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Romance "before" and "after"
Marriage - is always a joyous and exciting time. The decision to create a family - a responsible and serious step. Psychologists divide 2 period in the formation of the couple: pre-marital (until the marriage) and peredbrachny (prior to the conclusion of marriage).
The premarital period, a very important factor in the development of relations, is a courtship. Courtship - expression of interest to the person of the same sex with the opposite purpose to win. The romantic courtship, the better the chances of success at conquering the subject.
In ancient times, concepts such as "grooming" and "romance" does not exist. Promiscuity prevailed, ie group marriage. Nobody cared for anyone else, but simply entered without ceremony in an intimate relationship. Then they all had children together. Then gradually people were divided into tribal communities.
Encouraged the marriage of young people from different communities and not in kind. Then there were the first elements of courtship, which were necessary due to the fact that the basic form of marriage is a marriage between two spouses. Then there was a need to choose one person to secure the union, and it was necessary to attract his attention.
Of course, there were still some places there are polygamous and monogamous marriages. But the basic form of marriage, more widespread and institutionalized, is a marriage between a man and a woman. With the development of civilization becomes mandatory courtship ritual.
Men devote their beloved songs, poems, give flowers, is dating. Rendezvous could start a serious relationship, which later develops into love. So first date always had a major role, carefully prepared.
Like hundreds of years ago, and now a date is an attribute of courtship, when everyone is trying to show themselves in the best light in front of another.
In the classic version goodbye man presents flowers to his lady. The ritual of giving flowers for centuries brings joy to women.
A rare woman would not be happy beautiful flower. Flowers - a symbol of love, a symbol of celebration and joy. According to legend, when one person teaches another color - together with them, he passes on the soul.
When there was this kind of entrenched and creativity as the verse, he also became an element of courtship. There is hardly a poet who in his work has not even one poem about love. For example, a well-known Petrarch immortalized the young Louise in his sonnets.
In verses to pour out his love - it was, is and will be very romantic. Now there are many ways okoldovyvaniya and conquest of a loved one.
Romance - one of the attributes of relations between subjects of the opposite sex. The word "romantic" means anything emotional, sublime. They liked each other young people trying to surround each other's attention and make it beautiful.
Romance in the first place, something unusual, personal and infinitely enjoyable. For some, romance - going to the movies on a night session for someone - a walk in the moonlight or dinner at an expensive restaurant. Peredbrachny period in relations must contain certain elements of romance.
The man is a native earner who won the woman, although sometimes it happens and vice versa. Marriage sometimes regarded as the ultimate authority, with the advent of which all possible courtship becomes meaningless, since the conquest has already occurred.
Sometimes it suits both of them. But it happens that this situation does not suit one of the spouses. Joint life bears the responsibility for each other, coherence and patience.
Family - a single organism, a single unit. Employment of both spouses and routine often leads to a gradual or abrupt cessation of the provision of certain tokens, which they enjoyed before marriage. It may subsequently harm family life.
What can be fraught with such behavior? The fact that a family member might be lack of attention on the part of a spouse, which can lead to conflicts and betrayals. If a man is a woman attentions before the wedding and abruptly stopped after the marriage, the woman would miss it. Lack of attention can be a reason to change.
All nice when cared for, so often marriages fail due to lack of proper attention, which is located on the side.
In his heart, each of us is romantic, and, consequently, everywhere there is a temptation that some impact on us and subdue the behavior and actions that we see in the family, from which we simply lost the habit.
Therefore, despite the current problems of employment and, though sometimes you need to set aside time at each other. Spousal relationships to periodically refresh. Invite each other out on dates needed and being a married couple. Romantic date is not only refreshing, but also to strengthen the relationship.
The best gift for your loved one - in a good mood, especially if you already know that can bring him joy. Keep in mind that people in love tries to capture only the best to the selected object, remember the best moments of time spent together.
Without the update, these points are erased from the memory of the spouses. The outcome can serve as mutual claims and tired of each other. Sometimes, the couple may not be aware of what they lack. But not enough, maybe just a night walk in the park or something else like that, as in "the good old days."
So do not weaken attention to each other after the wedding. We must always be alert. Not for nothing the first year of marriage is considered to be difficult for the newlyweds, who are at risk of domestic problems to lose the weapon that conquered each other, they attracted.
Well, if the pair and after many years of caring for each other, not having lost in life fervor and imagination. By good, as you know, get used quickly.
The main task - to maintain and develop the love and attention to each other.
Author Marina Kulakov.
Communication within the family
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