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Perhaps in your life you sometimes had to meet people who can not be hurt, offend, offend. Well, not quite stick to them quip, and that's it - they still hurt that the offending rock or waterfall ... What is this - an innate "talent optimist" or immunity developed over many years of training? But, you see, these people are often a matter of respect and
even envy - "does not catch it, that's really anyone's health iron! "Speaking of health ... not for nothing that these people are jealous - because we all intuitively feel that our health depends on the state of our soul, not just convinced - mens sana in corpore sano ... and vice versa!
Each of us at least once in a life offense. Yes there again! Almost without noticing, we often are in this state - resent themselves for "the fate of the villain," and most of all - to others. And we do not stop even a convincing case that the offense is able to cause serious harm to our health. It is believed that cirrhosis of the liver the absolute teetotaler in life comes from many years of resentment toward their parents.
A constant feeling of strong resentment, gnawing inside, can lead to such diseases as cancer - when it is literally the body "eaten from the inside." After all, what the offense is not eating itself? Resentment - is the bitterness, the inward man.
A man who can not forgive breaks inside.
So why, knowing all this, we continue to be offended? It is unlikely that we want it - just do not know, do not see the answer, what to do, how to cope with this feeling and get rid of him? Try to understand, to have a dialogue with yourself, I think - and why should I care?
Maybe this feeling too much, just makes me unfree and, in fact, prevents me to live and enjoy positive emotions? How do we kill time rastravlivaya internal wounds and examining the bones of the past. To begin, we need to realize one thing.
The resentment like a man looking for a way to destroy the achievements ALREADY injustice. Man thinks that the more carefully he will suffer in a state of resentment, the sooner there will be some wonderful changes and somewhere there the reward for sacrifice. But no awards will not arise. The current offense - this resistance, a fight that has already happened and can not turn back the clock.
So is there in this kind of logic?
Does it make sense to engage in a struggle with the past without a time machine, but only filling yourself negative experiences?
Change the past is impossible, and therefore hurt as a weapon in the struggle with the past will focus solely on yourself and your health.
So, when you realize that resentment leads to defeat and suffering - you will want to rule over this emotional reaction.
In the end - it is yours and yours alone. And you decide when it is "off". Sometimes it helps a simple way - run a simple principle to remember self-respect, self-esteem - "Why should I have to pass the reins of power in the hands of others and allows you to control your mood? ".
On this topic very well put Indian sage Osho - that is, someone pushed the button, we swelled with pride, pressed another - and were blown away disappointed. Really nice when you run? Sometimes, this fact alone is able to excite and cause a firm belief - "I myself want to be masters of their destiny and their emotions and do not intend to succumb to provocations from the outside."
And enough to learn a simple rule of life, which as a motto for life to exist much more comfortable, and quiet:
"No I do not owe anything. No one in the world. I myself only provides its own happiness and success. "
When we shift the entire responsibility for our fate to others, too demanding of people, paste them comfortable for yourself labels - and then begin to wonder how our beliefs at odds with the images of others, while we do these images and invented.
And begin actively to this offense. That a husband or wife "do not love", and the child "does not respect ..." - and in fact we are trying to adjust the strangers under our convenient model that exists only in our heads. And what to do, especially when we are trying to bring up negative emotions, deliberately offend or humiliate?
Sometimes, the best way to fight - it is neglect.
Repeat traveled. You just have to play one thought - "I do not want to feel a sense of order that man, at the click of his fingers. I am the master himself, and know how to manage their own emotions and not to execute someone's whim. "
If a little practice, soon to quip, whose purpose is to hurt you, you learn not to react at all, they will turn into the "background" - similar to the noise of the wind or the cry of a bird.
It is well known that permanent resentment over time is self-pity. But you want to be confident, positive thinking man? So throw away all the excess and allow yourself the luxury of being free.
And do not forget about the main thing - try to do as little as possible to offend others, and they are likely to tell you thanks.
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