Which is better: a marriage of convenience or friendship

Everyone understands that love and marriage - the concept is different, but nevertheless, the vast majority of bridal declare emphatically that it is love that led them to the registry office. So what actually causes people to the registry office? ..

Marriage based on friendship - the lot of most adults, quiet, unworldly people. Common interests, respect for each other strong family promise to those who are willing to do without crazy feelings and violent emotions. Good relations are often transformed into a strong love that could survive in any circumstances.

The marriage of prudence rather frequent basis such as stable union as a marriage of friendship. A rational assessment of the future spouse, consideration of all the pros and cons of his personality and physical capabilities allow a sober approach to forecasting compatibility and long-term marital relationships.

In contrast to this version, a marriage of convenience often ends in failure. A man enters into it (eg, as is often the case - a young girl), it is often not advance the effort, and even victims of the marriage may be required. Material calculation, often as a way out of difficult situation, does not evaluate the possible psychological difficulties.

"Endure - slyubitsya" - an old saying. But it is not always true - life is unpredictable to surprise. Having wealth in marriage with the unloved, and even unpleasant person is unequal replacement. But the situation sucks and change life on a paradise in the hut, but the favorite - it may be no longer afford ...

One type of arranged marriage - a marriage of elderly .   However, it is easier to stand in life's storms, and love - what you need, we have your otlyubili ...

Marriage for a family - often the lot of women. The desire to have a spouse, which can be taken care of, build their nest to give birth - a simple female happiness. Of course, a woman and her husband are more likely to choose (perhaps even unconsciously) and economic and prudent. Although sometimes it is such "domestic" women constitute the happiness of creative, adventurous, unstable men.

Marriage Pregnancy - not always the most successful. The novel, especially the youth, ending the pregnancy, it may be a prelude to marriage for life, or a harbinger of the coming divorce.

If pregnancy is merely a means of conscious or not blackmail, it is unlikely marriage prospects are bright. But if the opportunity to have a baby - only the last straw, container overflowing love - it's only for the benefit of marriage.

Marriage for pregnancy - a purely feminine behavior. Very want baby, but it is impossible to give birth to one. Not as a husband, he can then leave (only way to pay child support regularly), but small, my one and only my little - what could be better ... Alas, life is ruthless and if a woman is barren, marriage becomes flour, from which disposed of at the earliest opportunity.

Marriage for sex - almost always the male version. The young man is simply bursting with desire to start, or continue, or make more frequent their sex life. And the situation does not allow it: No apartments, no time, no free girls.

Only one way out - to get married, and always have on hand his wife. Very often such marriages hasty and unreasonable, but how can you prove something when hormones rage and call on feats.

Marriage after divorce - a new problem. Usually it aspire to join the women, and to provide material conditions and education of male children. Therefore, such marriages are often a kind of marriage of prudence or calculation, although it is possible all the options inherent in his first marriage.

On the other hand, remarriage often has to prove to others and to yourself that divorce has not led to the collapse of life that is still possible, and love, and the family that I have something am fit!

In general, as someone said of humorists:

"Marriage - a voluntary union of two persons, each of which is then committed to individual freedom ..."

Marry rich. Part 2

Among women, it is widely believed that the marriage   - it is a way to solve many problems: loneliness, children, money ... I'm ashamed to say, I think so too. But a psychologist and a lawyer, a family mediator a consultation Labkovsky Mikhail claims it is a profound mistake.

"When people with problems entering into marriage, he did not only not solve, it exacerbates them. And the attempt successfully from a material point of view, to get married, as a rule, does not justify itself.

The woman thinks that leaving a rich, she will share with him not only the throes of creation, but also the earnings themselves, who become family after the wedding. A man thinks differently and usually assigns the content. And it does not mean that its earnings (as, incidentally, provides the law) - they are common property. "

To avoid this situation, to marry a woman would be nice to be initially financially independent. But in Russia this matter, things are much more complicated than in the West. Here, for example, self-satisfied with their situation falls in love with an American millionaire who offers her hand and heart.

American, of course, very happy, but still twenty times think - whether to radically change their way of life, work and social circle. And most importantly - whether she wants it. We have such a situation is virtually impossible, and thought, "Did I do that?" Comes to mind Russian woman after the event. After all, in fact, in such cases takes place, says Labkovsky, the deed of sale.

It does not matter what a man puts money - in furniture or a wife. It requires that the furniture was comfortable and not falling apart, and the wife should be here ... everyone has their own concept of what to do and how to behave perfect wife.

If a woman is by nature an obedient housewife, it is large enough, that it does not let go to work, take care of children and the need to meet her husband a hot meal.

And if it is by its nature in either a married unit does not fit, there is a conflict with a man that it "pays".

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... In 30-year-old Tatiana had a office romance. She worked as a press secretary for a large company engaged in the restaurant business, and at the festival to celebrate the opening of the next kingdom stomach first saw General - owner of the company. The office, he did not favor its appearance, since most of his time in America, where he has three restaurants.

Tatiana has always been his snickering boar and was shocked to see a charming man tightened slightly oriental appearance. She looked at him for a long time, he noted, he came up and introduced himself, knew who she was thanked for his work. Tatiana worked really well - and thus received. Even myself was able to buy an apartment. In the car, however, was not enough.

However, soon the car she had - every day stood at the entrance, with a personal driver. Tatiana is still at a party, having given charm superiors asked why they, the authorities, so sad. It turned out, my boss's wife died six months ago. Self-pity and a desire to console the beginning-not the rarest of love.

Roman grew rapidly. A few months later Tatiana visited all its villas, swim in the warm seas of half the globe and taste the joys of courtship millionaire. She could not imagine that there are so many beautiful places and gourmet delights: from the costumes, which are sewed for her in the House of Yves Saint Laurent, before the bath, brim full of milk.

And sex! In short, they have all been so good that the wedding has become a completely natural stage of happiness. Tatiana is very far from stupid, and have already visited once married woman found out about her husband's submission fate. Yes, he appreciates her business acumen. No, it is in any case no objection to make it work.

Just maybe not worth it to pursue a career in the same company? And somehow uncomfortable. In the meantime, you can relax a couple of months, to travel with her husband. Tatyana it seemed quite logical.

And the beginning of the trip, the meeting ... "Baby, you is not hard to take notes? Could you help to make the contract?" It took her six months to realize that no one anywhere is not going to let her go. She is very happy with her husband as a free assistant. And it is absolutely not satisfied.

And the endless parties, who adored her husband, she was insanely tired. And she would not live in five different houses, and in one. After the birth of a child to engage in the affairs of her husband Tanya stopped, settled in Moscow - and faced with another problem. She was completely alone.

Her husband appeared at home is rare and quite unable to talk was neither her nor her daughter. Old friends finally disappeared, unable to bear the charity Tatiana (it seemed to her that she should feed and clothe all, once she has a lot of money, but they have few). In short, melancholy green.

But the divorce she, like Nick does not think, though for a different reason: she loves her husband.