Life after love: which flew feelings?

In the heat of the first days of love, the worst thing - the idea that everything is always naturally ends ... No, not that!

It can not end our wonderful passion, our eternal love! We will overcome the difficulties together, we will turn the fragile sprout tender feelings in the mighty baobab family life! ..

We look for examples of the eternal memory of feelings, remember Penelope, roemsya in the biographies of famous pairs of long-lived. We find evidence, and triumphantly looking at the skeptics say, and so will we! It's about us saying half!

And it's not just words, and not just a dream: we are together, yet love each other ... And then, maybe soon, maybe by the year knocking consciousness little thought: is there life out there ... on the other , the dark side? Where there is no my love, could be on the light?

Love goes unnoticed ... Silently, on tiptoe, on soft paws, secretly as a thief. No wonder, because she carries undeniable value - the fullness of happiness, instead of slipping memories.

We dream to be together always, always, until the end of days, until death do us part! And then in a frenzy divide refrigerator, visit the children on Sunday, I have almost clean and the phone memory ... girlfriend, looked at photos, calmly replied: "This? And, I met with him two or three years ago. "

Someone goes to the door and looks the favorite, with bated breath, the windows - a sudden flash of her shadow? Someone tore pictures and destroys all the things that remind of past feelings ... Someone indifferent vzdernet eyebrows and go ahead and forget a couple of months of the past. Someone to forget, make tremendous efforts ...

Love is gone, what is left?

Olya:

"We broke up, and all ... no talking, no meetings. What for? Soul poison? Irritating? What's the point of this? Time can be spent more effectively ... "complete break - a very common scenario. Until recently, the closest people apart, so as not to feel each other ever. It's frightening ... And it's very sad.

It turns out that the relationship was a mistake, and so bitter and painful, and that remember them do not want to? Not a breath of gratitude, no pity, no compassion, no sweet tremor, nothing? Or it was all but lost? Mired in everyday life, it broke about incontinence, sank under the blows of shameless lies and outright rudeness ... It was love or not? There was, of course.

Just ... she died a long, painful, before his death turned into a vicious monster that his poison poisoned a spring around the world. Oddly enough, but completely and permanently sever relations prefer to couples who have gone through a lot together. Why is that?

That's because a lot of ... spoken words and undercurrents, torn and sewn back plans, trampled and washed hopes. Not appreciated not cherished - what now? Do not Cry? And do not cry ... It turns out, a clean break - a sign that all is not fully understood? Or, on the contrary, because it is clear that has nothing to figure out.

Maria:

"Just so it was that I fell in love with the other ... That's all. He? Perhaps even I loved ... for a while. And then it is gone. After all, love is inherently finite. " Feelings do not always leave a few at a time. It may be (and very often the case) that one partner comes to polustanochke, and the other - for years the mourners once common sense.

The bitterness of such a state it is difficult to describe. And the Council is not here and can not be. What can I say: forget Razlyubi? How? So it just - gradually, day after day, to kill a feeling? It's not unrequited love, it's much worse - like a man who has recently reciprocated ...

And then - again! and all ... I do not like more, and you live as you wish! And, if you think about what right I have to condemn a man who has left for a new love? Does he have to stay beside unnecessary partner? And what can he do - comfort? as? "I do not love you, but you do not worry, and you will take?"

Or lie - peering into the pupil of the best ... you know, in this particular way, when the eyes look, but do not see? Smile, but sober capture every unloved black dot on the face, hairs in the wrong place, annoying wrinkle ... with every clumsy sob, to hate and despise the proximity once loved, because he is so weak that it can not be left alone?

Alexey:

"We decided to break up, because they realized that no longer love each other ... Of course, it's hard, but you need to live on. I got married some time later, Katie is also a permanent relationship. Yes, and we had - great friends. " It's amazing, I can not believe that it happens ... How can you be friends with the former or the former?

Well, if it was a flower-shape or kissing teenage relationships. And if there were serious, adult passion - with all the pros and cons? After all, as in the heat of frustration I want to tell a dirty tricks, to make a painful! How can one then look in the eye? And even if they do not want to kill this native alien - still insoluble precipitate ...

You say there was no disappointment? Let not believe it! Even if it is a peaceful separation disappointment there. It simply can not be ... some time trample down together. Best memories, reflections and incomprehensibility. Reticence - because they are in all, even the most honest, partnerships, relationships. But it with one hand. And, if you look at the other, a retrospective change ...

Who knows me better than my ex? The man with whom I slept in the same bed, eat at the same table ... We kept her underwear in a drawer! He bought me a napkin! I know how and what he likes! He cried when he died White Bim and still keep my notes from the hospital! This man knows almost all of my intimate secrets, and I studied his weaknesses and enthusiasm.

We stopped loving each other as sexual partners, as husband and wife. But it's not all that can be in life! I appreciate his sincerity, crystal honesty in our relationship, I respect his passion and envy naivety ...

He, too, sees something in me. We both understand ... Then, when they host the hysterical temperament. Relationships built on trust, gradually move into the next phase. After living together can be friends ... I guess?

Irina:

"I made a nonsense. When he said: "Let's be friends" ... I took it too literally. I thought, if I'm his friend, I can restore our relationship ... He understands that he can not without me. " The basis of any friendship - mutual understanding, trust and support. The basis of such a pseudo-friendship - manipulation.

I impress upon you that you can not without me ... you obey, you will do as I want ... You'll be mine, because I need to be with you. By and large, I want to deceive you. I do not want not! the success of my lies just depends on the integrity of my existence ... This is - the logic of parasitic organisms.

And there is no justification for this, no passion (and even more, concern about their own well-being) does not explain the desire to eat someone else's life.

Love leaves. Of course, not always, in all cases, one hundred percent. But most of all the leaves. What remains after that? After it is life.

With all the attendant hopes and disappointments, with faith and hatred, excruciating pain and exquisite pleasure. And with the next love ... Do not believe me? It will just wait.

Author: Natalia Rudenko

Sometimes cute curse - just amuse

Theory scandal

Joint life ... hard-hard-sweet and sweet. How to dream? Here, I'll live with the dear little man's heart ... our souls merge in ecstasy, our bodies - in orgasm.

We will be happy forever, inhale one breath will complement the other ...

It will be a paradise on earth, we will hand in hand to fall asleep and wake up with the first rays of the sun to indulge passion ... And suddenly! like crystal of cement - a quarrel, squabble, a scandal. It infuriates your diet, you enrage his socks. Do you hate the news and programs about the villains, he can not stand melodrama and cooking shows.

All strains: and life, and sex (thank God, though not always ...), and relatives, and a bad mood, and money, and ... and begins a long debriefing, showdown, recriminations and demands. It is unpleasant, but ... naturally. Quarrels - an integral part of the common life, especially at its initial stage. And what else?

It is adults with established habits and attitudes, people now share a living space, a bed, money and time. They have to feel each other, and get used to grind, to analyze and to understand. It is necessary to reveal the contradictions and differences, to consider them under a magnifying glass ... and learn to live with them. Unsubscribe from something his take someone else's ...

And in any way differently, just like that. Each of the two will have to sacrifice much - this can not be avoided. Sometimes we have to give up things so loved that life without them seems to be fresh ... But this is only the beginning. Gradually comes to realize that in a new, different life and a new attachment, and the needs of others, and feelings already far more complicated ...

A desire to not only take but give. Orient themselves in space properly placed accents. Ask yourself what is more important: passion for soap operas or mood lover? Thirteenth news release or a cozy tea break at the end of the day the nerve?

Appreciate the importance of a peaceful and secure future in comparison with the warm, almost "podshkurnoy" habit.

What is more important: steadfast ideology or family? Freedom and ease of life and responsibilities and compromises? And looking into the future: most granitopodobnye principles tend to vary. What we would never have made twenty, thirty, we seem childish, but at forty - are only half-erased memories ...

Image vamp bitch is nothing to make a lonely woman of fifty, and the status of the sex stars and first bachelor neighborhood is good until the second heart attack. Ability to negotiate - a sign of maturity of mind. And the fact that negotiations sometimes occur in an explosive atmosphere, in a raised voice and taut nerves ...

Well, the cost of temperament, gentlemen. Of course, it happens not always. What if one of the two or to negotiate or does not want to sacrifice anything? Living like this specimen of human civilization, and believes that its form of existence - truly faithful. He is right in everything, and everyone who has with him, must adjust to it, learn it the perfect lifestyle ...

It remains two ways: not to live with such a person ... or to live, but the way he wants it. And as long as he wants. Such relationships are doomed to fail, now or thirty years. A man who does not go forward in difficult family vicissitudes, is not looking for a compromise - no need anybody but myself.

Lena:

"How do I ... loved him to distraction. When we got married, I was happier, perhaps, in all the land there was no one ... I was ready to do everything to make him happy. Indeed, everything. And many do ... First one endured, and then from the other refused. Then all want stopped. If only favorite was next, as long as it was good ... We never argued, never. And why would? I did everything he wanted. "

Surprisingly? Not at all. A huge number of couples live and one step on the throat of his own song, other uses strangled partner. Why is this happening? If a "user" all clear how the "victim"? And she had, in fact, is not such a victim. It is open to all with a partner because he wants to, he was there - and the end. Always, at any time of the day or night, in any circumstances ...

Loves? Hardly. It's more like an addiction - drugs are not the most terrible, emotional dependence on them where terrible. And by the way, do not believe, if someone (with a diploma, or without the authority of both) would argue that you can do without quarrels, as a way to clarify the relationship. Like, Draw the line sphere of influence, select the data area, only discuss common points, leave God - gods, Caesar, respectively, privacy. A very good method is suitable. For the ethics of dialogue neighbors in the stairwell.

Marina:

"We got married in order not to be sent for distribution. I especially did not want to get married, and my husband somehow not excitement kindled ... By and large, I had a job, money, opportunities, he - too. Family life has turned a quiet and peaceful - no scandal. No, but if they both spit on each other, to find out what else? "When people do not really care when they have different path and there is no intersection ...

Why are they quarrel? Who annoying stranger? It has a life of excitement and trembling, thoughts and hopes - from the outside ... all interesting, difficult and addictive. Do I need a stranger, who next? Why nasharivat common ground in the dark, if not the main motivation, if there is no love and no desire to look for her? When the last time you were quarreling? No, not with the boss at work, not with their parents and do not chat, but with real families and your loved one? You do not quarrel? Hmm, strange ...

Svetlana:

"I thought I met my soul mate. He was like me in everything, even superficially resembled something ... I did not have to explain anything - it seemed he understood at a glance. We had such a union of souls, I just could not believe it. In principle, not in vain. The same people do not exist - all different, within a month of marriage is finally cleared. We quarreled on such trifles ... And then somehow got used. No, we are now periodically porugivat, as without it? We are all humans, everyone has their own troubles, it is necessary to find out them. "

Quarrel - catalyst relations.

If they grow, develop - people change, circumstances - there is a need to clarify relations and to review the arrangements. A friction causes the smoke at first, then a spark, then the fire ... And the fire is not always a tragedy. Yes, swept over the forest, it will destroy everything in its path. But in place of the old, the sick trees grow young and strong. Scars remain something. But that's why we do not the trees, and people.

They say that in a couple of one - selfish, the other - wise ... I'm not sure. I think a couple held - a conscious union of two wise selfish. Each of them took the other with all the giblets (it took and did not take on education) and left him to be selfish. Relationship - School life for your partner, and, above all, for you.

Every situation in life do you consider for its part, is you're in it you participate, you draw lessons from it and leave severed limbs on the battlefield. But the favorite too - living, thinking, fighting - in his universe.

Combining their armies, do not point the weapons against each other.

Do not turn the relationship into a swear box, and Life - in bytovuhu. When he reached the borders, stop, look and think again ... because each time any one of us at the fork and no advisor to display the true path ...

Author: Natalia Rudenko