Marsh Mendelssohn ceased to vibrate, parting wishes are said to honeymoon far behind, and in front - uniform, saturated domestic problems everyday. But only romance, heart feelings of love and want, regardless of status.
It takes several years, and in other months, and when, finally, completely - otherwise you start to look at the man who idolized.
It turns out that he or she, too, goes to the toilet, picks his nose loudly sёrbaet from the cup, nodding at the TV screen, allows herself to defile in the stretched pants and forget to brush your teeth.
A soul wants to flight, passions, tender words and compliments
Instead of endless conversations about the material, clothing, food, housing and other accounts inevitable nonsense.
Petty quarrels slowly destroy any light feelings. In their place comes a habit. Love can not last forever. She has ups and downs, but it is seething, boiling, fascinating and drives the adrenaline blood, sooner or later ends. Most early.
In general, hard work, to maintain respect for those whom many years of living together learned as yourself, you know all his faults, mirishsya weirdo and endure failures, depression, alcoholism. To Each His Own.
And then - then, finally, you know that by marrying, married, people are not united their hearts, on the contrary, they have made the first step towards the destruction of love.
Henrik Ibsen was right, separated in one of his early plays Lovers heroes before the marriage: they broke up at the height of love and thus saved it from imminent descent into routine, a habit, followed by its dissolution in the everyday dullness.
Then went Mayakovsky, who brilliantly outlined the path of the disappearance of love in prose of everyday life: "love boat has crashed on life ..."
And if we happen to meet new people, men come across beautiful women, women - lucky men who themselves take the initiative and are willing to meet you, and then all the cards.
Automatically start to prepare the ground for flirtation and justify his act. "Yesterday it around yelled at me and called a freak," "The day before yesterday he came drunk at three in the morning, when the promised eight o'clock," "Today, she did not want sex." ... So why not!
I'm right, I'm a free man, the marriage bond is just connect the two into a single family, but that does not mean that they are handcuffed. Such or similar excuses almost every sooner or later, everyone scrolls in secret of his own.
What makes a man?
Looking to buy a new perfume, begins more carefully monitor their own hygiene, looks at dating sites and gets accustomed to the new female employees at work. And sometimes walks into a bar to drink a glass or two of beer in the hope to see her, the one in which he will find something that is not enough (as it seems) to his wife.
What makes a woman?
Buy new clothes, make different hairstyle actively losing weight, twice as many turns in the mirror and begins to carefully look around - and she likes men around?
And acquaintance took place.
All the best, unrealized in the family circle - the charm, refinement of speech manifested when dealing with a new person. I want to be better, smarter, more original, more educated, because the house is no chance to express themselves and no longer appear for one reason only - they know you inside out (th).
Moreover, even thought not admit that to someone you like. "But who do you need (want) to say half of us. And - we are your right, just forget about what a friend or a girlfriend on the side sees our pious carefully dressed, combed, with a twinkle in his eye and a desire to move mountains. And these need a lot!
These cheerful people demand and interest simply because a person does not receive at home is nothing like out there he does not want to be sociable, cheerful, sexy.
It was only after learning about the change, or even knowing about it, the couple begin to think. Afraid to lose and make a step forward, or vice versa.
Here there are two options: if we do not love our satellites - part.
Love - to forgive and try to change everything. As it is known, from the good deed goes unpunished.
Actually, the reason is not only dissolute character of the halves, and the cause in ourselves ...
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