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Women's loneliness
"Why is there next to me a man?" - This question is often asked of women who come for consultation. Women of different ages, professions, appearance, destinies ... But combine them similar emotions - despair, coming from the depths of the soul and the fear of being alone forever.
Some were married, but for various reasons were alone, others know about the family life only by hearsay.
And apparently - conscious woman wants to start a family, and even taking some steps to implement their desires: use the services of marriage agencies, met with other men, and so on, but for some reason it does not work - you get the "wrong" men a rapprochement with those who like it is not happening.
She throws his hands in despair and looking for a consultant - Like, what do you want? I did everything as you said !!! And there went and visited here ... and changed her clothes.
In a conversation with a woman you hear only the words, but behind them do not see any independent actions or decisions not see an urgent need, if it is for a consultant doing all this just to get rid of. And heard her inner cry - Oh, leave me alone !!! Which translated means - alone.
Why is this happening?
Yes, because subconsciously woman is not ready to change in my life, it all NOW satisfied. In fact, she does not want to change anything.
Causes of female loneliness lies in the moral impossibility of marriage, psychological unpreparedness for family life.
A single woman ZHIZNENNONEOBHODIMOY NO NEED either married or in a family. Family takes liberty with the appearance of her husband will have to change their way of life, to adapt, to change the habits of her husband and now it is necessary to take care of everything for two.
The husband must love. But what about the old life? When everything for me? And there is a series of excuses - I'm not that, I'm not beautiful. I'm not smart. I'm not good enough. I have no time. I have no money. They are bad. They make me sick ....
Often added to the negative parenting patterns - if the parents are divorced or their relations were far from ideal, if the father drank, engaged in physical abuse - in the soul of a woman from childhood comes the disappointment in men that carry into adulthood and does not build a happy family and harmony personal relationships.
Sometimes negative program brings to life the fear - and suddenly ceased to love, suddenly gone to another? As in the song, "If you do not have a dog, it does not poison the neighbor ... And other will not fight if you do not have a friend."
In this case, we must remember that negative thoughts lay the negative programs. What do you think - so be it. Is not it better right now tune in to a positive result?
So, if you do not arrange her personal life, do not rush to blame fate, but just listen to yourself and ask yourself: "What prevents me from being happy? What am I afraid? What do I really want? Why am I alone? And maybe I want to be alone ... Referring certain amount of time? "
History of AA
The record of a psychologist by training, talking to me, open up, that life does not add up with men. She married a second time, but somehow unhappy. The first time, when she married, she says she has mixed the love and friendship.
All was well with her husband, until the case came to intimate relationships. In the bed and stood out the full horror of the situation. She did not want to. Divorced. The second marriage. Immediately after the marriage decided to move abroad. First I went to get her husband.
She had to go after him. It has been 5 years. She's here, he's there. My husband calls, but it does not go, is justified by problems with the documents, visa circumstances. I as a consultant issue was highlighted very clearly what I told her and pointed.
Honest dialogue with AA has meant that she has realized that she is beneficial when it is away. It is convenient to have so far, and she had her second husband, too, "he does not want and fear" like a man. She was about 40 years old, they are 5 years apart !!! Have no children. While abroad, they had to go together, by mutual agreement ...
Conclusion: There is a lady "unconscious desire", "DELETE" the beloved of life. Consciousness can not understand the subconscious mind does not want to close, the circumstances are such that he is always away from her.
As a result, astrokonsultatsii woman realizes his problem has clearly sees the way out of this situation, realizing that the whole problem in itself and its desire (reluctance). A. So far decided to wait, unhappy as themselves stopped feeling guilty, too, stopped to look.
Why afraid of physical intimacy with their husbands? - Subject of a separate consultation. So why is not there men ??? Women SUBCONSCIOUSLY Its just do not admit to himself. A man away from you physically (or already has), if in the shower you do not let it close.
Single women do not have the need to be with a man. They want it but it is not necessary. They want because everyone wants, and she also wants. If a person has a need, for himself begins to do something in this direction. If you do not have, he invents a lot of reasons and circumstances why he would not succeed ...
You must realize this and understand why it is so in my life? What are you afraid of?
Women alienate themselves physically, spiritually, mentally and his men out of life. As a result, they do not have them at all, or not have, or are far away or separated insurmountable circumstances, or they are sailors or they walk, or drink, or the ever- ... Man in the life of a woman dissolved.
History M.
(History astrokonsultatsy E. Melnikova. All astropokazateli omitted)
Moscow- young beautiful girl. He lives in a civil marriage. Partner - a good guy. But her constant fluctuations are not allowed to live in peace. Fluctuations in the subject - and if he was, the one true? Here she looks around, shoot eyes, thinking about the Prince that finally once met him, another, much better than the present.
She was unaware that he was already there. But the problem is compounded. He began to lose his job recently, he often hangs on the Internet, drinking a lot of beer. A recent work - it's terrible - the whole day to watch !!! And how much attention to her? But in the eyes and soul of M. silent joy - at last I will be one !!! Indeed, in her heart she had already pushed myself as unworthy.
And seek the ephemeral Prince. Conclusion: MS is not aware that the problem is there. What it is in the illusions. And it is beneficial to hover there. If you have a number of good men, it's interesting to think about fictional characters.
Why is that? Topic separate consultation. For this AM should realize that she herself creates its own problem. One awareness of the problem is already half saves from it.
And your fear is blocking your path to happiness, then it is necessary to convert them into positive knowledge, to stop being afraid of rapprochement with the man, develop the enduring confidence that you all will be exactly as you want - it is necessary to clearly imagine all the details, think , work out - to any relationship you seek, what a man should be with you next.
Do not be afraid of mistakes! Learn! We all come into this life to learn by solving their problems ... And do not rush things, everything will come a time when you really ripe when you are ready when the psychological blocks are removed and mental harmony restored.
Why be afraid?
With you always (all year) is the same man who you want. If you really need it.
Larissa Muraviev and Elena Melnikova
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