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All women know that men are "hunters" and as long as she does not entirely belong to the man and rebellious, it is interesting.
Psychology teaches women to declare their independence and male self-sufficiency.
For example, if a woman tells a man that she is not his the second half and that it does not belong, then it selects the absolutely correct position.
The principle of "we are living together, but I'm an independent person, with their demands, her friends, and so on. D." It does not give the man to relax and not to respect a woman.
It is only necessary to define the line between personal freedom and responsibilities that involve relationships with men, two close friends.
For example, two different extremes of behavior of women, to be more clear.
The girl Tatiana, married 30 years. The marriage was for love and mutual interests. Tatiana educated intelligent woman with an analytical mind. She had formed a circle of friends, a pretty successful people. Future husband flattered that Tatiana such friends.
Before the wedding, they communicated with friends Tanya. Igor they took very well as respect for Tanya. After the wedding, which, incidentally, were invited to the Friends of Igor, they began to move away from familiar tannins. Igor began to "pull" his wife in the company of friends.
His spare time they spent in the company of her husband. Tatiana they reacted pretty cool, more than they allowed against her nasty remarks, which did not raise it in the eyes of her husband. Eventually Igor stopped to appreciate his wife. This was the first mistake Tatiana.
Its familiar, reliable and discreet people communicating with her husband, on the contrary touted her compliments.
Of course, not always friends of her husband mistreated his wife, but in general, it is not uncommon. At work, Tatiana respected and appreciated at home, she turned to gray and uninteresting "mouse".
Despite the fatigue, she always performed her chores. The home is always order and cleanliness, Igor always waiting for a delicious dinner at beautifully set table. The dream of every man.
Tatiana lost her own friends, because all the calls with a proposal to meet it refuses, as it is considered impossible in the evenings though from time to time, disappearing from home.
Once married, the more love, in a rather mature age, and it must devote ourselves family.
The more she tried, the less esteemed husband and more "sat down on her head." Every day he expressed Tatyana more and more claims.
He began to linger in the evening, then completely can not come overnight. They had a child, but that did not stop him.
Relationship getting worse. After the scandals she went to his apartment, but after the first call of her husband rushed back.
She tried to talk to her husband, to conduct "sentimental and soul-saving conversation," which of course came to nothing lead. Crying, shouting, cursing.
But Igor was not afraid to lose it. He knew that he did, Tanya nevertheless tries to keep the family together. But after an argument each time trying to improve relations.
Husband naglel. And at some point, Tanya broke down and went to live with yourself.
She did everything for his own family. But all her efforts have not yielded positive results. All of this actually happened, however, managed to change the situation then.
The second story illustrates another "inflection point" in the relationship.
The couple, the wife of a modern woman with modern views on life, knows exactly what can not be "dissolved" in a man. Both spouses were well paid and challenging work. Olga did not want at this time to have children.
She has successfully climbed the "official" stairs and confident to make a career.
Olga was a very charming girl, which admired the man. Olga, as well as Tatiana married for love, but apparently having read the psychology of how to behave to always be loved, the only desirable woman, just "gone too far".
Olga was guided only by their wishes and did only what she wanted. She always told her husband about personal freedom, that she has a right to privacy. And at the slightest dissatisfaction with her husband, she went to his mother to live. Is my mother as much as she sees fit. At home, she does absolutely nothing.
Anton was very fond of his wife. I fulfill all her wishes. Sam did homework, cleaned the apartment is ready. Relatives Anton Olga saw a completely different person, Anton tried to explain that because the family did not build that he became nervous and overstrained, but he did not want to notice.
Familiar, too, are somewhere in a former life. Olga did not want to communicate with them, and they in turn do not want to chat with an ambitious woman. One Anton did not go anywhere without him all Olga seemed uninteresting and boring. Anton breathed only Olga.
He gave her flowers, arranged fireworks, constantly presents it not cheap gifts and surprises.
When she went to her sister's life, Anton is meaningless. The best gift for Anton's wife was calling, asking to take her away from her sister. It briefly became gentle and affectionate, kind words to say, and Anton was happy.
But at work he was doing were not going well. Olga apply to it the method of "swing". Good bad.
But Anton was becoming increasingly nervous about a year they have lived with such dealings. As time went on. Anton started to get used to Olga, I began to realize that wherever she was leaving, still come back to him.
The fear of losing her blunted and then completely disappeared. Later came the realization that he closed himself from society, has closed to Olga.
Dragged gray days. Groomed apartment, for which he ceased to follow, lack of food. He began to restore relations with friends.
Disassemble the works that started at work. And one day, when Olga once again went to his mother, he did not pick up. Their age is close to 30 years.
Olga was also successful and beautiful.
And she is not particularly worried breakup. Quite a few men revolved around Olga, and she believed that quickly choose a worthy mate. Anton, though he was the initiator of a breakup, while still worried.
Eventually he calmed down, got to know a wonderful girl, and now they are waiting for the child. Olga was looking for a loyal, intelligent, secured by a man, a very normal desire, but it is not considered one thing, that a man who took no will throw the first attractive woman.
And will look for a companion that will not only demand, and more will perform the duties of the spouses.
Hard to believe that a successful and secured the man wants to come tired from work in a dirty apartment, and then wait for the husband to come and walk up this delight. Olga has over 30 years of age and still have it in the search.
Both women and Tatiana, Olga and "went too far". Tanya withdrew to the family and husband, and Olga withdrew myself. Both leads to the breakdown of relationships. Of course, men are "hunters" and the woman is allowed to play up and keep them in "good shape" and should not abandon his friends and wants. You should always have your "personal space."
You can not turn into a "appendage" of her husband, otherwise you will become "read the book" nagging and uninteresting, and all will be spending the evening alone, waiting for her husband.
You are sure to find a "middle ground" in a relationship with a man. What are we to you all and wish.
Good luck!
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