With men, whether to seek reciprocity?

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- I sought the favor of the Machine for nearly three years,

- Proudly told me my former classmate Alex. - And won. Now she is my wife ... In response, I boasted that his Sashik achieved in just 5 months. We laughed, and I sadly thought: was it worth it? ..

Love and willpower against pride

To get someone, you need to trample on their own pride. We need to forget about it and persevere to the target. Go and seek. Seek attention - versatile, indefatigable, tireless, ceaseless ...

- Barbara lived in the neighborhood, - says the 52-year-old Vadim. - As a child I did not pay attention to her. Is that, like all the girls tease and throw snowballs. But when she grew up, I fell in love. And I decided that it would be mine. However, Varya did not know, and to know at the time did not want to. She was walking with other young people, unaware of me- "youngster" (I was two years younger).

I did not give up: beat Cavaliers with friends Varina, threw her chocolates and flowers under the windows shouting about love ... Four and a half years it took me to Varya pay attention to me. And two more to persuade her to marry me. I do not regret anything. I think that is how it should happen. We have two children, and we still live together.

From friends - beloved in

When she asks "laid eyes" on the undergraduate Vovk, we could not understand why it is necessary. Vovk was hopelessly in love with Vic, who had an affair with the son of wealthy parents handsome Victor. Their dialogue was held against the background of constant sighs Vova the incomparable Victoria.

- Sveta! Why are you wasting your time on him? - Asked to "think again" girlfriend us. - Then, - she said. - Anywhere it from me to stay. Indeed, it is becoming Vovka friend who can "complain" to the vest, Sveta soon changed status. At some stage, Vova forgot about his unrequited love and made friends Svetka. Now they are found. About Vick he no longer remembers ...

TV, brandy, lemon ...

- Remember the video of the "Beasts", in which the soloist Roma running all over town looking for strawberries he liked the girls at the club? - Says Olga. - My husband and I was young there was a similar story. I was going to celebrate the New Year at the hostel. As luck would have it all girlfriend had left, and I was offered the feast to celebrate together buddy Alex. There was no choice, so I agreed.

And I take the opportunity (I guess that like me Lesha), start to act up. I demanded a TV set, the cognac and lemon (cocktail). Please note that it was 30 years ago - not only in times of real student of poverty, but also the total deficit (especially before the New Year). But Lyoshka, it should be noted, did the impossible.

I still do not know where he is on the eve of New Year's Eve got a TV and a "concert" arranged at the restaurant, which ran "get" cognac and lemon. And, maybe, said the truth - that all of this for his girlfriend. In any case, the new year I did the same cocktail of prescription gave me a girlfriend. And for the first time we drank cognac - "adults" ... And then we started dating. This year marked the 30th anniversary of married life.

And was it worth it?

By the way, I did not finish ... with Alex, I do not open up because we had a very friendly class and we all shared the sorrows and joys with each other. In fact, we met him in the 11th grade. And even now, after all surrounding the marriage and her "passion", he continued, "tamp wedges to me ..."

Statement also nothing comforting to say I can not. Two years after a passionate affair that followed my courtship, "wilted tomatoes." Love is gone, and now I can not clearly answer "what had to be killed so." Sashik I do not like ...

From love to hate

Well, if all efforts pay off, if the object of your passion with the same force falls in love with you, and you are extremely happy together. And if not? If the months and years are wasted? If he continues to treat you leniently, from conversation to conversation by repeating what you do with it is different and unlike what you value in life ...

And most importantly, seeking someone's favor, it is important to avoid the "consequences", one of which - hatred. - When a very long time for someone pursuing and step by step to lose hope for reciprocity, gradually starting to hate this man - says Julia. - For the fact that he comes to you. For the fact that he did not appreciate you, this (or this) sweet, witty, sexy, ever experienced the suffering of downtrodden love ...

Description of people "will achieve what no matter what"

There is a type of people who just let someone get. They did not stop at nothing, and when it went out and brought himself a new "victim", the "never rest on their laurels." They are constantly seeking someone, and achieving, lose interest and move to a new "object."

I do not know what to call this type of people. But the harmony and peace of mind - it's not for them. Such people consciously (or unconsciously) use certain tactics in obtaining reciprocity. Manifestations of feelings alone - open, others are more subtle ways. As a rule, they are making the object sighs persistently and systematically. From day to day. Following certain only one they understand the logic ...

I do not know whether to love these exorbitant effort ... Probably should, once people apply so much effort to achieve it. If you believe that love is always love, and the other allows himself to love, everything falls into place.

It turns out: the question for the unloving always - to allow or not to allow yourself to love?

Question for lovers is otherwise: you are lucky (allow) or luck (not allow)?

It turns out everything in love as in gambling: the card will fall ...

I was offended and turned away. Do not come to me...

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You saw how offended our children?

In 5 minutes ... I do not mess around with you! And just five minutes later together again. The truth for this time their parents can quarrel so that will not find it. Even his own child ... Stop. Let the kids fight and make peace themselves, without interference from adults.

Psychologists are increasingly confirmed the popular wisdom - every smith his happiness. And unhappiness, of course, too. Everything remains less than people who do not believe in the power of thought. And one more proverb - "Sow a character, reap destiny." Our character - that our thoughts and emotions, and feelings that we have for others.

We can get sick from his own dislike of the outside world, from the negative attitudes within the family or the community of permanent resentment that we hoard a Gobseck with persistence.

Lack of love and trust weakens the human immune system. Perhaps you yourself have noticed that in families where there is no agreement, where the atmosphere of anger, resentment, anger, children can not get out of the sores.

No less dangerous hubris. It is like a magnet, attracts negative events to person, "black band" of his life is simply endless.

Jealousy is not only spoil the relationship breaks up feeling jealous and burns from the inside. Revnivtsev constantly lurk differential pressure, coronary heart disease, hypertension, strokes and other unpleasant things.

Fears istachivayut nervous system, like beetles, borers, and then they are taken for internal organs. Particularly affected by the constant fear of the stomach.

The child, whose nedolyubili a child grows diffident man, with lots of problems with the inability to get along with others, and sexual dissatisfaction.

He does not believe, and therefore are not able to build trusting relationships with loved ones. Therefore it is very important almost from conception, a pregnant woman to love your baby, talk to him, to report that the world is waiting for him, that he is fine and good.

For the harmonious development of personality no less necessary baby love and tenderness of a father.

If parents are quarreling among themselves, the nervous system of unborn baby is exposed to stress. One young parents after the birth came the advice of his upbringing to the sage. And he told them: "You are late for 9 months."

Children who did not want to, but still gave birth, according to foreign scientists are potential smokers, drug addicts, people with unstable mentality, and sexual deviations. So if you dream of a happy healthy offspring, like the kid in advance.

Of course you are familiar phrase - "All Men Are Bast ..." and "all women are fools." So, if your head revolve such thoughts, it is worth to think seriously about how to get rid of them. After seeing the American scientists of the oncology patients, they concluded that genital cancer happens only in people who suffer hatred, contempt, a feeling of superiority in relation to the opposite sex.

In women, cancer of the uterus is back in when she lived in an atmosphere of fear and dislike. Ambitious men seeking power at any cost, often lie in wait for stomach ulcers, and if it someone just goes on corpses, the plague it is provided. This is at best.

It is believed that women get fat from the loss of interest in life, fear of being useless to anyone, from a sense of emptiness in life, lost opportunities and his own insecurity. But the fullness of the baby indicates dissatisfaction with his relationship with his parents, and even a hidden hatred for him.

You probably should not put pressure on the child, but to leave him alone with all its problems, too, not worth it. The child needs support and understanding of mothers and fathers, even if he has already turned into a hairy teen. If you are dissatisfied with their financial situation, but do not do anything to gain wealth, but only complain and whine, it is possible to hurt your feet.

So look for their path in life, not the fate of grumbling.

Life loves the grateful people and helping them in every way. Unrequited love, too, is not as safe as it seems at first glance. If you cherish your suffering, constantly chew the past, live it, the heart can not stand and a relatively young man.

If the relationship for any reason, broke, do not torture yourself, you are in no way to blame. And even if guilty, then forgive yourself. So repeat at every opportunity: "I forgive myself." It does not matter if you believe in this way of getting rid of feelings of guilt or not. It works if you are using them.

It is not necessary to store the offense and former partner, even if you think he's a scoundrel or a primary bitch. Forgive them for their own good. Forgive and let go. In such cases, the exercise successfully works fancies. Can you imagine his former partner. Mentally you minimize it and put yourself on the right hand.

Now look carefully at it and say the reduced copy (can be myself, and wish aloud): "I forgive and let go." Now you see how weak wind swoops, easily picks up your ex-partner and takes it away with your pain. You breathe deeply, straightens his shoulders, lifts his head.

You are free. Exercise it should be done with the same regularity as you wash and brush your teeth. The same method helps to get rid of anger and resentment toward former friends, bosses and neighbors. If you master this technique seriously, your life will be much easier.

The man who is constantly waging a struggle for life and death, waiting for heart attacks and strokes.

Do not fight with life. Take it so what it is. Do not you have created this world, and do not you try and alter it. Do not think that all the people want you to evil that the world is harsh and aggressive. The world is the way you draw it in your imagination.

If you constantly live in the expectation that you hit with a stick, then anyone looking at your sour look, be sure to do it, at least out of a sense of compassion for you ... Life itself embodies the reality of our inner torments and expectations.

So paint the inner world with all the colors of the rainbow, and let there as much as possible the sun always shines.

Then the outside world will turn to you the sunny side, and you will begin to carry wherever you go.





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