How to keep romance in marriage

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Romance "before" and "after"

Marriage - is always a joyous and exciting time. The decision to create a family - a responsible and serious step. Psychologists divide 2 period in the formation of the couple: pre-marital (until the marriage) and peredbrachny (prior to the conclusion of marriage).

The premarital period, a very important factor in the development of relations, is a courtship. Courtship - expression of interest to the person of the same sex with the opposite purpose to win. The romantic courtship, the better the chances of success at conquering the subject.

In ancient times, concepts such as "grooming" and "romance" does not exist. Promiscuity prevailed, ie group marriage. Nobody cared for anyone else, but simply entered without ceremony in an intimate relationship. Then they all had children together. Then gradually people were divided into tribal communities.

Encouraged the marriage of young people from different communities and not in kind. Then there were the first elements of courtship, which were necessary due to the fact that the basic form of marriage is a marriage between two spouses. Then there was a need to choose one person to secure the union, and it was necessary to attract his attention.

Of course, there were still some places there are polygamous and monogamous marriages. But the basic form of marriage, more widespread and institutionalized, is a marriage between a man and a woman. With the development of civilization becomes mandatory courtship ritual.

Men devote their beloved songs, poems, give flowers, is dating. Rendezvous could start a serious relationship, which later develops into love. So first date always had a major role, carefully prepared.

Like hundreds of years ago, and now a date is an attribute of courtship, when everyone is trying to show themselves in the best light in front of another.

In the classic version goodbye man presents flowers to his lady. The ritual of giving flowers for centuries brings joy to women.

A rare woman would not be happy beautiful flower. Flowers - a symbol of love, a symbol of celebration and joy. According to legend, when one person teaches another color - together with them, he passes on the soul.

When there was this kind of entrenched and creativity as the verse, he also became an element of courtship. There is hardly a poet who in his work has not even one poem about love. For example, a well-known Petrarch immortalized the young Louise in his sonnets.

In verses to pour out his love - it was, is and will be very romantic. Now there are many ways okoldovyvaniya and conquest of a loved one.

Romance - one of the attributes of relations between subjects of the opposite sex. The word "romantic" means anything emotional, sublime. They liked each other young people trying to surround each other's attention and make it beautiful.

Romance in the first place, something unusual, personal and infinitely enjoyable. For some, romance - going to the movies on a night session for someone - a walk in the moonlight or dinner at an expensive restaurant. Peredbrachny period in relations must contain certain elements of romance.

The man is a native earner who won the woman, although sometimes it happens and vice versa. Marriage sometimes regarded as the ultimate authority, with the advent of which all possible courtship becomes meaningless, since the conquest has already occurred.

Sometimes it suits both of them. But it happens that this situation does not suit one of the spouses. Joint life bears the responsibility for each other, coherence and patience.

Family - a single organism, a single unit. Employment of both spouses and routine often leads to a gradual or abrupt cessation of the provision of certain tokens, which they enjoyed before marriage. It may subsequently harm family life.

What can be fraught with such behavior? The fact that a family member might be lack of attention on the part of a spouse, which can lead to conflicts and betrayals. If a man is a woman attentions before the wedding and abruptly stopped after the marriage, the woman would miss it. Lack of attention can be a reason to change.

All nice when cared for, so often marriages fail due to lack of proper attention, which is located on the side.

In his heart, each of us is romantic, and, consequently, everywhere there is a temptation that some impact on us and subdue the behavior and actions that we see in the family, from which we simply lost the habit.

Therefore, despite the current problems of employment and, though sometimes you need to set aside time at each other. Spousal relationships to periodically refresh. Invite each other out on dates needed and being a married couple. Romantic date is not only refreshing, but also to strengthen the relationship.

The best gift for your loved one - in a good mood, especially if you already know that can bring him joy. Keep in mind that people in love tries to capture only the best to the selected object, remember the best moments of time spent together.

Without the update, these points are erased from the memory of the spouses. The outcome can serve as mutual claims and tired of each other. Sometimes, the couple may not be aware of what they lack. But not enough, maybe just a night walk in the park or something else like that, as in "the good old days."

So do not weaken attention to each other after the wedding. We must always be alert. Not for nothing the first year of marriage is considered to be difficult for the newlyweds, who are at risk of domestic problems to lose the weapon that conquered each other, they attracted.

Well, if the pair and after many years of caring for each other, not having lost in life fervor and imagination. By good, as you know, get used quickly.

The main task - to maintain and develop the love and attention to each other.

Author Marina Kulakov.

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The impact on the fate of the human mind

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Our fate - are events of our lives from childhood until his death. We all certainly wish that these events would have been quite favorable - good family, love, children are successful, interesting profession, good relationships at work, with friends, a sufficient amount of foreign money and so on. D.

On what does this depend? Of course, external factors, social environment, our surroundings affect in any way our destiny. But it's just a background, which can be favorable or unfavorable.

Basically, we and we alone are the cause of what is happening to us in this life.

At first glance, this idea destroys the habitual way of thinking. After all, most people are accustomed to shift the blame for their failures and problems on someone else.

Although this way of thinking does not help to solve the problems, moreover, fills life with frustration, people continue to live stereotypes that hinder their progress.

As long as a person does not realize that his thoughts - this existing programs that define his future, his destiny, he will not succeed in life.

I'll try to tell you examples how the human self-programming.

Imagine a situation where you planned any action, say, a certain day of the week to go to the countryside. But a few days before you received an offer more interesting, more attractive, on the same day of the week.

Here is a choice - where to go? And you choose the first plan, despite the fact that the second is more interesting for you. As a rule, people do in situations like this is so.

Why is that? The fact is that when you planned, you have created a thought-form country trip with images of rest, fresh air, forests, fishing. This thought-form has penetrated into your subconscious mind, your body has adjusted to the trip, I took possession of your being, and it is difficult to have to change something.

And if you change, you will have to meet a lot of stress the body. From the energy point of view, plan a trip to the nature expressed in the form of information or programs on the human biofield and then this information has an impact as well on the body.

All our thoughts, especially emotive affect our future behavior and actions.

Meeting, for example, with friends you discuss the price, it became difficult to live, how little money and how they are missing out on life. The more you participate in these discussions, the stronger becomes our thought forms, "life is hard", "I did not have enough money," and so on. D.

Then these thoughts penetrate into the subconscious or writing on your aura is already beginning to live their lives reflected on the outside and creating a reality in which you really do not have enough money where your life really becomes difficult.

Reasons for failure in life - pessimism in self-programming.

Girls who want to marry, and considers herself ugly, incapable, it will be difficult to do. Because it emits the "program" and will not cause interest in surrounding guys.

The businessman, who started some business and thinking more about the challenges and the possibility of failure, doomed to failure of the business.

The reason is the same as a negative self-programming effect on his actions in the conduct of business, and all those associated with his business.

Our thoughts are strong then when they are emotionally colored. Desire - this is a powerful emotion, motivation, which makes our thoughts are strong and positive thinking, lead to success. Without desire, we can not solve any problem.

It often happens that a person is trying to solve a problem, but can not due to lack of desire somewhere in the deep subconscious level. Sometimes the person himself does not understand, so it is deeply hidden inside.

For example, some people can not find work, not because it is impossible, but because subconsciously do not want to work. The same applies to health. There are patients who do not have the subconscious desire to recover. For some reason it is advantageous to hurt or be in this state. They have something to gain from this - close attention, others, social financial assistance and so on. D.

When a person has a lot of desires - it is an active life position, and positive thinking person brings success in life.

Weight desires, interests and aspirations to create a huge aura around the man, allowing him to run for a long time and not get tired. This aura is the key to health. It activates all body systems and no disease can not penetrate it.

The active life position is also the key to longevity and it confirms the lives of many scientists. Conversely, the absence of desire, life apathy, weakened body. Such people are more likely to get sick, tired at work because they are working without desire, and frequent failures.



I recently traveled to St. Petersburg and learned the news, which at first I was stunned. He died one of my friends 48 years old. I knew him for a long time: do not drink or smoke, led a healthy lifestyle. And suddenly - a cancer of the liver.

All around and relatives were at a loss to admit, and the first five minutes I could not get over it, but then everything became clear to me. Being a good engineer, he had no interest in life, and only worked because it was necessary to work with.

He had no desire to change things for the better, it was not life-impulse. But this life impulse just needs us. Without it, the body weakens and then it can happen anything ...

Some readers may object to me. What if I'm in for life did not find interesting work, work which I like? What if I wanted to, but I have no desires, aspirations. What to do?

My dear readers! In this case, it all depends on us. In this case - what eyes we see the world.

For example, two people came into the forest. One admires the diversity and beauty of the trees, enjoying the smell of the forest and the birds singing and leaves the forest happy and full of energy. The other looks at the forest as timber, raw material for furniture and paper, and leaves from the forest boring.

Or, say, living with his wife, you can see more of her positive qualities and not pay attention to its shortcomings. In this case, the person is happy. But you can look at this as a wife with new eyes, concentrating on the shortcomings and suffer from it.

Man is the same and may have different perceptions. The same applies to those people who can not find an interesting job. Again, what eyes you look for a job. An interesting example in this regard in his book "Health and Spirituality" my friend, the writer V. Lobodin.

Once in his youth, he was forced to work as a janitor. At the beginning of this work it made him negative feelings and reluctance. But realizing that you can not work because he has filled the job for its content. Here is an excerpt from the book:

"Half an hour later, I already knew what to do to a pile of garbage has not spoiled my character forever. I started to clean the garbage disposal did not, and ... your conscience, not endured a bucket with garbage, and their disease. I'm not sweeping the floor, and his fate is not separated from the non-edible food waste, and the sins of the soul. I enthusiastically cleaning left kidney and clearly felt like she just ekaet pleasure, scrape shovel stones from the liver .... In the end, I got carried away and fell in love with this work that seriously began to think whether to make this work my profession " .

This ridiculous example shows that any job can be filled with meaning and content, and to find in it their interest. It all depends on the person.

Boris Arapovic





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