Alone ... because they know what they want

When we meet a lonely man who has no obvious reasons for solitude, we wonder, and begin to build a variety of assumptions.

But it happens, everything is much easier than we had imagined ...

Obvious reasons for loneliness

Stereotypes always say that loneliness there for obvious reasons. For example, an incurable disease, extreme poverty, unattractive appearance, evil character, excessive demands on mate, quarrelsome disposition, self-doubt, and many others. The presence of one or several of these factors contribute to the fact that men and women can not be a partner in life.

I just know what I want

And yet the reason for the loneliness can be a clear idea of ​​what kind of person, what kind of life partner you need. But, alas, in your life, it is not. Not because these people basically do not exist. And the reason that until fate brought you to this person.

Over the years - getting worse

In the 18-20 age do you think you would be happy with different young people. For example, with the soul of the company classmates Lёshkoy or porch neighbor Dima enterprising, and maybe a gallant brother or your friend Vadim brunette handsome son of friends of your family Vitalik ...

In other words, you like very much. Sometimes you can not even choose - so these two (three or four) good! Over the years, much narrower range of choices. And because almost all Acquires own families, and build happiness on someone else's misfortune is not as easy as a "scratch", when everything - bachelors.

And because the requirements for the chosen one becomes more clear and crisp. And the day before yesterday the boys are personalities - each with its own "cockroaches" in the head. Some stubborn and categorically so that you do not want to waste time and effort to dissuade. Others are not averse to live at the expense of women carrying on a "family of WHO", while they are staying up late every night watching «Discovery».

Still others are not willing to go against his mother, showing her that you are not the kind of bitch that she (my mother) to see you.

And over the years, you do not want to tolerate someone close, simply because not to be one.

The main thing - do not love and respect

It is said that the main thing in the family - not love and respect. But, sorry, scratch respect is simply impossible. A person must show, for which he can be respected. And if that is not a single reason ?! Of course, the people will always find the reason why it is possible to award a medal.

For example, I took (first two years) the child from kindergarten! What is not a reason? Or delivered trash. Or (a miracle!) Washed their dishes! Or the classic "let you look at the other - the other is even worse - alcoholics and drug addicts."

I want to be behind him, like a stone wall

- Maybe it's trite, - says the 27-year-old Julia, but I need a reliable man for whom I will like a stone wall. From my first husband, this has not turned out - he ran to the left in search of new adventures and experiences. So it was not mature enough, not ready for marriage, not developed, can not be responsible for the obligation to be faithful, to be together in sorrow and joy.

I was most impressed by the responsible and required men who are not so often seen. And to the extent of self-confident (I can not stand arrogant, "pontovyh" cynical upstarts). Alas, among the free men are not caught me and take away someone else's husband, making sure that he left his family, left his wife and their children, I do not want to.

The men - the same problem

- I am 32 years old, - says Dima. - I consider myself a successful man. I have a prestigious job and an apartment in the city center. I achieved everything in life itself. Friends and wonder how such a successful and attractive man can remain celibate. And I can quite explain why.

Because I can not find a girl that I need. Firstly, I do not want his wife bitchiness emansipe that would disappear for days at work, pulling at the heads of department and deputy director of the company. I do not need it at home nervousness and reports (which it will finish at night), fast food, she will feed me for the very busy at work.

More God forbid she announced that she does not want to have children, because it is now, you see, the peak of career. Or come to work a month after giving birth, and will leave the child to strangers, instead of taking care of it myself. I sit in these gras business woman, with whom I occasionally encounter at work. I want a relaxed, homely wife without ambition unseat the Lord-God.

I wish it was your wife, not the Lady business that dinner would talk to me about the prices of stocks, exchange rates or inflation rate. However, I wish that my future wife was a clever woman and has been able to maintain intelligent conversation. I am also against the fact that she was sitting at home and around my neck.

Let it work, but without the burning zeal that always hurts the family. Today, many women are striving for independence, and the contrary, I want to marry the one that will not be a burden to financial dependence on me. And why should it be a burden? I'm not a stranger to her will a person.

I do not know, you're lucky if my heroes, they will find those looking for? .. Hope so. After all, they say, the main thing - to know what you want.

Bad habits and what to do with them

We, the girls, there is a big bunch of bad habits, from which we did not want to get rid of just because it is our true feminine charm.

But, as it turns out, not all of our antics and habits can be as harmless as we think.

I do not want to scare you, just advise you to read and take note ... Perhaps then you will want to change something in their lives.

The habit of spending money

Shopping in many countries equated to addiction. In this dependency most likely to be women aged 20 to 45 years. How would I most like to say that things are not so bad, but in our country there are psychologists and therapists who specialize in this type of addiction.

In addition, you can spend all the money, but because of the increasing emergence of credit cards (note - strongly focused on the female audience), but also to get into debt, the very awareness that somewhere you could sell too cheap, or did not have time to take advantage of a discount, It leads to severe stress.

Psychologists have long noticed how much most people affected by the inscription "sale" or «sale». Very often, we are ready to buy something with markdowns at one store, when it is cheaper than the nearby, but without the inscription "minus 70%". And then they themselves are suffering from this. Do not forget that happiness is not only a good buy. If you go to the store, try to strictly follow the pre-compiled list.

The habit of sitting at the computer

In our life easy it includes not only the search engines, but also blogs, LJ, dating and socializing with classmates, classmates, and so on. In addition, if earlier in online gaming has been the predominance of the male, but now women are easily drawn into the game with the elves and orcs, that can not affect their health.

American psychologists have shown that 92% of people using e-mail for personal correspondence, are stressed throughout the day, waiting for a letter. And Japanese scientists at the University of Yamagata confirmed that the emission of the computer even if there is protection provokes female baldness.

So, if you spend two hours a day in front of the monitor turned on, the risk of losing your hair is increased by 10%, and if the entire eight-hour day, it is already 80%. Add to this a home computer, and you are horrified at how quickly you can lose your favorite Spit.

The habit of buying shoes

You have the entire wardrobe packed with shoes, but you can not stop? Especially when you see that's the beauty of high heels on? Come to your senses! According to the largest group of orthopedic Otto Bock, one in two people in the world suffer from diseases associated with the deformation of the foot.

And 90% of them - a female! This is especially due to our love of heels and change their height. If you regularly put on a new, neraznoshennuyu shoes, your foot is deformed over time, and bone under the thumb begins to bulge, which can lead to surgery.

Take a good look at his leg and think - is not it time to switch to sneakers? Still I do not really want to cut down this very special bone saw.

The habit of dieting

Most nutritionists honestly admit that 70% of women who in some way restrict themselves in food, the diet is not required. And about 20% of them - absolutely contraindicated. Fashion for excessive thinness introduced a new generation of designers and their dystrophic models, as well as regular advertising on TV, showing us unrealistic slender beauties.

Secretly I admit that many of them in the life of a much bulkier, but the camera does successfully delivered their slender and fragile. In addition, any institution catering specialist will tell you that diet - this is the easiest way to gain weight.

Forcing a while starving the body, you are to tell him that it is at all possible. In order to avoid to remain without fat necessary for life, your body tries to have "outsmart" pre-making supplies. And the most common place for this - the thigh and abdomen.

So if you fold in the diet of 3 kg, the next week after the end of the probability score just 5 increases sharply. Far better to eat a full and varied.

The more that any restriction of the food - it is also a severe psychological stress that many leads again to a larger package of calories.

So throw this bad habit, and eat what you want.