A favorite toy libraries of raising a child toying with him

Often young parents think that children's games - it's just entertainment. But psychologists and educators have long known it is proved that the development of the child's game - it is an important and necessary part of learning about the world.

Learning life playing

Each of us adults have people remember your favorite childhood toy. From early childhood, children surrounded by all kinds of rattles, Tweeters, spinning tops, dolls. Nobody teaches children to play, they will build their magical world. So it acquires skills that help him understand the world in which it is included. His baby toys animates, every doll, teddy bear, bunny for baby - living entity. In the course of the game, each child learns everything he needs to be at the next step of life, starting with simple steps, ending with already defined standards of conduct.

Kid gradually acquainted with the world around him, he sees what they do adults, watching various professions. So, seeing the bus driver, the child begins to copy what he saw at home, and out of the ordinary stool making "bus." Copying adulthood - the development of creativity. If parents encourage all up, the child grows inquisitive and active, he wants to try everything himself.

Best friend baby

We all watched as plenty of toys the child selects any one and it does not leave. Once Andrei Konchalovsky told the story of his youngest daughter. He and his family returned from vacation, and the airport revealed that forgotten favorite toy - a shabby time earless rabbit. Girl grief knew no bounds. The sobs did not yield to any entreaties and promises to buy a new rabbit. Konchalovsky says that at that moment he realized that her daughter Bunny - the most intimate and beloved creature. The girl did not fall asleep without this hare. Who knows what secrets she whispered this toy.

The story ended happily. Hare was brought out of the hotel, and you should have seen the face of a happy girly with tears not yet dried up. This is such a serious role in the life of toys our kids. It is important to understand and did not shy away from problems when they arise. You should not seek to discard old toy because of its shabby appearance. It is for us some tiger looks terrible, but for our baby, maybe it's the closest thing.

Soft friends for all age groups

Perhaps we should buy one or Cheburashka bear his child, then to observe some interesting relationships will then emerge between small man and a good toy little animals. The child will zverushku seat at the table, and just like Mom fed from a spoon and dry cloth. Toy is perching on a pot, put to sleep. The kid definitely need a friend. So the child himself reinforces good behavior, which he needed in the environment.

Toddlers, regardless of whether they are boys or girls, like soft toys. This invention adults, of course, reflected the desire and the adults themselves cuddle soft and fluffy. Now, not only kids, but their parents are not averse to collapse on the couch after a hard day and a head - nice big soft toy.

Our kiddies think that time is infinite, but we know that a happy childhood ends. And let our kids enjoy the noisy fuss, commotion, laughter. This is not a futile exercise - it is a small happy life little people.

How to learn self-esteem of the child?

Self-assessment - this sort of thing, which is inherent in a man of principle.

Whatever we do, we appreciate, if not out loud or to yourself, at least subconsciously. And we compare with others. It is neither good nor bad - just there.

And the child also develops its own self-esteem, and not without the help of adults.

Firstly, in the kid since the age of two starts to form the "inner parent", which is known to determine the responsibility for the deeds and misdeeds and assigns penalties.

This coincides with what in psychoanalysis is called "anal period" of human development (similar to the animals, which mark their territory); in humans it is called socialization in the part, which is connected with the distribution of status and the definition of their role in society (first in the very near - in the family).

Secondly, parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters, friends and acquaintances, and sometimes complete strangers uncles and aunts and then say:

- What a good boy, gave way ...

- You're so big, and you cry, not ashamed!

- That Misha already knows how to read and write, but you know ... dunce want to grow?

- To learn from his brother: there he saves as toys and all you die hard!

- You have me so beautiful, my daughter!

From the best of intentions, which is paved road ... you know where adults affect the self-esteem of the child.

"And without it? "- You ask. Yes, difficult. But still...

You can, for example, try "not to get personal," not appreciating the baby, and act, action.

Or at least sometimes to translate the conversation in "constructive plane", "Wow, we have toys scattered around the room, even getting lost, let's collect them."

After all, it is very important to a child's self-esteem evolved, not under- or over: and then, and more promises problems for himself and family.

How to show adequate evaluation? Oh, it fit to enjoy the activity without aggression, resourcefulness, optimism, sense of humor, sociability.

And down? Passivity, mistrust, resentment or fear ... to play, to communicate (and suddenly see that I - worse).

However, sometimes it is manifested in attempts to compensate for the desire to always and everywhere be the first, and when the failures - is undergoing a profound tragedy. So the behavior of low self-esteem may seem like an overcharge.

But if the already happened, and self-esteem of the child is of concern, how to help?

First of all, make sure that the concerns were not in vain: the children are not robots, speak and act differently. If one hurt, lost, and another time - not a bit, so maybe it's okay?

Pay attention to the creative work of the baby: it has, for example, drawing on the sheet (not once, but often).

With low self-esteem - in the lower part, with overpriced - on the contrary.

Listen, how often the child says:

- I can not do it ...

- Why do this? I still get worse than that ...

- Just his luck ...

- I do not blame that ...

- But he snitch (fights, cheating ...)

- In actual fact, do not you think ...

- The teacher does not like me ...

- I am not interested...

- All against me ... etc.

But please, do not forget that we are talking about, how often, and not about whether it says.

To determine the level of the child's self-esteem is often invited to test "ladder", and if you want, you can easily find it in the internet, but I do not like it because it just involves tell someone how good and who is bad, that is, there is a danger "stake out" problem.

Much more I like the taste "funny little men." You can use a picture from the book M.Ilinoy "Preparing for School: developing tests and exercises," and can be drawn by the tree, different branches of which (one above, one below) sit funny creatures.

The child will be much easier, more pleasant and more interesting show, where he found himself falling on that tree where - his friends, parents and other relatives. And you with the look and note: who is above, below or poseredinke - and concludes (not forgetting that the preschooler self-esteem variable, and the result of work on the "here and now" and not on the rest of his life).

About how to help correct the detke self-esteem, will be discussed in the next article.

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Talk to your child about mom's love and intima

When the mother to start a conversation with the child about love and intima? Parents should be the main mentors in this topic, always answering questions directly, it is clear and accessible to the child's age, so that next time, when the child has any doubts, he turned to his parents.

Otherwise, we run the risk that the child will receive distorted information - on the street, at school, with friends, etc.

In modern society, when we are dealing with concepts such as AIDS and other diseases, sexually transmitted diseases and sexual abuse of children by adults, it is important to a child from an early age knew the structure of his body and physiological changes that await him in future.

The child should know that is not good, if someone (an adult or not) touch his private parts, and that if someone touches his or touches, and this child does not like, it is necessary to say that it is not necessary to do, and ask adult care.

Therefore, it is important that children are sufficiently trust parents to resort to their help, if something bothers them, or they have any doubts.

At what age to start a conversation with a child my mother?

No later than 6 years, children should know where they come from. No later than 9 years old child should know how to make the children, and what role is played by Mom and Dad.

From this age, in the early period of gestation parents should educate children on other topics such as menstruation or erection.

When a child is between 12 and 15 years, parents have the courage to tell in detail the child about sexuality and about the peculiarities of relations between the sexes, focusing on such fundamental aspects of love, tenderness, respect and feelings.

How to start a conversation with your child about mother love and intima?

Ideally, you want to conduct this conversation in a relaxed manner, spiritually and naturally. If you do not know where to start, you can use a book. On the book market is a fairly wide range of books and atlases of anatomy and physiology, adapted for children.

You can flip through a book together, this will help melt the ice, and your child will feel free to speak to you with their questions and doubts, to get them detailed and clear answers.

Remember that sex education - an important part of the overall education of the child, so we can not push this issue on the back burner. It is also important that this education was presented in stages, without undue haste and forcing.

To a certain time and parents will have to tell the child about the methods of contraception (in order to avoid unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases), and which one is best for him.