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Almost exchanged fifth decade, my friend married a Belgian. About this and significant event she shared sparingly and seemingly as an afterthought.
"Change your social status", - she said. To be honest, I thought that the girl was "showing off."
No, if you visit a registry office yet again in the sixth, seventh, it is clear that rapid delight white curtain on his head and a plain gold ring has no one cause. But first ?!
Total score - separate feelings
By long it managed to torture to extract information for consideration. With the groom "young" was familiar for ten years. They lived (and still live) in various cities. However, according to our notions, that's about as Solntsevo and Mytischi - hour drive away, but still.
So there are only half-baked wife at the weekend, following a clear timetable for visits: a week he comes, it is a week. If one of them gets sick, the other did not even hurry to bring him a cup of "Coldrex." On the contrary: most likely, will not visit, not to be infected.
A couple of times a year the young family plans to make joint travel - 2 weeks, no more. Account at the bank have one common, but really only works as a husband, and the money, unspoken agreement, "as it were owned by" him.
With the family finances sparse, but there would be nothing if it were not in the plans of the big spending - a new car, a bigger apartment and so on. N. A friend spends on her husband's money with great caution whenever asked: is it possible?
Husband, respectively, also is spending, but without any reflection and torment. From his wife, to honor to say, it hides nothing: just make known. Say, you need a suit for fifteen hundred. Or - you need to go to driving school boat ...
"Then why are you doing this?" - Outraged I warmly breathe into the phone. "And what? - Surprised girlfriend. - I'm almost forty, once people learn that I am not married and has never been, they cease to take me seriously. So, to me that something is wrong."
"But you are so far from each other: both mentally and physically!" - I try to be clever. "And I do not need, and that we were close!" "What a mess!" - You scream. And you will be wrong: in front of us is a typical example of the West convenient marriage - "convenient" marriage.
It is not a marriage of convenience, not a marriage "by aerial" and certainly not a marriage of love. What is most unpleasant, that strange and unnatural kind of family finds refuge in our country. This is probably due to the fact that we have become a country with a market economy.
When printing in the passport does not mean anything
On the other hand, and what's particularly wrong with that? People are living together to the grave, even having children, and that make every man for himself, did not tear the heart, if one of them is in trouble - so what? But all settle down and can not say that they are lonely ...
And here it is just hidden the very zhiznenapravlyayuschaya detail. People in "convenient" marriage feel completely independent and absolutely alone. Printing in the passport - just in the same case when it does not matter.
If a husband or wife would like to share my soul, they have to contact your friends (if any). Even the joy of promotion or inheritance will not receive a response in the heart of "husband" or "wife". Well, glad everything. So what?
Of course, some things that are very painful settled in ordinary families, "convenient" marriage is simply not on the agenda. It is impossible to imagine that the "convenient" wife would drive her husband at home with a rolling pin into the hands of that found out who appeared in the third hour of the night supruzhnika someone's lipstick on his jeans.
Most likely, she did not even wake up to the fact that tea is not it warm with a bagel, and even open the door! But: Is it worth a woman worried that her husband goes to the other? If he chose her, once chosen this form of existence - without passion, without ups and downs - it's probably the question of the separation is not necessary.
No, of course, and "convenient" marriage divorce cases, but not as often as in those families where flying saucers and pans. From her friends, you can hear as many stories about how "we were divorced three years ago, but I still cook bouillons his sick mother."
If you made a "friendly" marriage with you 100% guarantee will not have to experience all the delights of communication (and wars) and mother-in-law with. And your husband until the end of life and will not be cut into jokes about the wife's mother.
Fallback
Every girl who passed for 25, and the name has remained the same as at birth, she thinks about how she's going to live. Not in terms of intrigues pigweed Ivan accountant on the site and not on the subject, whether the disguise in a radically black, or just make the weave.
About her husband. About the family. About Pampers and Sunday walks in the zoo. And then she asks a question: how and with whom?
And for sure all the girls at this age there is one or two "spare option": the unloved Cavalier, which you can call in the night that drove the guests home, had a quarterly "hormonal support" or just part of the company for a family dinner to Aunt not proceeded with poison ("Everyone else has to baby carriages, and our Light all but one one!").
Cavalier such, they say, "always ready." He can, and unrequited loves you, and maybe just the last five years of experience, "tender affection."
If you succumb to the minute depression and decide to marry him to myself, "and where he go from a submarine?", Then you are likely waiting for it - "friendly" marriage.
Are you ready for it? No not like this.
Are you ready to live my life with the unloved man? Considering that the life you have only one ...
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