What do your drawings?

Talking on the phone, or by participating in meetings / conferences, we often, almost without realizing it a report, begin to display on a piece of paper patterns, faces or geometric shapes.

Do not rush to throw his eccentricities! How to find foreign psychologists, scribble can tell a lot about your character or mood.

Spirals, circles, wavy lines.

Other people's problems are not too care about you, or are not interested. Did you experience an easy crisis. Now you need to take care of yourself, not to flare up and cause the other party an insult.

Flowers, sun, garlands.

In my heart you is not as fun as it may seem, quite the contrary. You most want to friendship and affection. Try a little more in the near future to be among people.

Grids.

You feel that they are in risk or just embarrassing. You are more likely to swallow the insult and irritation.

Intertwined hearts.

You are overwhelmed. I want to kiss the whole world. Do not be so cold to hold and hide their feelings. Post them!

Patterns on the wallpaper.

This pattern suggests that you are bored, tired of a telephone conversation, or maybe even your entire life.

Crosses.

Crosses express feelings of guilt, which arose probably in the course of a telephone conversation. Something bothers you, either you yourself, Why chide you reproach yourself or the source.

Peoples.

This image - a sign of helplessness and a desire to avoid certain obligations.

Squares, triangles and other geometric shapes.

One thing is clear: you are not easily fooled. You have clear goals and beliefs, you will almost never concealed his opinions. Usually, you are focused, try to look at things easier.

Honeycombs.

This pattern suggests the quest for peace, for harmony, for an ordered life. It can also mean a desire to create a family nest.

Chess field.

Apparently, you are in a very unpleasant or at least a quandary. If such images appear frequently, you are likely to suffer from hidden complexes.

Interweaving circles.

The idea of ​​a stable connection? Maybe. But most of this figure reflects a desire to participate in something. At the moment, you feel that you are out of the event.

Semanchuk Svetlana

Offense - than it is dangerous and how to fight it?

Perhaps in your life you sometimes had to meet people who can not be hurt, offend, offend. Well, not quite stick to them quip, and that's it - they still hurt that the offending rock or waterfall ... What is this - an innate "talent optimist" or immunity developed over many years of training? But, you see, these people are often a matter of respect and

even envy - "does not catch it, that's really anyone's health iron! "Speaking of health ... not for nothing that these people are jealous - because we all intuitively feel that our health depends on the state of our soul, not just convinced - mens sana in corpore sano ... and vice versa!

Each of us at least once in a life offense. Yes there again! Almost without noticing, we often are in this state - resent themselves for "the fate of the villain," and most of all - to others. And we do not stop even a convincing case that the offense is able to cause serious harm to our health. It is believed that cirrhosis of the liver the absolute teetotaler in life comes from many years of resentment toward their parents.

A constant feeling of strong resentment, gnawing inside, can lead to such diseases as cancer - when it is literally the body "eaten from the inside." After all, what the offense is not eating itself? Resentment - is the bitterness, the inward man.

A man who can not forgive breaks inside.

So why, knowing all this, we continue to be offended? It is unlikely that we want it - just do not know, do not see the answer, what to do, how to cope with this feeling and get rid of him? Try to understand, to have a dialogue with yourself, I think - and why should I care?

Maybe this feeling too much, just makes me unfree and, in fact, prevents me to live and enjoy positive emotions? How do we kill time rastravlivaya internal wounds and examining the bones of the past. To begin, we need to realize one thing.

The resentment like a man looking for a way to destroy the achievements ALREADY injustice. Man thinks that the more carefully he will suffer in a state of resentment, the sooner there will be some wonderful changes and somewhere there the reward for sacrifice. But no awards will not arise. The current offense - this resistance, a fight that has already happened and can not turn back the clock.

So is there in this kind of logic?

Does it make sense to engage in a struggle with the past without a time machine, but only filling yourself negative experiences?

Change the past is impossible, and therefore hurt as a weapon in the struggle with the past will focus solely on yourself and your health.

So, when you realize that resentment leads to defeat and suffering - you will want to rule over this emotional reaction.

In the end - it is yours and yours alone. And you decide when it is "off". Sometimes it helps a simple way - run a simple principle to remember self-respect, self-esteem - "Why should I have to pass the reins of power in the hands of others and allows you to control your mood? ".

On this topic very well put Indian sage Osho - that is, someone pushed the button, we swelled with pride, pressed another - and were blown away disappointed. Really nice when you run? Sometimes, this fact alone is able to excite and cause a firm belief - "I myself want to be masters of their destiny and their emotions and do not intend to succumb to provocations from the outside."

And enough to learn a simple rule of life, which as a motto for life to exist much more comfortable, and quiet:

"No I do not owe anything. No one in the world. I myself only provides its own happiness and success. "

When we shift the entire responsibility for our fate to others, too demanding of people, paste them comfortable for yourself labels - and then begin to wonder how our beliefs at odds with the images of others, while we do these images and invented.

And begin actively to this offense. That a husband or wife "do not love", and the child "does not respect ..." - and in fact we are trying to adjust the strangers under our convenient model that exists only in our heads. And what to do, especially when we are trying to bring up negative emotions, deliberately offend or humiliate?

Sometimes, the best way to fight - it is neglect.

Repeat traveled. You just have to play one thought - "I do not want to feel a sense of order that man, at the click of his fingers. I am the master himself, and know how to manage their own emotions and not to execute someone's whim. "

If a little practice, soon to quip, whose purpose is to hurt you, you learn not to react at all, they will turn into the "background" - similar to the noise of the wind or the cry of a bird.

It is well known that permanent resentment over time is self-pity. But you want to be confident, positive thinking man? So throw away all the excess and allow yourself the luxury of being free.

And do not forget about the main thing - try to do as little as possible to offend others, and they are likely to tell you thanks.

Winter cherry - 2008, or again about women

Winter cherry - 2008, or again about women alone

My friend Kate Solovyov - quite a strong woman in the fullest sense of the word. These beautifully now sometimes referred to as "self-made woman". Kate owns a modern thriving travel agency

which comes on the new "Porsche", to be preceded by a couple of hours in the health club and beauty salon.

She was thirty, and it has everything: money, apartment, car, and business acumen, wit and willpower. There is only one simple, but absolutely essential things - family happiness.

As a teenager, she went through several unsuccessful novels, but the one, the only man with a capital worthy of her love, and has not appeared.

Now the men in her life for a long time do not stay - Kate convinces himself that she was missing a fleeting relaxing in bed with casual acquaintances. Morning "yet call each other" was her usual style of communication with men.

There are millions - beautiful, strong and successful women who are baffled by the impossible task - to find their "soul mate."

Why is it so hard, especially in our time? How to part with familiar friend - loneliness?

To understand this, one must understand what laws govern our lives. By nature we are all endowed with a kind of property that can be called "self-interest". This is - the desire to get something for yourself.

But there is in us, and the beginnings of the opposite properties, which are usually called "love." This is - the desire to give something to another, take care. Often love rolls like a wave, from the outside, as it were, against our will, breaking the narrow confines of education and public foundations.

It is also called the eclipse, although it would be fair to call it enlightenment - it is in the moments of love most people clearly feel the happiness. But keep these moments of altruistic happiness we can not, and our inner pendulum back in the direction of getting rejected for themselves.

And then we forget its former happy condition. Love comes to an end, and we are suffering, and that gave the greatest pleasure, he begins to see the light in the black, as a negative film.

The blame for the suffering from the loss of enjoyment of a woman holds the one who took it from her, that is the man. It follows from this that he was not worthy of her love, and thus it suffers only because he had the imprudence to love, that is, "to give himself." Such is the logic of selfish consciousness.

And many women who suffered the collapse of a love - and some even in advance, under the influence of "experienced" mothers - refuse to love, returns in favor of getting for themselves. Then there is a situation like Katya: woman seemed to be looking for a relationship with a man, but a decent, not really!

However, if it takes the trouble to think about exactly what it wants, it will understand that only wants to receive. Who is the "prince charming" in our ordinary view? None other than the man from whom you can get the most pleasure. He must be handsome, rich, smart and strong, and it does not matter that this simply does not exist ...

That's what says the desire to receive, which also tends to inflate over time - remember the famous fairy tale about the goldfish. There is a growing desire is also from generation to generation.

That is why the modern woman claims to men much more than her grandmother. And that is why fewer and fewer men in the world, capable of satisfying its needs. After all, she herself can - to make money, raise a family, build a house and plant trees.

Will there be a man who has something to give a self-sufficient woman? Such increased demands and leads to the most appropriate partner for a woman is ... herself.

And it happens so often that in our time the loneliness is becoming a universal problem. What's the problem, you say, if a woman is better than one, even if she lives alone. However, this is the way our world, Kabbalah says that the personal development of man can not be without a partner of the opposite sex.

Women have a stronger desire than men, so it stimulates the names of its development, for good reason married men tend to be much more successful in life than the unmarried.

A man helps a woman to orient their lives with respect to a particular purpose, and any - on the education of children to the knowledge of the unknown. This is very important because no human association, including the family, can not exist without a purpose.

And if a woman chooses as its objective the improvement of yourself and your partner, allowing the man to guide her along the way, the family fortune will come by itself. And for this you need to take control of their desire to receive.

No, I do not need to abandon their desires, the more so because it is impossible.

You just have to get rid of the fear of "giving themselves" beloved, because the more love you give, the more it becomes.

Stop fighting for "independence" - because in our world it is not there. Stop being afraid to receive less - we get just as much as our due, no more and no less.

To fear is only a lack of common purpose.

That is what destroys the family, not her husband's small salary and his trips "to the left". And for the sake of a common goal, for the sake of co-development is once again thinking: "But I am doing enough for your man?

Do the requirements of my improve it or just annoying and interfere? "

Such an attitude to make the happiness of infinite love.