I love him, but he is poor relationship with a man

I love him very much

Subject prosperity of our potential choices are always discussed very hot. That's another letter was the reason for active discussion.

"He is very good, good, I love it. But he has nothing.

Even in normal rented apartment no money, living with some grannies in a miserable little room. Salary quite low, could be arranged as a security guard. Why this injustice - it is the best of all the people I know, and made small in my life.

He was very helpful, cheerful and caring. But life for some reason he was not lucky. He's too soft-hearted, can this is the reason of bad luck. After all, good and soft in our time is very quickly eaten. You must be able to defend himself, but he is not very good.

At the time, it is very much framed, leaving cars and apartments. That since he ceased to trust people. He thinks it is best to sit quietly and not risk anything. He is so attentive, so tender and affectionate. He gives me all the warmth of his soul, always feel my mood.

I love him very much. But I was very scared to associate their lives with a man who will not be able to provide family wealth, afraid to spend rest of his life in poverty. If you believe that I can achieve very much, then it turns out that it will be easy to use the results of my work.

He is absolutely not greedy, the latter is ready to pay. So after all, he had nothing to give. What should I do. Terrible, that all depends on the material things absolutely. Patients is a favorite with the position of the financial well-being. As all great human qualities?

How not to appreciate the soul, love and decency? Why they are in last place? Maybe I'm not right, but it is terrible to remain without love. So I do not want to sell for a beautiful cloth. So difficult to make a choice. "

Here is the letter. As demonstrated by mail, similar situations in life are fairly common. We have to make difficult choices. The balance is between the heart and the voice of reason, love and prosperity. And the choice has to be the ultimate compromise is absolutely impossible. How to proceed?

In such situations, advise something incredibly difficult. Everyone is responsible for their choices. Just try to express my point of view, try to analyze some points in this situation.

1.Absolute undeniable fact that the financial problems in our lives, there are always. And if, in love, we are willing to be nice in a tent, the family life of modern man requires stronger walls than the wall of the hut. In hunger and cold for a long time to reach lovers will not succeed.

2. I can not believe that a man who loves you, will lie on the couch when you plow for two. He can not admit that you were wrong. Different people - different approaches to the concept of well-being. And if you and your loved ones, these criteria differ greatly, if he is willing to do a crust of bread, and you can not imagine life without a glass of fresh juice for breakfast, it is unlikely that your love survive in such controversial circumstances. And it will inevitably lead to separation. It should not be this rough commercialism, it's simple and natural desire of any modern man.

3. We sometimes say one thing and do quite another. After all, talking about love is easier than to prove the love affair. Any action requires effort and compliments and nice words to say very easily. Do not believe him, believe only deeds that makes your favorite for your happy and comfortable future.

4. It is not always a wealth - a synonym for heartlessness. And not always a companion of poverty are wonderful human qualities. Very often poor people tormented by jealousy and hatred of those who are richer. They are trying to justify their inability and unwillingness to do something. Nowadays, anyone can succeed, if it starts to systematically and purposefully move towards the goal.

5. It is dangerous to trust the stories of wrongful deeds business partners, relatives of the deception, bad luck and lack of good jobs. It's just an excuse of a man who does not want to make decisions that do not want to make any effort. Every loser does not want to recognize that others have achieved success only through hard work and diligence.

6. Do not reject a person because now his life is not too successful band. Give him a chance. Support it help to act. Let your help in his life come luck, it will be laid the foundation of your co-prosperity.

Do not be ashamed that you are worried about the material side of the hereafter. Do you care about your children, about their health and well-being. Painted hearth can not warm anyone, the story of a happy life is unlikely to be satisfied. Talk with your loved about it!

Tell him that you appreciate and love him, that you are sure that he will be able to achieve success in life. Help him to make the first steps to support it. Do not regret it, and do not agree with passive lying on the couch. Love will help you change your life for the better.

Only together you can overcome all the difficulties to get around all the obstacles. However, to create a much nicer house. And if you'll just have to try, no sweet words and gentle caresses do not compensate for spiritual discomfort. No need to hold on to a man who does not want to do anything for you. You are afraid to leave him, because he had such a hard life, it all hurt. You can not even say that you do not like, because it can be so hurt ...

Remember that if a person does not do anything to change your life, it means that everything in this life happy. And if he is working day after three, just lying around all the rest of the time on the couch and say something here about. This man is not worthy of anyone's love.

If a man does not want to earn money for the family, it is not necessary to create a family with such a person. From him we must run faster until it died. After all, count on it when you are a child, you just can not. And in general - he can just run away, afraid of difficulties, because no efforts are unaccustomed to it.

As long as you are not tied the knot - will descend to earth and think about how you will live together with this man. Do you feel a willingness to challenge poverty and hunger.

A good man, this is great. But you and your child will need a normal food, all were healthy. It needs to be comfortable, beautiful clothes, comfortable home. Would you agree to change all the fine words about love? The words are short-lived, and the walls of the house are for decades. Think you do not turn your love into hatred against the backdrop of such a miserable life.

If you make a choice, is well aware of its consequences. Live a little civil marriage, look, you change the behavior of your men, whether there will be responsible for you and your well-being.

If you see the actions that help him keep. If no change is made, it is best to leave and not to spoil his life!

In marriage it is necessary to go to be a man of both solid stone wall!

Invalid husband what to do next

Adulterer

Cheating husband, cheating, the situation is very common and many acquaintances. There have always been wrong in finding husbands diversity have always been hunters on someone else's happiness.

When you hear a story about how your friend's husband is cheating on her, you give her some advice, trying as much as possible, to support her, angry with her husband,

but you have no idea - how hurt and offended if he did not feel changed!

And your advice may be reasonable, but it is to apply them can not, because the mind does not hear, and his heart, as if in a vise squeeze. And like the street it is a normal day, as the sun shines, the wind blows, and your world is falling apart, and there's nothing you can change.

You teshish the hope that he will understand how wrong, come back and everything will be as before. Play the role of a happy family in front of the couple, thought the pope trip for children, time is running out and it only gets worse.

If at first he was hiding, fearing that his expose, now on the contrary they walk arm in arm in front of everyone, and nothing to hide.

You call "benevolent" friend and was surprised to say that your husband saw the other, and you barely restraining himself not to cry out in pain, still hide behind it and say they oboznalis.

From loving husband, you become a domestic partner, who hated each other. Because of their cowardice and weakness, he can not dare to go, and so hard trying to get to and that you have decided for him.

In the end, the wife and children are just an obstacle on the way to his "happiness." And this torture can last for years. And the result is usually one - sooner or later, he would still go away!

The most important is our mistake that we dissolve them. We love so much that they are ready to forgive and believe in any story they invented.

We forget that we must first love yourself!

Because if you do not love yourself, how can you love others? It is not afraid to admit it, we are allowing to us so accessed. That is, we are treated as we allow to treat yourself!

Of course, the recipe for happiness is not, and has a proven fact that the feeling of love lasts only three years. But love comes to replace the other senses, and they are not inferior to them in strength. Yes, on our shoulders fell the proportion of light is not, it depends on us happiness and peace of the family hearth.

But is that the only easy task that fell on our shoulders? We all know that man, no matter how big it was not visually, in the soul of a little boy who needs advice, protection and care. But in the upbringing of the child, "baby" is not worth too much to indulge!

You must be their friends, their interests, or after a few years, besides the weather, diapers and common relatives, you have nothing else to talk about. It should always be the person to generate interest in others, and of course have her own husband.

A man should reach his wife, but not too much, otherwise it will fall, and rising, he will give his hand a different woman!

So, the main thing - love yourself!

You have to looking at yourself in the mirror, admiring himself. There is only one life. So live not only for others but also for yourself. For 50 years, looking back, you would have something to remember, in addition to diapers, dishes and plates!