I love him, but he is poor relationship with a man

I love him very much

Subject prosperity of our potential choices are always discussed very hot. That's another letter was the reason for active discussion.

"He is very good, good, I love it. But he has nothing.

Even in normal rented apartment no money, living with some grannies in a miserable little room. Salary quite low, could be arranged as a security guard. Why this injustice - it is the best of all the people I know, and made small in my life.

He was very helpful, cheerful and caring. But life for some reason he was not lucky. He's too soft-hearted, can this is the reason of bad luck. After all, good and soft in our time is very quickly eaten. You must be able to defend himself, but he is not very good.

At the time, it is very much framed, leaving cars and apartments. That since he ceased to trust people. He thinks it is best to sit quietly and not risk anything. He is so attentive, so tender and affectionate. He gives me all the warmth of his soul, always feel my mood.

I love him very much. But I was very scared to associate their lives with a man who will not be able to provide family wealth, afraid to spend rest of his life in poverty. If you believe that I can achieve very much, then it turns out that it will be easy to use the results of my work.

He is absolutely not greedy, the latter is ready to pay. So after all, he had nothing to give. What should I do. Terrible, that all depends on the material things absolutely. Patients is a favorite with the position of the financial well-being. As all great human qualities?

How not to appreciate the soul, love and decency? Why they are in last place? Maybe I'm not right, but it is terrible to remain without love. So I do not want to sell for a beautiful cloth. So difficult to make a choice. "

Here is the letter. As demonstrated by mail, similar situations in life are fairly common. We have to make difficult choices. The balance is between the heart and the voice of reason, love and prosperity. And the choice has to be the ultimate compromise is absolutely impossible. How to proceed?

In such situations, advise something incredibly difficult. Everyone is responsible for their choices. Just try to express my point of view, try to analyze some points in this situation.

1.Absolute undeniable fact that the financial problems in our lives, there are always. And if, in love, we are willing to be nice in a tent, the family life of modern man requires stronger walls than the wall of the hut. In hunger and cold for a long time to reach lovers will not succeed.

2. I can not believe that a man who loves you, will lie on the couch when you plow for two. He can not admit that you were wrong. Different people - different approaches to the concept of well-being. And if you and your loved ones, these criteria differ greatly, if he is willing to do a crust of bread, and you can not imagine life without a glass of fresh juice for breakfast, it is unlikely that your love survive in such controversial circumstances. And it will inevitably lead to separation. It should not be this rough commercialism, it's simple and natural desire of any modern man.

3. We sometimes say one thing and do quite another. After all, talking about love is easier than to prove the love affair. Any action requires effort and compliments and nice words to say very easily. Do not believe him, believe only deeds that makes your favorite for your happy and comfortable future.

4. It is not always a wealth - a synonym for heartlessness. And not always a companion of poverty are wonderful human qualities. Very often poor people tormented by jealousy and hatred of those who are richer. They are trying to justify their inability and unwillingness to do something. Nowadays, anyone can succeed, if it starts to systematically and purposefully move towards the goal.

5. It is dangerous to trust the stories of wrongful deeds business partners, relatives of the deception, bad luck and lack of good jobs. It's just an excuse of a man who does not want to make decisions that do not want to make any effort. Every loser does not want to recognize that others have achieved success only through hard work and diligence.

6. Do not reject a person because now his life is not too successful band. Give him a chance. Support it help to act. Let your help in his life come luck, it will be laid the foundation of your co-prosperity.

Do not be ashamed that you are worried about the material side of the hereafter. Do you care about your children, about their health and well-being. Painted hearth can not warm anyone, the story of a happy life is unlikely to be satisfied. Talk with your loved about it!

Tell him that you appreciate and love him, that you are sure that he will be able to achieve success in life. Help him to make the first steps to support it. Do not regret it, and do not agree with passive lying on the couch. Love will help you change your life for the better.

Only together you can overcome all the difficulties to get around all the obstacles. However, to create a much nicer house. And if you'll just have to try, no sweet words and gentle caresses do not compensate for spiritual discomfort. No need to hold on to a man who does not want to do anything for you. You are afraid to leave him, because he had such a hard life, it all hurt. You can not even say that you do not like, because it can be so hurt ...

Remember that if a person does not do anything to change your life, it means that everything in this life happy. And if he is working day after three, just lying around all the rest of the time on the couch and say something here about. This man is not worthy of anyone's love.

If a man does not want to earn money for the family, it is not necessary to create a family with such a person. From him we must run faster until it died. After all, count on it when you are a child, you just can not. And in general - he can just run away, afraid of difficulties, because no efforts are unaccustomed to it.

As long as you are not tied the knot - will descend to earth and think about how you will live together with this man. Do you feel a willingness to challenge poverty and hunger.

A good man, this is great. But you and your child will need a normal food, all were healthy. It needs to be comfortable, beautiful clothes, comfortable home. Would you agree to change all the fine words about love? The words are short-lived, and the walls of the house are for decades. Think you do not turn your love into hatred against the backdrop of such a miserable life.

If you make a choice, is well aware of its consequences. Live a little civil marriage, look, you change the behavior of your men, whether there will be responsible for you and your well-being.

If you see the actions that help him keep. If no change is made, it is best to leave and not to spoil his life!

In marriage it is necessary to go to be a man of both solid stone wall!

Raptors with expressive eyes, the types of men

How well were the ladies in the eighteenth century, all of them have decided to mama: To build eyes, and with whom to be strict, let someone handle to kiss and who to give on ... cheeky face fan. And then all the "catchers" inexperienced ladies fit into a strict classification.

Among them were walking in, ladies' man, mouse colt, bully boys and worthy in every respect! Times change and modern mothers try not to get into the personal life of adult daughters, holding them in independent navigation for "sea" life, literally teeming with predators expressive eyes!

Of course, not all men is perceived as potentially dangerous, and hide your precious heart with arrows of Cupid, but still need to learn how to determine which of them is a real threat.

The types of men: "Mama's Boy"

Let's start with the weakest of all the weak-willed and which has a high level of claims and the "whole car" egocentrism. This - "Mama's Boy". Ever since Natasha this species has mutated and now, instead of a timid and unable to act boys, we have something else.

In appearance, he is very attentive and courteous, Mama schooled him right, and he knows how to court a woman. He gives flowers, readily comes to family dinners, captivates your mother, and she was mentally sees his son in law.

But time is running out and he does not "sharp" movements, using the freedom of a single man, not vzvalivaya no responsibility, and feels great, living in two houses - yours and his mother.

The fact is that since childhood he used to listen to the views of his mum, and she believes he has matured to create a family, and will not be considered as another twenty years.

So make no mistake, these twenty years, it will give women the illusion of happiness, not daring to break the umbilical cord. This is the most dangerous type because the relationship with him last for years, denying a woman the chance to meet others and belief in yourself.

Type of Men: "Heartbreaker"

Imagine a party full of strangers. Do you miss, and here he comes, smart metrosexual, with burning eyes. It offers you a cocktail, it is unobtrusive, fun, jokes, but not rude, looks at you like an exclusive thing with interest and clearly appraising - but not provocatively.

At some point you start to feel the ground slipping from under his feet. ... And the reason for it not to drink martinis, and he - well-smelling, shiny and surprisingly close. ... You will not find a single woman who would have resisted - and you do not exception.

Roman swallow your head and plunge into the abyss of a real passion, a mad sex, tears, despair, hope and disappointment. Well, well, but the feelings were strong - in fact on your way to meet "Heartbreaker."

For a man, this type of woman is a prey, he really enjoys it much, does everything to bind her to him and feel the power of her love, then quickly cools and drops. ...

But no, do not throw leaves to wait for his return, occasionally tinkling and running on tea ... to make sure she is waiting. But sooner or later it will disappear from the horizon, leaving a void in the soul and bitterness, and that the worst thing, the reluctance to look for love again.

The types of men: "The Mole"

Men of this type are in each team. They are very fond of women's society, a lot of female friends have women that it doted. He's just a cutie! And the anecdote to describe the place, and a handle to kiss, and take the money until payday, and most importantly - always listen and comfort.

Everything wonder - why he has not yet married, and complain - he always gets the bitch who only do what they are hunting for his treshka in the city center, not noticing his qualities.

And so it continues as long as any single co-worker does not fall in love with him in the head. They will meet, it is surrounded by her ostentatious care and attention, but once it is on its territory, everything changed.

And then it turns out that he is a dictator who does not suffer when he perechat, it will teach the mind to reason, pry into the saucepan, check how much and what to put, will be carefully monitored washing process and dosing proper amount of powder. ...

In general, it turns out that the joint life with him - just unbearable. But the worst - that after a few weeks of living together, he will not fail to let his fists - as the main argument. But so as not to leave traces, because he is called - "The Mole" ...

Ladies, we all have the right and happiness and for errors, but remember that we are too fragile, too vulnerable, to allow yourself to use and break our hearts.

You love yourself and value - only then you will be pulled to the real men who want to protect you and warm your heart warm your soul!