I'll give the child to kindergarten?

But is it necessary to get used to this? Was it for this, he came to this world?

I do not remember children who have fled to the kindergarten in front of adults, and even hurry them. And we do not want to go home in the evening from the garden.

If these children do exist, then they feel bad at home. They lack of communication, even if negative, they do not get enough attention, and it does not matter - what they lack of care, even if the breech.

A child may be happy to go to kindergarten if he does not have a warm home with an affectionate mother and grandmother patient. Because there is no best, most advanced, most elite kindergarten can not be compared with the house.

In kindergarten, no one asks: What do you want for dinner tonight? They put a plate and looking like a kid picks it with a spoon, to shout: Eat that give the home will pick. While you eat, because you will not leave the table.

And the baby will swallow the food hated half in tears. My middle child hates stewed cabbage. From one kind of food it inside out.

And after about 8 years ago in one of the best kindergartens, force-fed him this very cabbage, stuffing it into his mouth and forcing swallow. He choked up gag reflex, but he could not eat. He could not go against the rules against the system.

And nobody in the kindergarten was not going to feed him something else. Have a good teacher in the days when there was a cabbage, he just stayed hungry. The kind aunt is not allowed there, but did not give anything in return.

And my eldest son has not been able to overcome the fear caused by the mere thought that we should come up with a question to the people. He could not come and ask for something in relatively familiar people. And about those not familiar at all out of the question. It got to the ridiculous that in 12 years, I took care of it as a 5 year old kid. And why?

Because kindergarten yelled at him when he came up with the questions, and howcast zachemkami. Screaming or, at best, dismissed both of annoying flies. And the child was afraid to come up and ask something. What works me and he should overcome his fear that that could not be.

I have a picture in the album Senior New Year's in the garden. He's got those puppy eyes sad that whenever I look at this picture, I had tears welling.

I do not know what happened and why it is so sad. I was not there. But looking at this image, I realized how bad my son was in kindergarten. As he was there, among a heap of other children, he was alone.

Now I do not want to see the panic in his youngest son, too little eyes that could see the look of an older child in the picture. I do not want to take my baby home a happy life and give in return miserable existence in kindergarten.

I - his guide.

And I will not lead the child to where he forgot how to enjoy life ...

Supporters of kindergarten education can even chant in unison, there is a wonderfully-raschudesnye kindergartens, the child has to communicate with peers, it is impossible for life to protect the child from all, shielding him with her skirt. Chant as many !!!

I am convinced that the child is better than in a large family, and never can be. Here you and chat with children of different ages and that stimulates the development here you and true care and concern with Love, where you and ... Yes, the whole world is concentrated in Mnogodetochkinoy family!

Here is one more argument in favor of large families - do not want to poison the child's stay in kindergarten - kindergarten arrange it at home with many brothers and sisters.

After all, whatever the difficulties of education did not arise before mom or grandmother, who can help the mother to mess with children in a large family, these difficulties are overcome by love and tolerance. A kindergarten and attention to them, they will not.

Who needs your children, but you are very close to you and the family? Is the most wonderful educator in the world can so to love as you love, or your mother or your husband? Is the caregiver as much patience with respect to your children, how much, and you?

When looking at the hundredth time disemboweled cabinets and scattered all over the flat clothing, you lose self-control, and ends with your patience, to your aid comes Love.

And to that which is not my mother, not even my grandmother, and by and large one for your child that will come? Yes, anger will come to the child. He will absorb the anger. And learn to just yell and out of itself, as does the caregiver.

Note that I'm talking about good and adequate teachers. It is most often a woman, who is not very fond of children and simply nowhere in life, it is no longer settled down. But I found in kindergartens and mentally ill people.

Dismiss, but to call healthy women who punish children, locking them naked in a cold shower child, I can not. But such cases were, and mocked children and sexually molested.

No, no, no and no again. I am a child will not lead to the garden !!!

Stop.

And what about those who work, and who do not have to sit at home with your kids?

So mothers can think of only one thing: Trust children's own grandmother, and if this is not possible, find a babysitter that can become another child.

You know, Arina still found, alas, more often not in kindergartens.

Author: Tatiana Osipova

Why children do not value money

The child begins to appreciate things and money when to obtain them, he put a certain energy, a certain effort, when he made at least some action. Of course, this does not mean that a child should earn himself to all their needs.

And yet, when we teach a child to desire, to want to do and make reasonable efforts available to his age, his attitude to the obtained from adults is changing dramatically, because now this is and his contribution, his work, his energy.

We talked about it in his lecture "How to live with their children in peace and harmony":

"Do you want a mobile phone for $ 250? Excellent! Now I'll buy it can not, but if you really have such a desire, let's agree.

You finish a half without a "triples" and sit at a computer no more than two hours a day. Plus you yourself collect phone $ 50. If you do all this is done, after 2 months, the New Year, I give you a mobile for $ 250.

If you end up with half of the "troika", and everything else is performed, - you get a mobile for $ 150. If you comply with the terms of the contract, but for wear his computer at least once longer, your mobile will cost $ 150.

If you do not accumulate money, you get the phone for $ 200. If no agreement is made of nothing, then maybe Santa Claus you something to give, and to me - candy and lemonade. "

When the child does not want to do something, but I want to get something, parents can make sure that the child's actions were not the end in itself, but a tool to achieve the desired. "I understand that you do not want to wash the dishes every day, but if you do it, I will have released 15 minutes I spend on the phone further by assigning a business meeting.

This is enough to put even half the cost of the party, about which you ask me. " And now washing dishes is not hard boondoggle, and the opportunity to have a party, which has already had so many conversations with classmates.

Just to agree on such matters should be immediately, that all does not become a manipulation or outright blackmail the child.

Another way to increase the value and importance of money in the eyes of children - is a joint budgeting. If the child already knows how to count - count with him, if he can not - unpack money for piles, piles, breasts.

Like anything, if only he could see how all of the money earned goes to pay for the apartment in which the child lives, how much money on food as on clothing, how to pay for the children's expenses.

And if, after the distribution of money to a bunch of piles of fun and "mother buy me" no more, ask your child what he is willing to do to create it: eat less, live in the entrance or at night is not going to the toilet, saving energy?

The children, and indeed adults, desires are big and small. Little often spontaneous, momentary (gum, pies, chips ...), and more - long-term (buy my sister, I want to lisaped like Valery's; I urgently need a laptop, Dad, I saw pretty boots for $ 900 ...).

Short-term desire to quickly appear and just as quickly forgotten. We can only hurt, again refused. With long-term worse. There's you, and whining, and kanyuchane, tears and tantrums and threats to commit suicide, and reproaches "You do not love me, do not buy me anything ever" and has an arsenal that can sustain, not every parent.

How to solve this situation for the benefit of the common cause? Give your child a small pocket money, discuss pre-conditions and provide choices. Terms: you can buy with the money whatever you want (except for cigarettes, beer, and other the wrong things at this age), but at the end of each week will provide a full written report on how much money you got, and how much and where to spend.

There is a report this week - has the money to the next, there is no report - week break. Selection: you can always received money, or part of them to hold off on their great desire. In this case, I'll be at the end of the week you add 50% of the accumulated amount for a week without the right to spend it on something else. Save on the goal - to supplement, not to save - that's okay, too, just the goal postponed.

Thus, we can teach a child to strive for big goals, indulging in momentary whims. We live in a developing market economy.

Our task relative to children - to teach them to appreciate, love and respect money.

If a child from an early age come to understand that money is not an end in itself, but the reward for acts of internal changes, for personal growth, if your baby will take the money as a tool to achieve their desires, he wants to learn to use this tool.

He will learn to really appreciate the money and everything that they bought, because realize that you need to get them to work. And this is a very serious work, because the work will have on them. And to work the rest of life.