The cure for forgetfulness

Practical psychology.

Have you ever forgotten where you are thrown into a cell phone? Loss of the right things in your own apartment can spoil the mood for the whole day searching for things it is time consuming.

Sometimes such trifles can be late for work or a business meeting. Cell phone find simple. Just call him from a landline. The handset finds itself. But what about the other things that are not able to "talk".

Do a simple experiment with his memory, and you will understand what to do to make things in the apartment were not lost. The experience takes you no more than ten minutes of time.

1. Collect one handful of 7-10 different objects. For example: a pen, a lighter, a cell phone, a notepad, a deck of cards, a teaspoon, a packet of tea.

2. Write the names of objects on paper.

3. Hide the things in different parts of the apartment.

Memorizing technique

Putting the thing, hold your attention to this stuff, as well as objects that are in close proximity, about 10 seconds. Carefully consider the need to thing you are hiding, and the object with which it is in contact (a general outline).

For example, if you put a deck of cards on a videotape, then you need to carefully examine about 10 seconds, a deck of cards and video cassettes. You have to see the thing that hides!

Example. Expander you put in a box with thread. It is a mistake to look at the closed box with thread. Before closing the box carefully consider and expander, and surrounding thread (in the box).

Arrange all the items in different parts of the apartment.

Technique recall

Take the list of things. Read the first word (for example, it will be a "pen"). Imagine the image of a pen in the imagination, hold it, mentally scrutinizes. Hold the image as long as your imagination will not appear another image on which you put a pen.

Then read the next word in the list. Imagine the image of the object in the imagination. Hold it for as long as remember the place bookmarks. Similarly, remember the location of other things.

If the "hanging" of the image in the imagination of your brain does not respond to memory, slowly, silently stared at the image again and again. Memory is required to respond.

Talk experience

When you see one object to another object, your brain automatically (involuntarily) stores the relationship between the two objects. To communicate better remember, give the brain time to bond formation.

Keep the attention on a pair of contiguous images of about 10 seconds. To get from the brain of the memory, it is necessary to present the brain stimulus. In our experience, the incentives are the words from the list.

For example, the experience you have had the opportunity to feel like working memory (memorization and recall). The mnemonics used this kind of memory - the brain's ability to remember connections between images.

Links can be either natural (you can see linked images) and artificial (you combine images in the imagination).

The time of formation of such a relationship - just a few seconds. Save time - from 40 minutes up to a lifetime.

Practical advice

If you put somewhere right thing, do not rush to withdraw from her eyes. Hold your eyes for about 10 seconds, give your brain time to memorize the relationship between the subject and place.

To remember where you put the thing, imagine your desired subject in mind.

V.Kozarenko

A friend of my girlfriend - a taboo?

Should I start a relationship with another girlfriend?

Female friendship - a very thin region! Let's try to define the slippery moments that may hinder communication with her best friend.

A friend of my girlfriend - a taboo?

Female friendship - a very controversial area. And there is enough contradictions, delicate moments and terrible details.

Men, as a rule, with horror and incomprehension belong to it and can not understand how a woman can hold each other all day long, while envying one another, competing in matters of love and competing in a number of new things.

Women's betrayal - not for the general theme of the novel, and the friendship ends where it begins the sphere of personal claims.

Men are much simpler and clearly is lined on the black and white stripes. That is - friendship, and everything else is not.

And my friend, I can not give the latter, despite the fact that he is more successful than I, and his wife, my more beautiful. The notions of rivalry and betrayal in friendship for the man are not compatible, unlike women.

Women are far more reasons to communicate and points of contact - a mutual self-assertion by deficiencies friends, the opportunity to come together for the common enemy without feeling sympathy probably use beauty and charm of a friend in order to get a joint new friends, but who knows what else!

It is not necessary to go into details the motives that make women's friendship is much more meaningful, challenging and indestructible.

Let's try to define the slippery moments that may hinder communication with her best friend. Should I start a relationship with another girlfriend?

The moment the first.

She broke up with another boyfriend. Can I borrow that she no longer belongs to? You can try.

Possible scenarios:

you just burn this man, and you and a friend will be a common theme for discussion;

he will throw you in the same way as it used to be, and it will be proud to have more than one hit, which also brought together by you;

from the height of his bitter 'experience', she will advise you how to behave with this man, and into the role of mom vzhivshis be content with patronizing role in your friendship.

But what she really would not tolerate, because it is your happiness with that person. Sparkling glitter in your eyes will be cut with a knife in her heart, and your stories about the future of marriage with a man who she was not needed, will strike a blow to her self-esteem that your friendship will be the end for sure.

The moment the second.

It's just one of your girlfriends, it does not feel for him the slightest affection of the heart, and be grateful for what you rid it of excess fan.

A scenario also does not shine optimism:

if you parted with this man, she would be happy that she did not have to go through it myself;

if he is a bad lover or a ladies 'man, she would worry about you and say,' she warned you! ';

if you throw it you will experience a feeling of pity mixed with excellence - because you do not disdain to take a 'rotten apple' with its table, so what are now the cry?

Again, the worst outcome of events - if you will be happy with this man! You are now in the coffin of life should be grateful to her for what she introduce you. And the envy of your happiness, that would belong to her, does not give the possibility to be your friend as before.

Moment of the third, the most dangerous.

She still loves him, but because of the reluctance to acknowledge his weakness and, seeing that he is not indifferent to you, pretending that he was completely indifferent to her and she will be so happy for you two! Here hold the air!

The most unimaginable and subtle ways of revenge, betrayal, and burning hatred will fall on your shoulders. Maybe not immediately, but even many years later.

Under the guise of friendship disappears rejected rival, and should not expect mercy! Summing up all the above, it can be simple and clear conclusion.

The woman, in any case sees a man who is beside her as personal property. And under no circumstances will not tolerate a rival in the person's best friend.

Leave her alone, without your help to deal with their men and search for happiness in a completely different place!

Of course, there are happy exceptions, but they only confirm the general rule sad: "A friend of my girlfriend - a taboo!"