A love relationship for adults, middle-aged woman

You know, how old is called Balzac? A friend of mine defined it this way: this is the age when married late and die early. In the days of Balzac was all clear: it was the woman's age from 25 to 30 years.

Today, on this definition can only laugh. In Germany, for example, up to now, the money paid for children up to 27 years, they were called "children's money."

Who is the woman in fifty has not lost his sex appeal.

She looks young and wants to be loved, as well as thirty years ago. What happened in such a short time? What has changed in a woman? Sometimes it is worth before you a woman, and you're just guessing - how old she is. She looks young, sexy, and next child turns and calls a woman "grandmother."

Today, a woman of fifty, and does not want to give up their positions. She wants love and affection, wants that could not get before. Many manage to solve this problem easily. The main thing, said most of the women who need as little as possible to look into the passport and to believe that forty-five and fifty-life is just beginning.

We need to take from life what you give fate, and did not put off for a week or a month. Today 45-50-year-old woman has a job, she made a career, children are adults. It is surrounded by such as she, divorced women or widows.

But, unfortunately, next to no man, men trembled at the sight of which would be the heart, which could give a woman fantastic night on which she missed. No…

Today, she does not want adventure, it wants stability in love. But where to find the other half, which is intended to you? It's not a thing in the store can not buy it. One was shown on German television as a group of middle-aged women to go to Africa. I was struck by the fact that many have returned are not alone.

Their companions began the African man many years younger. Women were satisfied men. We praise them, and said that now their lives are filled with completely different colors, and that for women age does not play little or no role, the main thing that was a young soul.

Young women may seem ridiculous by the fact that 50 or 60 year old woman looking for a life partner. And many women in Russia believe that in this age of life is over, that their sacred duty - to help children raise grandchildren.

Unfortunately, very few films about the middle-aged ladies. The main heroine of today's TV shows or novels - beautiful, sexy, young woman. But the authors and the writers have forgotten that youth passes very quickly, and there comes a woman, this is the age of Balzac, whose border is very difficult to define.

Yes, and on the covers of magazines, we see only young and beautiful face. This is advertising ... and advertising, as we know, the motor trade. Naturally, not every fifty women Centerfolds figure and breasts. But it has other positive qualities - experience.

Who can say that Sophia Loren, Catherine Deneuve and Elizabeth Taylor - the old woman?

Age does not affect women. There are lots of young, very well-groomed women, and there are young women who have the soul of an old woman.

In the sixties of the last century, women began to fight for their dreams. They tried to prove that a woman forty years - this is not an old woman, she too can look your best. And they have achieved this.

Women fought for their love, love rock and wore miniskirts. They could prove men that are the same as they are. They began to overwhelm the market labor and to shoulder that previously seemed to him not under force. Today, fifty years rarely seen a woman who would have the form of Matrona with crochet hook in hand.

Now no one is surprised by the fact that more mature women want to see next to a young man. A man who has turned to her head. And it does not matter how many years she will be happy with him.

The most important thing is happiness knocked on her door. And where is the guarantee that the boring, balding man of the same age do not throw it and not go to a neighbor downstairs?

And no need to be committed Alla Pugacheva, Larisa Dolina, Demi Moore and Madonna, to the young men were beside you. Girls and young women may be more rugged and hot, but the middle-aged experienced woman has a spark that could catch fire hot flame.

Irina Khakamada in an interview with "Novaya Gazeta" on the issue of women over the age of complexes replied: - I do not familiar with, because I was always in uniform and looked much younger.

This is connected with genetics, and the fact that I worked a lot. But in general, in order not to grow old, it is necessary, first of all, not hysteria, not to make a man to the fact that he is indebted to you. Once a woman says: "I give you all my life. You ruined my whole life," all - an end to it.

Then we need to look in the mirror every morning and say to myself: "I'm the best." We must take care of yourself, create your style, exercise, creativity. At any age, you can start all over again.

The main thing that was a source of energy. There is no age energetic woman. Because she had all the energy in the eyes. A woman, medium and tortured men, and 18 years already looks like an old woman. And then, you know, in the men's psychology, there is such a thing - they fall in love in the image.

And then over the years, if he continues to love a woman, this image remains in his mind. And it has nothing to do with what's going on with your favorite then. Unless a woman, of course, is not dissolved. That is, extra wrinkles on the face of the man she loved would not notice. But if you have an extra 15 kilograms - certainly.

That is, if a woman, she created the image, in the future though somehow supported, it will not get nowhere man. But if the bloom will be walking in a dirty robe and every day say to yourself, "I'm an old woman," then the husband will run away for sure. We create our own reality.

Love affair at work

Office L'Amour

The man dreams - it is unpredictable. You never know where your destiny intersect: on public transport or at a party, in a store or in a club ...

And often fateful meeting takes place at work

(which is not surprising, because there we spend a third of his life), in the so-called office romance. However, the march of Mendelssohn relationships tied to the professional field, not always end. For a variety of reasons - on the contrary. Passing fancy colleague ends in tears at times, up to the need to quit.

According to the statistics ...

* The most common "sweet couple" occur in smaller organizations, which employs 15-20 people.

* According to a survey of the London edition the first place in the number of office romances occupy shooting kinogruppy; newspapers and magazines - in second place; at the end of the list turned out to police departments and libraries (respectively 29th and 30th place).

* To the question: "Do you imagine someone from colleagues as a lover or sexual partner? "Gave a positive answer 60% of employees.

Things amorous behind a desk

Work is the place where you work is an autonomous sphere of life. Here we not only earn money, but also - as paradoxical as it may sound - rest. Distracted by family problems, life and communicate with a specific group of people who form a special microclimate. This is what we call a team.

In an organization with healthy relationships vnutrikollektivnymi air is literally saturated with the same fluids understanding and sympathy. And in this atmosphere is often quite a small spark that inflamed the fire Shakespearean passions of the two groups are identified, which are drawn like magnets to each other.

This swirl of feelings, events and gossip, which involved not only the beloved, but the whole team, reveals all the charm of office romance and at the same time - is problematic, difficulties and disadvantages polutrudovyh relations.

Pros office romance

About love to the psychologists speak ambiguously. In such a situation, each has its own positive and negative sides. What is positive?

+ Any office romance dilutes the boredom and monotony of everyday work, making them new emotions, spicing. Besides, if you have one currently. Well, boring is going to work, doing every day the same thing. And then there is a way for action!

Suddenly we notice that for a long time does not stop erase cracked nail on his little finger, and so it is time to do manicures, and these prosizhennye pants long been changed to a fashionable skirt. We arrange shopping, going to the beauty parlor, the hairdresser ... How much fun (and practical use!) Brings the mere anticipation of something romantic!

+ Office romance - it's a great opportunity to decorate your life. It's showing off and flirting. Office romance is fraught with many unexpected twists and turns, which is why it carries with it such an unusual piquancy. This novel could end wedding or rupture of relations. But it will be later, not now.

And while you will not get bored at work, and something new to blow you away. Flirt is always nice. Condition love stimulates us anyway on labor feats. Waking up in the morning, we are happy to think about the beginning of the working day, hurry through the city to work, in spite of the cold or the heat.

Now stay at work - for us not to punish, but a kind of joy. And as we have during such periods hate weekends! late! And would not take to the hospital, even if the doctors force almost put to bed! .. However, working time and increasing productivity. Add to this, and blissful state of love, good mood - that's you and a major plus.

+ Your novel, full of pleasant feelings, causing a chain reaction: the staff are friendly, calm. And to what extent are more friendly, more united (the main thing - to not all share a sense of common rumors and envy!).

+ We do not have to meet friends in the shops or on the way home, to spend weeks getting to know each other. Where, if not at work, you can see the essence of man, his narrowed best? It's just great to get used to the conditions.

+ Lovers, colleagues do not have to look for never a topic for conversation.

Minuses

- Dove --time colleagues - are seen too often. And it's annoying attitude brings another reason to quarrel. And further. It is unlikely that someone would like to have a home after a row with her husband to go with him to work and long hours of hatefully 9 to stare at each other from time to time exchanging caustic remarks, such as "What is not working? That is less than we had yesterday with friends to bars stagger (TV until three in the morning to watch mommy to hang around midnight! ")

- "Shura-panky", of course, often distracted from his duties. And God forbid, the staff will accuse parasitism.

- The most difficult to account for a couple in which one - head, the other - a slave. It is very rare that such romances ended in marriage. In most cases, for the chief job will still be in first place, and whether it will be taken seriously subordinate - a question.

If the boss - you, the affair with one of the employees is also likely to no good in the long run will not. You can not be absolutely sure that the favorite does not want to use your official position to achieve their most personal goals? In addition, the distance in their personal lives among you will still be maintained.

- The main trick intrigues in the workplace is that the line between family, personal life and work is erased. If your relationship take place in the workplace - wherever you have to go every day to make money - sooner or later, no matter how warm at first were not, you will associate it with work. You think you almost constantly and do not have time to miss each other, which also has a negative impact on the relationship.

- Witnesses novel It gets a lot of people - both employees and bosses. It is almost impossible to hide its development - how hard we try to do it anyway after a while colleagues get wind and begin to discuss the "news" in the smoking room. Many of the unwitting witnesses newborn relations are novel without favor, just envy, gossip, and sometimes strive to spoil the happiness of others.

- In case of failure of your gap could seriously harm the reputation and career of one of the partners.

In general, the relationship between the gap-polukollegami poluvlyublennymi difficult given. This is unbearable every day to look at her ex, to see him well as he flirts with a brand new and so on.!

Besides, as soon as the last set (last ?!) dot the surrounding fall ill on two fronts and sympathizers. Wrong turns in relation to the corporate spirit ...

Yes, the office romance - a difficult thing, woven of the advantages, benefits and problems.

Post it to cross the line between "We are colleagues" and "we are not just colleagues," it is not easy. Maintain a sense of being side by side the whole day - the art. A complete separation, while maintaining neutrality - real diplomacy.