous sphere of life. Here we not only earn money, but also - as paradoxical as it may sound - rest. Distracted by family problems, life and communicate with a specific group of people who form a special microclimate. This is what we call a team.
In an organization with healthy relationships vnutrikollektivnymi air is literally saturated with the same fluids understanding and sympathy. And in this atmosphere is often quite a small spark that inflamed the fire Shakespearean passions of the two groups are identified, which are drawn like magnets to each other.
This swirl of feelings, events and gossip, which involved not only the beloved, but the whole team, reveals all the charm of office romance and at the same time - is problematic, difficulties and disadvantages polutrudovyh relations.
Pros office romance
About love to the psychologists speak ambiguously. In such a situation, each has its own positive and negative sides. What is positive?
+ Any office romance
dilutes the boredom and monotony of everyday work, making them new emotions, spicing. Besides, if you have one currently. Well, boring is going to work, doing every day the same thing. And then there is a way for action!
Suddenly we notice that for a long time does not stop erase cracked nail on his little finger, and so it is time to do manicures, and these prosizhennye pants long been changed to a fashionable skirt. We arrange shopping, going to the beauty parlor, the hairdresser ... How much fun (and practical use!) Brings the mere anticipation of something romantic!
+ Office romance - it's a great opportunity to decorate your life. It's showing off and flirting. Office romance is fraught with many unexpected twists and turns, which is why it carries with it such an unusual piquancy. This novel could end wedding or rupture of relations. But it will be later, not now.
And while you will not get bored at work, and something new to blow you away. Flirt is always nice. Condition love stimulates us anyway on labor feats. Waking up in the morning, we are happy to think about the beginning of the working day, hurry through the city to work, in spite of the cold or the heat.
Now stay at work - for us not to punish, but a kind of joy. And as we have during such periods hate weekends! late! And would not take to the hospital, even if the doctors force almost put to bed! .. However, working time and increasing productivity. Add to this, and blissful state of love, good mood - that's you and a major plus.
+ Your novel, full of pleasant feelings, causing a chain reaction: the staff are friendly, calm. And to what extent are more friendly, more united (the main thing - to not all share a sense of common rumors and envy!).
+ We do not have to meet friends in the shops or on the way home, to spend weeks getting to know each other. Where, if not at work, you can see the essence of man, his narrowed best? It's just great to get used to the conditions.
+ Lovers, colleagues do not have to look for never a topic for conversation.
Minuses
- Dove --time colleagues - are seen too often. And it's annoying attitude brings another reason to quarrel. And further. It is unlikely that someone would like to have a home after a row with her husband to go with him to work and long hours of hatefully 9 to stare at each other from time to time exchanging caustic remarks, such as "What is not working? That is less than we had yesterday with friends to bars stagger (TV until three in the morning to watch mommy to hang around midnight! ")
- "Shura-panky", of course, often distracted from his duties. And God forbid, the staff will accuse parasitism.
- The most difficult to account for a couple in which one - head, the other - a slave. It is very rare that such romances ended in marriage. In most cases, for the chief job will still be in first place, and whether it will be taken seriously subordinate - a question.
If the boss - you, the affair with one of the employees is also likely to no good in the long run will not. You can not be absolutely sure that the favorite does not want to use your official position to achieve their most personal goals? In addition, the distance in their personal lives among you will still be maintained.
- The main trick intrigues in the workplace is that the line between family, personal life and work is erased. If your relationship take place in the workplace - wherever you have to go every day to make money - sooner or later, no matter how warm at first were not, you will associate it with work. You think you almost constantly and do not have time to miss each other, which also has a negative impact on the relationship.
- Witnesses novel
It gets a lot of people - both employees and bosses. It is almost impossible to hide its development - how hard we try to do it anyway after a while colleagues get wind and begin to discuss the "news" in the smoking room. Many of the unwitting witnesses newborn relations are novel without favor, just envy, gossip, and sometimes strive to spoil the happiness of others.
- In case of failure of your gap could seriously harm the reputation and career of one of the partners.
In general, the relationship between the gap-polukollegami poluvlyublennymi difficult given. This is unbearable every day to look at her ex, to see him well as he flirts with a brand new and so on.!
Besides, as soon as the last set (last ?!) dot the surrounding fall ill on two fronts and sympathizers. Wrong turns in relation to the corporate spirit ...
Yes, the office romance - a difficult thing, woven of the advantages, benefits and problems.
Post it to cross the line between "We are colleagues" and "we are not just colleagues," it is not easy. Maintain a sense of being side by side the whole day - the art. A complete separation, while maintaining neutrality - real diplomacy.
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