The development of self-confidence

Confidence - it is one of the key elements to achieve the desired goals in life. In turn, when you achieve what you want, you feel more confident and feel even more confidence.

It is a process that begins with the awareness of self. And often, when people are just beginning to any business, they do not feel confident, and this can cause difficulties.

Because when you do not feel confident in yourself, others easily break you the slightest criticism in your address or the fact that you are doing. Then, without a strong self-confidence, you can easily start to agree with them, and to give his views instead of objectively consider any criticism as an opinion about your behavior, not as a criticism of you personally.

The advantage of an objective view of things is that you can turn any criticism of the ability to change and grow, if you consider fair criticism, or not pay attention to it as to the statement with which you disagree, if you think the criticism unfair. When you do not have an inner sense of self-esteem, you will also find yourself a prisoner of perception you other people, and you can easily allow you to suppress those views.

In turn, this can cause many negative effects, for example, you will not get what you want to achieve at work. Then, too, if you do not feel confident in their merits, you will evaluate yourself below and will also receive less money, less profit, less prestige, less power, least of all anything in all spheres of life.

Conversely, when you direct your mind the possibility of force to build self-confidence and self-esteem, you'll not only feel better, but also much more likely to get what you want.

You will achieve this, you'll feel like you deserve it, and other people also agree. You will pass your position such thoughts, and when other people will catch your thoughts, they will have no choice but to agree.

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR IMAGE IN ORDER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

I know many people who have been able to radically change his life and succeed in their chosen careers, starting with a change of position. At first they felt insecure, but gained confidence.

By concentrating on their good qualities, they are mentally seen that they have achieved success, prosperity and recognition by others of their efforts and achievements. The reason for the effectiveness of this approach is that if you believe in his greatness - you are great!

And above all, you should start with this faith, because this faith helps you to gain practical experience confirms this belief. For example, if you are confident that you will get a specific job or a promotion, you will radiate an aura of confidence and act as if you have the job, and then people will represent you in this role.

In addition, having this faith, you will be convinced that you can do all that is required, and you can do it. And soon you will discover that you have this job because you create a reality that reflects your belief.

Of course, external circumstances, and the opportunity to be successful in the right place at the right time can help you gain confidence in yourself. But if you lack this inner sense of self-confidence, any luck and favorable circumstances will not give you that feeling of their own strength, which you need to make the necessary circumstances to make you turn.

Think of the many people who received a promotion at work in the new position. They then discovered that they can not bear the additional responsibility. In fact, the following principle is valid, and it is that people are promoted as long as they do not reach the level at which they are incompetent.

However, the reasons for this principle of operation - it's old position, which some transferred to a new position. Consciously or unconsciously, they still see themselves in their old role, and they do not feel this confidence, to raise the level of the functions performed. They think they do not deserve a promotion, they are not worthy, and so on. D.

As a result, they are, after all, are untenable, and can be lowered to the position in which they feel relaxed. Conversely, when you feel an inner confidence, you think, 'I can do it, no matter how difficult it may appear "and you are ready to assume new tasks, responsibilities and ready to grow.

Do you believe that you can do it, so you can do it. Thus, everything is based on faith. You must believe that you have the power to achieve the desired success, then this faith will give you strength that you need to do this, as described in the following examples. As Svetlana translate their dreams into reality.

Svetlana worked as a secretary, although it is and depressing. She had a lot of creative ideas and a strong desire for freedom, but she was afraid to act. What she really wanted was to organize the business of designing clothes. But she kept thinking about the many obstacles that stand in its way - that she did not have enough money, no experience and did not have the equipment and staff to start.

All her thoughts on the obstacles were caused by the fear that it does not have the ability to do what she wants. Thus, for several years she continued to work as a secretary, but she felt dissatisfied and constantly harassed her desire to quit work.

Using internal resources

In each of our lives we have been situations in which we truly felt the success and happiness. Each is some kind of a personal experience. Perhaps someone once he saw how the sun rises, and felt amazing

harmony with the environment. And someone, being in the mountains, has experienced such an unusual delight that will long be remembered is his experience.

For women, having a baby is often associated with a very strong sense of purpose. Either way, everyone can be some of his episodes in which people somehow are particularly hard felt like a complete person. For now, just remember one of such cases.

When memories come, sit comfortably, straighten your back and take a few deep breaths. Your hands should not be crossed. Close your eyes and immerse yourself in their memory.

Your perception must be such as when the episode occurred. That is, just remember that your eyes have seen in those moments. As long as you set up your memory, note the picture of the internal memories and make it very big, bright, located nearby.

The image you see to be three-dimensional and color. You can also imagine how they surround you from all sides like a panorama. You can clearly hear the sounds that are associated with this episode. If you do not hear them, then set up your ears so that the sounds are clearly drifted to you.

In the episode that you remember, there is a certain dynamics, and so it should not be presented as a frozen picture. He is like a film that unfolds before your eyes. As it happens, you can more and more to feel the emotions experienced at the time of his life.

Open up to them and let them flow freely in your body. Let them freely disclosed inside you, like a flower bud swellable. Consider also that in this episode, there is some special positive energy that greatly affects you. Thinking about it, begin to inhale it. Let this energy is inside you with your breathing.

Imagine every cell of your personality is saturated with it. When your experience of what is happening will be strong enough, squeeze the right fist and keep on remembering. When the episode ends, the imagination taken into the very beginning of his life.

Your right fist is still compressed. Imagine how you begin to go through the various complex episodes of his life. Living them one by one, thinking about how you would behave in them, if the same share personal experiences that you remember, would be all the time with you. Go so throughout his life.

When you get to the present, imagine how you behave, having this resource in a variety of difficult situations that you may have at this time. Having done this, open your eyes. How are you feeling?

What has changed in your perception of the past?

This technique teaches us to work with their own resources. If at some time in some situations one or another resource person is strongly manifested, then why should he forget? On the contrary, it is necessary that he came to our personal experience very deeply.

With this technique, you can attach a variety of strong resource experience. Think about how your life would change if you constantly feel all its positive resources!

To see how far you have done this exercise, try to squeeze the right fist. If at the same time compression comes the very resource sense, the work is done well.

And now, when one or another trouble comes into your life, just do two things: squeeze the right fist and think about what you would do in this episode, though very much felt the same resource.

To remember your own life, you can also recall the great visual image that you associated with it. So you can work with a variety of resource episodes from his life.

Each resource can help in some particular situation. The technology of this work is very simple: you just need to think about what the quality of your personality could help you survive these or other difficult circumstances.

After that you need to find in their personal experience of an event in which you strongly enough expressed these same resource quality. Remembering this event, start using the above procedure.

In fact, inside we have all the necessary resources and quality to cope with any situation. The problem is not that we do not have some qualities, but the fact that we can not use them.

If psychological counseling a person comes and says that he is very uncertain, it is not quite correct formulates his problem. He is unsure of any particular context of their experience.