How to create a strong-willed person? What is a strong-willed person?
Many of us are strong-willed person who can appear to (or have the ability) to overcome various kinds of difficulties during his aspiration to the goal.
Strong-willed qualities of the person
Many such strong-willed person sees a bold, decisive, so that does not lose composure in critical moments. It is assumed that if a person is strong-willed, strong-willed it around.
Unfortunately, such views held by many. And even some experts in the field of psychology is also inclined to think so.
Social matured person is considered a person, but not everyone is strong-willed person will be socially mature.
Strong-willed person is one who is successfully implementing its high, socially significant motives.
The height of such motives, their substantive characteristics differ according to Leontiev identity from fanatics, drug addicts or criminals.
And how then to shape identity?
If you go on the basis of Soviet times: "You Komsomolets, you are obliged to," that is the way of compulsion and coercion itself. For some time such manipulation own motivation work.
Various arrangements of himself, reasoning, intentional giving meaning to some extent act. But their influence on the overall scope of the individual motivations of doubt. An example may serve as a warning facts "bred disgust."
How diligent students of music schools, ending her perfectly, lay in the direction of a musical instrument, in order to never approach it.
But before they had for many years diligently, "strong-willed way" engaged for several hours a day! Winning in a small loss in the big turns. And suffering, especially the scope of the individual motivations. Therefore, the problem of willpower or lack of will of the person occupied and occupies the minds of mankind.
Authoritarianism in the education and training cause enormous damage to the individual. If a man have a constant pressure, coerced or threatened worse, it performs the desired behavior from him without regard to their own interests, goals and desires.
These behaviors do not assimilate a person. The predominance of the installation "I" means the appearance of the inner court, and tight control of its own compulsion.
Home energy is thus consumed in an internal struggle with their own desires and wishes to overcome themselves.
Many psychologists have identified willpower with the authority's own compulsion, thus raising doubts about the value of this force manifests itself in action "through gritted teeth."
The prevailing development of the same court leads to the formation of a set of character traits, which are referred to in many sources as "rigid character".
And then during the formation of the individual need to be guided, first of all, that it is interesting, what it needs, that it is not clear at the moment, the fact that due to the musicians reach the top performing arts, and athletes of high records.
Are such individuals should be forced myself everyday committed to satisfy the existing interest in the case or the need for it.
It is impossible to carry out each case on their own compulsion, but without it, in most cases it is very difficult to succeed.
Therefore, not without reason in the people considered to be strong-willed people who are able to coercion itself.
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