All men or womanizer or ...

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All men or womanizer or ...
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Modern Mythology men in women's concept

Nowadays it has become fashionable to criticize men. All together and each separately: the individual representatives and as a "species." They say they are lazy and and lack of initiative.

And drunks, spenders, clumsy, unable to cook dinner even from semi-finished products, callous and heartless creatures that devise only one football. That is not a complete list of negative assessments.

In fairness, it should be noted this time - often the most violent and uncompromising critics favor those who are familiar with men, so to speak, purely in theory, but certainly not in practice, that is, spinsters.

Let's see what is true and what is false, department, so to speak, cutlets from flies.

Lazy.

Incredibly, this epithet is often awarded to men employed in heavy physical labor, such as working at a construction site and unloading of wagons: the drivers, truckers, miners, steelworkers ... Pro athletes have nothing to say.

Well, knowledge workers cited as lazy, as they say, God himself commanded. Although, sometimes exhausting mental work is much more than physical. Not so easy to shovel a pile of documents to pass through the mountain of information itself, and everything to only take one administrative decision, which, however, sometimes dependent on the fate of the entire corporation.

Believe me, I do not feel the slightest sympathy for cops, but is prepared to recognize - these guys plow like a curse. It is not always effective, it is true, but plowed. The most funny thing starts when criticized by those who should be modestly silent: housewives, students, pensioners.

I foresee a mountain of criticism. How? A woman should eat and cook, and wash, and clean up the apartment, and do some shopping, as well as make up and hair done. While her husband all day slacking in his fleet (in a mine, an office, a shop, at a construction site - underline). Well, not quite, as if slacking.

Most men are brought into the house paid, as is known, no employer pays for "just so", well, not in their midst selfless humanists. So the man goes home to rest, that is, to recuperate.

"So what? - Probably ask an angry housewife - really so difficult to fasten the bulb (hammer a nail, take out the trash, fix the faucet, take the child out of kindergarten)? "

Yes, ready to agree among men as among women, there are lazy creatures. But that all? No I do not believe.

Let's look at the situation a little bit from the other side. A man worked hard all day. He came home, his wife asks for help. Okay, simple household chores like washing dishes or a trip to the store, but the same fix plumbing?

First, for this is a plumber. Second, if there is such a need, then, in my opinion, it is much easier and more efficient to give a bit of money a professional, the same plumbing and float their brains such nonsense.

However, many of the fair sex think otherwise. "This man should be able to all! "And who came up with this nonsense?

The main thing in this sense is not. In our time, anyway. Maybe mothers should not pay for the sons of training in high schools? Let them go to vocational school, learn to work with a hammer, a chisel, a soldering iron, turn the nut to fix the furniture?

The guy sticks all day long, but also brings into the house a few thousand dollars a month, so there is every weekend Mota to the cottage for agricultural work. What for? Otherwise, mother-in-law will not rest. Another turns the millions of transactions, but in order to be considered a full-fledged man, it is urgent to pass a short training course at your local plumber uncle Vasya, having behind three classes and a corridor.

By the way, the women themselves, if necessary, turn to the professionals. By barbers, cosmetologists, psychologists, doctors, lawyers. The clothes usually buy ready-made, but do not sew in the light of a kerosene lamp, as did their grandparents.

So, ladies, let's get together to draw conclusions.

Lack of initiative.

Yes, there is. Many men do not know how to make decisions, and are ready to go for anyone. But so is to blame for this one, specifically taken a man?

Generally, passive men are brought up in families where the mother makes the decisions, tough and powerful woman. Its guidelines are final and not subject to appeal, as the orders of the commander in the army.

If any member of the family does not agree with this, it will be immediately punished. She then wonders. Why, why did you let daughter to sit on his head? And where he could learn how to take the initiative? Here and grow generation henpecked that step can not step without the consent of the wife (mother, mother-in - underline).

We often hear is: "Yes, I make the decisions for her husband. But if I meet a man who would take decisions for me, I would have gone after him. " Really? And if that Superman has decided that it is not necessary, for example, to buy his wife a new fur coat, winter it may well take place in artificial sheepskin coat.

Instead, buy a car or make repairs in the apartment. "This weekend did not go to the country. You can go shopping a little bit, but that was 19-00 at home, and I'll go popyu beer with friends. " - "How is it, but I ..." - "I decided. Dot". Initiating a man? Certainly not. Samodurov. Tiran. Home despot.

In real life - every family has its own model of relations. Often, the husband - impoverished intellectual, receives a penny, and his wife - a business woman, which often remains a real woman. Often, the husband-tyrant and wife - unhappy Cinderella. Anyway, so say her relatives.

Sometimes - husband successfully managed by (commanding the regiment, create literary masterpieces, making one discovery after another), and his wife - successfully manages her husband, directing his energy "in the right direction."

In general, up to you, dear lady, do you really need so notorious men's initiative?

Drunkards.


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White lie, or why he is constantly lying to me?

Almost all of us in dreams draw perfect relationship built on love and trust. However, in practice, many are faced with the fact that people are beginning to lie, crouch, cheat and do what in my dreams there was no mention.

And this sin, both men and women. However, we consider only the case when men begin to lie.

Lies, big or small, that is, in fact, does not matter, is the stumbling block that breaks relationships and kills love. But even the risk to spoil and lose a loved one does not stop the strong half of humanity to such weakness, like a lie. There are several reasons that push it.

The first reason lies in the man. He knows that the truth will disappoint you, you get angry or upset, in short, do everything that will bring joy to you or him. And therefore lies the benefit is an effective method to protect yourself from your emotions. In fact, this protective reaction. The actions are motivated by the following settings: "It is better I'll be lying, and then we will see."

The second reason, which leads to constant lies - is, oddly enough, own uncertainty, ignorance of their interests and their desires. This lie is born, in fact, because of the stupidity. The man sometimes does not know what he wants, what he would do in half an hour and that he needs. That is, you lied, he did not even suspect that he had done something wrong. From such subjects often can be heard phrases in the style: "What did I do wrong? "And to see sincere bewilderment in his eyes.

The third cause permanent conflicting information from the mouth of your man - this is his need to be "on top". He needs to feel that you are proud of them and cherish. And if it is impossible to praise you to get just so it is possible to lie and to hear at least one compliment. Oddly enough, but men love compliments and need them more than women. Recognizes this fact only women; men categorically deny it.

The fourth reason, driving men to lie to his charming lady, is the love of polygamy. Women tend to call it infidelity and betrayal, but, nevertheless, a polygamous relationship in some countries recognized norms and do not cause a negative assessment of the company.

So a man is interested in, alas, not only to you, in terms of his beloved companions included a certain person has, perhaps, not one.

Naturally, he can not tell you about it, your reaction is too obvious. Here comes one more reason to lie, and thus save yourself from your anger.

You can still endlessly mentioning different reasons lie, but, in fact, they overlap each other.

Because a single and the most faithful will be only one - the need to save themselves, at least for a while, on your attacks, quarrels, clarify the relationship and everything else.

What can we do to avoid lies and build a relationship of trust? The answer is simple and obvious.

Only love can help two loving hearts to avoid lying. If two people live this feeling, enjoy each other and cherish, you would never thought to lie.

Trust from the beginning and feel each other as if you are a single entity. Someone might say that this does not happen and it is an idealistic view of the relationship, but it is not. Just exactly what is true love, it is the best recipe against the lies in a relationship.





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