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It is no secret that the statistics of divorces each year becomes more and more alarming - and in fact, behind each figure is the fate of a woman whose hopes were not destined to come true. Being left alone, even with a child in her arms - an unenviable share, but the years go by, wounds scarring, and in the soul of every single woman there is hope for a new meeting.
The second marriage, as a rule, develops more successfully - woman performs a kind of "work on our mistakes," not allowing the new family history of protracted conflicts, quarrels, goes on a search for compromise, builds strong and healthy relationship.
But there are some points that could be an insurmountable obstacle between loving people, if they are not taken into account at the time. No matter how badly it sounds, a second marriage may destroy the children from his first marriage, of course, only if you let things take their course.
If a woman marries a man, having the baby, preschooler, it must accurately represent himself as her future husband is the child from his first marriage. Correctly enter those women who from the first moment for not hide the fact that they have a child.
If that does not alienate a man at once, it is unlikely to alienate and afterwards. Of course, there are times when it is, sharing the child begins to be perceived as a nuisance, but it is - a sign that a man is not ready for a serious relationship.
The best solution may be a trial marriage, when all three of us gradually "lapped" to each other, she shows that she can be a wonderful mother to children together, smoothing out all the "corners" and contradictions.
Well, if during the period of "lapping" caring grandmother from time to time to take the baby to her, to give adults figure out their relationship alone.
The people do not say nothing, when a man loves a woman with all his heart, he, in all sincerity and love of her child, will be his father and example. And the child intuitively feeling the love, always reach for the "new" parents, and sooner or later, will say: - "Daddy!"
In another case, when a man, remarry, have a child by his first wife, it is often a problem, especially if the "new" wife is young and has no life experience.
For women characterized by an adequate perception of the child of her husband, they are able to share in his mind of the child and his mother, but for the young is - a common cause for jealousy and quarrels. In addition, the monthly outflow of money for child support, causes irritation and leads to additional expenses hysterics.
How to save a relationship?
Of course, I am using a dialogue. Speak the maximum amount you will spend a month a man, and with a "reckoning" for unforeseen expenses.
Women should realize that the way a man treats his child, describes him as a good man and loving father, who for joint children is to love and attention. Make your home accessible to the arrival of the baby - the way he understands that there are no enemies, but his dad still loves.
Draw the line from the influence of the effect of the child's first wife - if a child in the home is desired, then his mother - no, but calls on it should not strain, as a common child a great responsibility, and the situations are different.
From women require peace of courage, patience and love - but fortunately, most of us have highly developed maternal instinct, which may overcome the jealousy and anger, or even someone else's child from her first marriage to a good and loving woman will not cause anger or hatred.
And believe me, man will appreciate it in dignity, paying tribute to the patience and wisdom of his chosen. Love, as always, to win!
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