The world in which I did not offend

"There is no violence in the spiritual," - say the Kabbalists. But in our material world of violence abound. Is there at least one area where you could be sure you were not hurt, humiliate, not keep doing what you do not want?

There is no place on earth! There is no place where you could feel safe. Why is it, in fact, these same Kabbalists assure us that there is nothing in the world, which had no reason to be in the spiritual world?

"Yes, I would like to live in such a world", - confessed to me a woman who is a victim of rape in childhood. We met at a crisis center where she brought her daughter. Mother problem - she is afraid of intimacy with men. The daughter problem - she does not get along with her mother.

Psychologist - a friend of mine, medical ethics does not allow her to tell me in detail about the problems of her charges, but without this it is clear that one problem drags a pile of others, and just talking will not help. Here it is necessary to put next to each therapist, and the therapist - one more.

Is this the solution? Man - the only creature that is available violence, hatred.

Animals do not experience these emotions. Even if the wolves fighting over females, it pushes their instinct - the desire to survive. If a lynx attacking a man, he does so by protecting their territory. Hunters called the evil wolf and lynx - an insidious, but it's human emotions that we endow animals.

But their lives are actually no hate, no evil, no treachery - only instincts: hunger, the desire of procreation, protection of territory, fear for their young. Man - the only creature that feels pleasure from the suffering of others.

Why is that? Kabbalists explain this by the fact that each of us lies in his egoistic desire, in a box, and not just see and hear the feelings of others. He does not understand that in fact relates to all people invisible strings.

Any influence from the outside, which is not like our egoism and causes suffering, we are looking for the cause. The reason, of course, not in themselves and in other operations. The action causes a reaction.

We perceive the other as an enemy to be fought and overcome, not as a part of yourself, which helps to understand what is wrong in me. The winner, of course, the strongest.

And the one who won, starts to revenge, because sooner or later the strong and the weak are reversed. Domestic violence - a common phenomenon.

According to the UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon, "at least one in three women in their lifetime can be subjected to beatings, forced to engage in sexual activity or become the victim of other forms of abuse."

Moreover, we can not say that this phenomenon has appeared only in recent years. In history there are many examples of abuse of husbands over wives and parents over children.

The reason for this is that Kabbalah explains that the man is actually struggling with intractable contradictions in themselves.

He can not live with them, can not figure out how to get rid of suffering and therefore vent their pain on others.

Have you ever noticed that in depression, in the case of failures, we come home and anger on the nearest Orem?

And well, if only to Orem. In domestic violence, as a phenomenon, there is another side.

If earlier the woman endured - remember the saying "an effort - so loves?" - Now and female ego has grown so much that they do not want to remain silent. And we get a divorce, trauma, and even murder.

Even the United Nations drew attention to this problem. Ban Ki-moon called it "a great evil" and stressed that violence against women "hurts all mankind."

This assessment is valid, but the solution is not just to create crisis centers to provide legal support and demonstrations. This is only a symptomatic treatment. To get to the reason you need something else.

In fact, in order to get rid of suffering, man has to change is their perception of external influences - direct your anger on others, and inward to their own self-interest.

How to do it - is another question. But if you're reading this, it means that there will soon answer.

How does all this tired, or seasonal syndrome

In the morning we could hardly open his eyes, looking longingly at the dark window. And there again, the gray sky, cloudy day. Close to the eyes, turn to the wall and no one today do not see. All tired, have no desire to go to his job, with someone to meet, talk.

A terrible fatigue, apathy, complete unwillingness to do anything. Familiar symptoms, right?

There is no bad weather?

Well it is in winter or autumn, when the days are very short, and we live like moles in eternal darkness, without seeing the light of day. And in fact, and in the spring and summer ... endless cloudy days, rain pours from morning to evening - abyss of heaven opened wide. Or, conversely, could the sun not breaking through a thick curtain of smoke and fumes. Such longing ...

And there is a white light of God's chosen place where always shines and the warm sun! For many people, a change of season is becoming a serious problem. And when someone complains of a complete breakdown in the autumn or winter, it does not mean that people just naughty. In the cold season to work colleagues simply do not know.

Instead energetic optimists morning creep up some somnambulist, who then stay the whole day in a rage state. Their reaction to the assigned task often becomes inadequate, they are inhibited, animated rarely, only when a sweet and starchy foods on the dinner table, and communication with them is very difficult.

Seasonal depression - is a real disease, which in our climate intensified in November and subsides only in April. Its symptoms are almost always the same.

Constant fatigue, depressed mood, lack of balance, sometimes turning into aggressiveness, sleepiness, decreased performance, change in taste.

To all this added weight problems. Appeared extra weight angered even more, respectively, mood deteriorates day by day. As a result, you may receive the urge to consume alcohol - a foolish hope that wine can quench their grief.

They are not afraid of the cold, but the heat ...

Some people (although they are a minority) suffer from other problems. They suffer from depression in the summer. And the symptoms are no different from the winter version. As a rule, in March - June of their condition begins to deteriorate, and improvement comes only in August - October.

They just spoil the mood hot and sunny days. These sufferers can not do without air conditioning. This also happens. Simply, they do not live in their environments. So, the summer holidays it is best done in the North, where they can enjoy the fresh air and bathe in cold rivers and lakes.

hibernation

According to the scientists of the University of Vienna, 13% of the population of Central Europe suffer from seasonal depression mild and 4% hard to carry the disease. And the doctors themselves admit that these figures did not accurately reflect the real picture: many potential patients do not go to the doctor, finds repulsive mood normal state, the same as in others.

If the European countries, where the sun with a visit pleases people more often, so a high percentage of people exposed to this melancholy, what to talk about our country! Scientists believe the cause of sleepiness is a lack of sunlight, because of what is happening unbalance the natural rhythms of the body.

In winter, when the days are getting shorter, the hands of our internal clock "translated" a few turns ago. This is a serious stress another "winter" problem resulting in the same manner as the heat and lack of vitamins, a reduction of protective functions. At nightfall, in the human body increases the concentration of melatonin.

For a long time about it, nothing was known. Only in the mid-70s of the XX century by the development of radioimmunoassay technology an opportunity to detect this substance in the blood. It was found that melatonin has a sedative effect. At night, its concentration is 5-10 times higher than in the daytime.

Usually it begins to stand out at nightfall, about eight o'clock in the evening, and reaches its highest point in two or three o'clock in the morning. Then again, the amount is reduced with seven in the morning until eight at night again remains low. But in December, at half past three days as dark as the summer at ten o'clock in the evening, then, tired and feeling before. In addition, we go to work, when still quite dark, and the days are cloudy ...

No one is safe ...

Seasonal depression is observed in all parts of the world men and women of different ages. But most of all, perhaps, it exposed the so-called women of childbearing age. Especially hard for those who often have to change the time mode, on duty round the clock, to work at night or sit up in the morning, doing urgent work.

This condition is well known to members of the crews of airships, emergency doctors, shift workers. People these professions are constantly act contrary to their biological rhythm. Not by chance many of them suffer from seasonal depression.

German researchers from the Trade Union of Health and charity (BGW) drew attention to the fact that the number of industrial accidents increases in the autumn.

Of course, part of some problems occur due to deteriorating weather conditions, but without a doubt, a great role to play, and psychological factors. In cold weather, the main causes of work-related injuries are most often fatigue, confusion, poor concentration and inattention.

Light therapy

For those who are particularly difficult to tolerate autumn and winter depression, doctors may assign light therapy. This treatment has been known since antiquity. Today, applied and natural (sun) and artificial light therapy. As is known, light is an electromagnetic wave of three ranges: the infrared, visible, and ultraviolet.