Lack of attention - one of the main complaints which come to a psychologist wives of rich Russian men. The husband takes no part in the family. On offer to communicate, read your child a story at night, he said he was tired, earning money, which
it enjoys, so there's nothing to complain. He bribes from their families.
When my wife gets much over whether what it unhappy and lonely, he bought her a fur coat fifth - and she shuts up.
Men more than women, tend to solve personal problems with money. And he is convinced that so can and should do - because at the time his wife bought into the first coat!
Generally, if the husband works all the time and constantly refers to the employment, then it theoretically is not yet ready to have a family, regardless of whether it 25 years or 50. It is childish, it is the period of capital accumulation.
For an adult, mature men work should not harm the family, and contribute to it. Incidentally, according to psychoanalytic theory, making money - a kind of phobia. A person has a set of necessities of life: eat, breathe, sleep and so on.
And when some of them begins to grow, it is often associated with a certain fear. For example, a man who lived in a communal apartment, and bought themselves independent living, will always be afraid to return to the communal and will seek to buy a house.
Many people stop and therefore can not - too many have accumulated fears, pushing to improve the quality of life. Especially for Russian men who have money have appeared yesterday and the day before were just complexes.
And that complexes make them earn money, which enable them to partly solve its internal problems.
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... Natalia S. stayed married 18 years. Male Anton - a former classmate, working together ordinary Soviet engineers. In 1988, Anton is not without pressure from Natalia S. decided to throw dead-end job and open society.
Within a year, he said that a normal man can not allow his wife for a lousy 140 rubles to persist from 9 to 6 on the job. She gladly took home, children and the moral support of each new step, Anton.
For 10 years, he became a successful businessman. He came all the things 88-year dream was impossible. Including the new wife.
Long lost skills Natalia S. with two teenage children had abandoned the old noble 2-bedroom apartment.
Anton himself living in the Arbat district of taking a young wife and a baby half-floor. Alimony paid by reference to the salary of 800 rubles.
Marry rich. Part 4
Ideally, if the people have gone through a lot together and achieved something,
and together they deserve a wonderful life, a beautiful and rich. But in practice, men have a problem: after reaching the heights of every faithful wife begins to be associated with his old life,
What is it, and think nasty. It changes the furniture, an apartment and a wife. So first a psychologist appears a woman who complains that she put on his life, made a man of him, and he threw it meanly.
And then there is a couple: he is bald, fat and old, it is - pretty standard with feet. They complain about their problems, including sexual. Why do not they live together!
"Legally, - says Labkovsky - if the wife is a housewife and raised the children, she gave her husband the opportunity to earn money.
And so it has the equal right to all shares, securities, income from the company and half of the firm. But I have been doing such things for 15 years and I can hardly remember even a few women who could, of course, with the help of lawyers to play anything from their husbands.
This is despite the fact that we were millionaires who legalize their money, join the club of millionaires - is in Moscow this.
I came once to my ex-wife of a member of this club. He pays her monthly child support - $ 200. And more out of him, she could not. "
There are, of course, and less tragic cases of communication with wealthy men.
19-year-old Elena, a student at VGIK, more than a year living with a famous filmmaker, not poor small. Goes with him everywhere, every night having dinner in the restaurant, dressed in the most fashionable boutiques of Paris and Milan - and did not suffer. There is, however, one difference - she was not married to him. Although very much wants.
In this regard, this is what it can be advised.
Firstly, the future fate of her family does not depend on money. The decisive role played by the parent installation.
If a man had a normal family in which the parents with their children and with each other had a good relationship where love each other and care about each other, to a certain age, he begins to think about how to make the same family.
It runs parallel to marry, have children from him ... And those who have had problems with family, privacy compensate production and making money.
Secondly, it is necessary to be financially free, otherwise there is likely to get one hundred percent not only in money but also in psychological dependence. It is necessary to get an education and make a career - so that was enough for life. Otherwise, from your rich husband you get content in exchange for a certain lifestyle.
Third, the post-war era when men did not have to get married, and after 25 years it was practically impossible, in our country was a stereotype: the earlier to grab a husband, the better. It is not so long ago!
And finally.
Initially, family relationships should be built as equals. It is necessary to establish a system of values and stick to it.
And though it may sound pathetic, it can never be sold - even if you give a million roses price of one million dollars and a million, this is clearly not the only one.
Which is better: a marriage of convenience or friendship
Everyone understands that love and marriage - the concept is different, but nevertheless, the vast majority of bridal declare emphatically that it is love that led them to the registry office. So what actually causes people to the registry office? ..
Marriage based on friendship - the lot of most adults, quiet, unworldly people. Common interests, respect for each other strong family promise to those who are willing to do without crazy feelings and violent emotions. Good relations are often transformed into a strong love that could survive in any circumstances.
The marriage of prudence rather frequent basis such as stable union as a marriage of friendship. A rational assessment of the future spouse, consideration of all the pros and cons of his personality and physical capabilities allow a sober approach to forecasting compatibility and long-term marital relationships.
In contrast to this version, a marriage of convenience often ends in failure. A man enters into it (eg, as is often the case - a young girl), it is often not advance the effort, and even victims of the marriage may be required. Material calculation, often as a way out of difficult situation, does not evaluate the possible psychological difficulties.
"Endure - slyubitsya" - an old saying. But it is not always true - life is unpredictable to surprise. Having wealth in marriage with the unloved, and even unpleasant person is unequal replacement. But the situation sucks and change life on a paradise in the hut, but the favorite - it may be no longer afford ...
One type of arranged marriage - a marriage of elderly
.
However, it is easier to stand in life's storms, and love - what you need, we have your otlyubili ...
Marriage for a family - often the lot of women. The desire to have a spouse, which can be taken care of, build their nest to give birth - a simple female happiness. Of course, a woman and her husband are more likely to choose (perhaps even unconsciously) and economic and prudent. Although sometimes it is such "domestic" women constitute the happiness of creative, adventurous, unstable men.
Marriage Pregnancy - not always the most successful. The novel, especially the youth, ending the pregnancy, it may be a prelude to marriage for life, or a harbinger of the coming divorce.
If pregnancy is merely a means of conscious or not blackmail, it is unlikely marriage prospects are bright. But if the opportunity to have a baby - only the last straw, container overflowing love - it's only for the benefit of marriage.
Marriage for pregnancy - a purely feminine behavior. Very want baby, but it is impossible to give birth to one. Not as a husband, he can then leave (only way to pay child support regularly), but small, my one and only my little - what could be better ... Alas, life is ruthless and if a woman is barren, marriage becomes flour, from which disposed of at the earliest opportunity.
Marriage for sex - almost always the male version. The young man is simply bursting with desire to start, or continue, or make more frequent their sex life. And the situation does not allow it: No apartments, no time, no free girls.
Only one way out - to get married, and always have on hand his wife. Very often such marriages hasty and unreasonable, but how can you prove something when hormones rage and call on feats.
Marriage after divorce - a new problem. Usually it aspire to join the women, and to provide material conditions and education of male children. Therefore, such marriages are often a kind of marriage of prudence or calculation, although it is possible all the options inherent in his first marriage.
On the other hand, remarriage often has to prove to others and to yourself that divorce has not led to the collapse of life that is still possible, and love, and the family that I have something am fit!
In general, as someone said of humorists:
"Marriage - a voluntary union of two persons, each of which is then committed to individual freedom ..."
