Sooner or later there will come a day when a woman again want some kind of life outside the home, for example, to go to the barber shop or do some shopping, go somewhere in the evening with a husband or see friends.
In this article you will learn how to choose the right nanny for your child, the first time I leave the baby with a nanny, you need to prepare for the arrival of the nurse, how to avoid painful parting with the child, useful advice.
After a period of complete "symbiosis" where the mother and the child as it were one, the woman begins to feel the desire to live again "normal" life. It should not blame yourself for it - a change of scenery it is absolutely necessary, and if the good mother - well and her child. Gradually, they both need to learn to be separated for a while, and then the child can understand that the mother - not his property.
If you can not leave your child with someone from relatives or neighbors, one way out - to find a babysitter.
It is always better to leave the child, especially the first time, a man whom you know or whom you recommended - to fully trust him. For example, it may be a girl who comes to you to help with the housework - positive thing is that they are already familiar with the child.
If you are not yet familiar with the future nurse, ask her to come to you before, when you're at home, so you can see how it deals with the child and get to know her.
It does not really matter whether you choose boy or girl, young or more mature person. What is important is not so much experience with children, as such qualities as kindness and common sense. The main thing that this man makes you full confidence that he loved children and was kind to them. Will you be able to get away with a light heart - depends not only on Babysitting much of its human qualities.
First time with a nanny
What you need to prepare for the arrival of the nurse to go quietly? Here are some tips to start:
• Prepare in advance everything that the nurse will have to use: bottle mixture, water, diapers, cream and the like. Thus, you eliminate the need to climb on all the cupboards in search of clean pajamas.
• Ask the nurse to come fifteen minutes before your departure, in a quiet environment to explain to her everything and go without haste.
• Help the nurse to get used to a new place: provide it, if needed, the child and show the main rooms of the house (bathroom, nursery, kitchen, living room). Explain where it can take the clean clothes, diapers, baby food and the like.
• Familiarize the nurse to the peculiarities of everyday life of your child (if necessary, write down everything on paper): medication, care, bathing, feeding, and so on.
• Write down the telephone number, which you can easily find, as well as other numbers that may be useful: the coordinates of your physician, "ambulance", neighbors or relatives.
• Finally, try not to change their plans without first notifying the nurse, and do not be late home.
Having done all, so you can leave with peace of mind.
How to avoid the painful parting with the child?
• Warn your child that you go and tell him goodbye. Even if he does not understand the meaning of your words, they will give him confidence. Try, if possible not to leave the house when the baby sleeps. If this can not be avoided, say goodbye to him in advance.
• Child care is more alarming state of the mother than the fact that it is a few hours leaves him with someone else. Therefore, deciding to take advantage of babysitting services, and how to prepare everything for her arrival, quietly go away and try to relax.
• If all goes well, the next time invite the same nanny: they gradually get used to kid each other.
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