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Many modern women find forgiveness is not necessary. Why forgive the one who made you feel bad? In fact, forgiveness plays a huge positive role but, unfortunately, many consider it a manifestation of stupidity and cowardice, but it is not. And also need to be able to forgive.
What is the manifest forgiveness and how to forgive someone who has offended you?
1. Forgiveness does not mean that the relationship will be the same.
Many people think that to forgive - then start chatting again, as before, but it is not. Forgiveness does not require friendship with this person, although it may be the first step to it in some cases. You can generally do not communicate with him, but you will not be great resentment toward him for what he did.
Many think that forgiveness gives consent for such evil actions on the part of the person who offended you, and sometimes it is true, but it is important to first understand what made a person to do so.
Perhaps his bad deed became merely a consequence of inexperience, naivete, or frivolity, which is not worth a great offense, and it is possible that it really was deliberate harm you.
2. Evaluation of evil
This is an important step towards a relationship, or to the final separation from the abuser. Often we commit impulsive acts that could offend the other person or to inflict great harm, but not always, your abuser acted intentionally.
Therefore, to understand this question, you will be able to forgive him, let alone to interrupt or continue a relationship with him you have to solve. If we are talking about deliberate harm, then forgiving the offender, you just throw out it out of my head, without returning mentally to the harm that he done to you, and if he just made a mistake, or succumbed to passion, not thinking about anything, then, to forgive him you give him a chance to improve.
It is possible that he himself regrets what he has done, but does not dare to ask for forgiveness first. Sometimes it gives rise to a real relationship and friendship in the future, you'll both cherish and appreciate.
3. As can be forgiven
At the time of insult or harm difficult to forgive, especially if you have not yet assessed the size of evil, aimed in your direction. Therefore, a person can be sincerely forgive only when you understand and correct the evil, or insult became softer.
Then you can easily decide whether to continue the relationship or not you forgive him or ostentatiously offense, although everything is forgiven. And then forgiveness will be sincere and give a good result. You will be easier to live, to love and to breathe.
4. How to get rid of resentment
Resentment in itself does not give forgiveness to manifest. If you notice in yourself a quality, it is necessary to gradually get rid of it, if such behavior is not related to the manipulation of others.
First, parents of children being manipulated by using insults and causing them feelings of guilt, or, on the contrary, the panic fear to hurt the baby and it grows moody and touchy.
Therefore, from an inner need to get rid of resentment, if you do not want to lose not only friends, but also his private happiness, or even family. If you do not actually, but also psychologically.
1. Do not take everything to heart!
2. Do not pay attention to the opinions of others! Otherwise, I'm surrounded.
3. Limit contact with offenders!
4. Remember the old poem - a joke from my childhood:
Love yourself, sneeze at all!
And in life is waiting for you success!
Well, let it now be your motto in the difficult moments.
5. Always, every day, every waking moment all the most touchy people need to repeat a brilliant phrase:
"Only fools are offended, angry, upset, criticize, scold, and cry."
This phrase really helps to get rid of the resentment. Those who are smarter, above it all. Learn to be smarter and wiser.
6. Curb offense in the beginning, once felt uncomfortable.
Do not let her grow to giant size, do not twist the self to stress, nervous breakdown, tears.
Always keep in mind a couple of ready stock phrases such as: "All the same, I'm the best, etc." And Be able to quickly switch to them. Over time, these methods will help you learn how to get rid of the resentment.
Proverbs and aphorisms about the offense
Another reason to think, and whether to be offended?
• In the crowded people live and die in the offense.
• At offended carry water.
• Everyone Obidimo obidyaschemu goodbye.
• would not hurt small, do not you mark the old one.
• offend easily, but what is the soul?
• Self resentment, and do not hurt people.
• Poor offend currently no good desire.
• I love the one who would not hurt anyone.
• Resentment corrodes the soul.
• From all grievances salvation - into oblivion. Publilius Syrus
• A reasonable person can not be hurt; offended as much as a sense of superior intelligence. Frantisek cover.
• Do not remember the former offense. Menander
• Regardless of the reason why you are offended, it is best not to pay attention to the insult - because stupidity is rarely worthy of indignation and anger is best to punish contempt. Samuel Johnson
• Kohl caused you hurt the heart,
Pay oblivion - because pride tells us;
You can not forget - then at least pretend,
Do not humiliate yourself. Jean Baptiste Moliere
You know the real methods that can help get rid of resentment? Please share your tips with other readers in the comments.
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