Tantrums the child
The kid is not allowed, he fell on the floor and started screaming and banging their feet. The child tantrum ... Sound familiar?
No need to grab the strap or drinking valerian. Help him! Record for tantrums - children are 2, 3 and 4 years.
At this age, toddler understand that parents can be manipulated. This step - turning. If you behave properly close growing up, kid resort to hysterics and scandals increasingly rare.
How to deal with hysterical child: Do not neglect a situation: regular tantrums undermine child's psyche. Do not lose the emotional connection with the baby. Exhibit positive emotions as he well behaved, do not sharpen a situation when you do not listen.
Talk to the crumbs, the interests of its problems, and you will see how many impressions and experiences in his little world. The more you learn about it, the faster you choose any problems.
Thespian
• Behavior: just that - the child comfortable with a fit, begins to behave aggressively, fighting, shouting, crying. You will be surprised, but the kid like a little actor, arranges performance. Children much more observant and smarter than we think.
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Causes
If mom and dad have not developed a unified strategy, this child will be
use. The kid thinks like this: "My mother would not let - let's go to the Pope, he certainly allow. And even better - pumped his tantrum, then surely all get. "
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Our advice, what to do
: Should make a list of permitted and prohibited items. Try to either one of the parents does not detract from the authority of another. No way, Mom should not allow the fact that the Pope has forbidden, and vice versa. Do not confuse a child!
If a child's tantrum has started, you should immediately switch the attention of the kid, "Come, let us take out of the fridge-button lint" or "Look what a cloud - like an elephant."
If the kid threw a tantrum in a public place - no need to put on a show with the assistance of "uncles, aunts and police." Little actor needs the audience, and when they do not, the play may stop by itself.
Take the child home, where are you with him quietly, without raising his voice, to discuss the situation, give him to understand that such actions, he will not achieve anything.
Strike quietly
But it happens that a child's tantrum begins literally out of the blue.
The cause of hysteria - in a morbid condition of the child. Admonish the baby, where and what was wrong with him, and try to measure the temperature as soon as possible take him to the doctor for an examination.
• Behavior: pipsqueak constantly depressed, do not let my mother a single step, its little interest in toys, he has trouble sleeping, he cries at the slightest pretext.
• The reasons for hysteria, fear and feelings of the child. I think maybe you recently in his presence, quarreled with her husband and toddler took your quarrel to heart and going through it again and again. Or he watched a scary movie, and he did not explain that monsters and witches do not exist.
• Our advice what to do: such a child during a tantrum in any case can not be left alone in the room, hoping that he nakrichit, naplachetsya himself to calm down. No need to immediately and ask about the reasons for his behavior.
The most effective hug, cuddle, reassure that the baby felt: next to the mother he can have nothing to fear.
Preventing a child's tantrums, scandals and quarrels
The most common situation tantrums in a child what to do and how to do:
Situation:
The kid in a toy store he saw that he liked so that it requires to buy it immediately.
Invalid response: "get along, you have toys and so full, you were never removed and generally behaving badly."
Correct response: Promise to purchase to the nearest holiday. And expose the condition always for a clean up.
Situation:
It's time to go home for lunch, but the kid totally disagree leave the playground
Incorrect response: Drag the arm stubborn stubborn, "Stop! You're a disgrace to me - everybody is looking at us! "
Correct response: Give the child to choose: to go home to dinner in five minutes or
ten.
Situation:
After catching up, frustrated child declares that goes to live with his grandmother, and that you do not like him.
Incorrect response: Opening the door, shouting: "Come on! I'm so (pejorative word) is not needed! "
Correct response: Arranging a scolding, to speak calmly. And explain that you love him no matter how he behaves.
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